To be bitter about DH buying a new phone?

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DH likes cooking. He gets all his recipes from either cooking programs or the internet.

Last night he was looking for a recipe on his phone when he suddenly screamed “fuck off” and threw his phone at the wall. Obviously i assumed he’d received a bad text but no turns out he was annoyed by a recipe.

Anyway long story short an hour later he was looking up deals for a new iPhone. He likes to have the latest iPhone and has since they came out. We Agreed to stick with our current phones for a while (iPhone x I believe) so I’m sure he’s done this on purpose to get a new phone. I told him I was annoyed and think he’s being a brat, he says I’m being controlling. AIBU to think chucking a phone at a wall because a recipe is written in a way you don’t like is bloody ridiculous?

Most people wouldn't tell the company they threw it... they would say they dropped it

My phone insurance didn't pay out or replace when my phone slid off the garden chair and shattered the screen as they said I hadn't taken enough care to make sure it was safe.

Is it his money that will pay for it? And he’ll still be able to put the same money towards house costs (bills & savings) then if so, it’s up to him.
Silly to smash his phone to get a new one as he could have sold it on then upgraded but this is why happens when you can’t control your temper

LTB he sounds like a dick.

He sounds like a twat.

I wouldn't be bitter about him buying a new phone , I'd be far too distracted with the realisation I was married to a dick

Silly to smash his phone to get a new one as he could have sold it on then upgraded but this is why happens when you can’t control your temper

^^ This. A second hand iPhone x is worth hundreds of pounds in good condition. Depending on the damage it still might be worth a small amount as it can be repaired but still. He sounds like a teenager who 'lose' their coats and shoes in the hope that they'll be replaced by the fashionable versions all their friends have.

I imagine you BOTH agreed to keep your current phones because of costs etc..
But he is always keen on always having the latest iPhone.
I can see why you are saying he did it on purpose but needed to hide that.

But what is really disturbing is the fact fact you thought he couod we’ll behave like this. This would never have crossed my mind about my DH. Not the damaging a perfectly working items ‘just because’. Nit the fact he would conceal that under something done in anger.
The comments about ‘but is it his money’ is not here nor there. The issue is the lying/hidding if he did do that on purpose. Or his total lack of control if he hasn’t.

I’d be worried about his temper.

This really isn't normal.

What a dick. Horrid behaviour. What are your family finances like? It’s likely there are other things that take priority. Maybe Xmas might be good and his phone can be his Xmas gift

Maybe he wanted a new phone, but because he’s agreed with you not to get one, he asked the Universe. The Universe sent him the bad recipe? 🤷🏻‍♀️ (TAAT!)

Seriously - I just wouldn’t want to be around someone that aggressive.

I think if I’d just been to the shops in the pissing rain, no car, got all the ingredients, had reached a time critical point of mixing and (not in the ingredients list) in the instructions the recipe said I needed Thing, which was absolutely critical and couldn’t be substituted and was missing from the list... (I’m thinking liquid glycerin for a mirror cake, something like that) then I might slam my phone down harder than I intended. 🤔

If this is normal behaviour for him it’s really not ok.

A) I wouldn't stay married to someone who always 'insisted on having the latest iPhone'.
B) I wouldn't stay married to someone who threw things at the wall (especially expensive tech)
C) I wouldn't stay married to someone who 'lost his temper with a RECIPE (I bet he found he'd left something out or done stuff in the wrong order because he didn't read the whole thing first. Trouble with reading recipes on a small screen).

Because all of the above indicate that he is about twelve and being married to a twelve year old is illegal.

He’s an idiot for doing that. I could not respect my dh if he did that. He can’t be without a phone: is it beyond repair?

Why had you both agreed that you’d stick with your current phones?
I think it’s an odd dynamic that you say you agreed it but actually it doesn’t sound like you did as rhen your DH wouldn’t have done something like that to justify getting one. I do agree it’s a very childish way to approach it though; if my DH threw his phone in anger I’d think something awful had happened.

Regardless of the rest, I wouldn't stay with someone who had such poor anger management.

This isn't really about the phone, is it, OP?

10/10 OP

Obviously i assumed he’d received a bad text but no turns out he was annoyed by a recipe

You cant leave us hanging like that!!! What recipe? What was so infuriating about it? More info needed!

That is so NOT normal behaviour.

I sincerely hope this 'child' does not drive if he cannot control his violent temper tantrums.

He sounds mental. Do you actually get much from this relationship? I couldn’t be with someone who can’t control there basic emotions, very worrying behaviour.

Obviously i assumed he’d received a bad text but no turns out he was annoyed by a recipe.

Obviously? I've never known anyone to throw a phone over a "bad text." And how annoying could a recipe possibly be. 🚩

What was the recipe?