Argument over hair extensions

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Hello.
Been with boyfriend for a year and a half. Both are 26.

I bought some new hair extensions - I went for the cheaper option to see how I like them so they're synthetic but I absolutely love them and my parents and sisters have complimented me. They were originally a bit iffy about extensions but they really like them.

Backstory: i used to have long brunette hair past my boobs. However last year I started bleaching it myself. Every few months, I would keep bleaching and , as you can probably imagine, my hair began to get brittle and break off.

This means I had to cut it. But stupid me, kept bleaching it. So I had to cut it again to collar bone. My mum then commented on how burnt my hair was and how dry and when she smelt it, she could just smell a burnt smell.

I chopped it off to just above shoulders. I am quite good at cutting my own hair but clearly not at bleaching it.
I dyed it back brown.
Anyway, I wasn't used to seeing myself with shorter hair so I would just wear it in a bun non stop for the past month. 2 days ago, I noticed how thin it had got compared to my old, thick long wavy hair.

I got extensions and I feel so much happier and like myself. I've always had an opinion that as long as i'm happy with it then I don't care if other people think "urgh extensions".
These are halo extensions so theyre basically a headband kind of style so not damaging to the hair.

Anyway, showed boyfriend today and it was like I committed the worst crime.
I had been thinking about getting extensions for a while and he was against saying I should just let my hair grow. My opinion is I can have the best of both with halo hair extensions. It can grow whilst I cover up the thinness.

I have cut them so they're just above my boobs giving them a more natural look.

However, boyfriend thinks extensions are tatty and that I now look like a "typical girl". We had an argument as I said it makes me feel better and he said he doesn't get it because it's fake and not my real hair so really i'm lying.

I feel stupid now. I really like these extensions and feel 10000x prettier with my hair long.
I dont want to come across as tatty but I genuinely think they look nice :(

Red flag !!!

He sounds controlling OP

He’s being a twat. It’s your body and your hair. He’s entitled to express a preference, which he has done, but he did so in a rude way which is shitty. And now that he’s had his say he has to shut up and accept that it’s not his business.

"Typical girl"? So presumably he thinks that's a bad thing?

Controlling and misogynistic. 26, you say? No kids? Bye bye.

He's being a twat. None of his business.

I loathe extensions btw - but it's nobody's business but yours.

Are they going on his head? No! So he doesn’t get to say!

It's not up to him what you do with your hair but did you ask his opinion and he just gave it?
Personally I think synthetic extensions probably look very fake.
As an aside, stop dying your hair yourself!

Keep the extensions, ditch him!

Weird, I have worn extensions on/off over the past several years and none of my partners cared; let alone put me down over it. My hair was slightly shorter/finer than I liked, so there wasn’t such a major difference with/without them, but my point still stands.

Did he think you were just a typical girl when he knew you with long hair then? It’s just such a weird hill to die on

It's controlling of him so is a red fag. It seems as if he doesn't want you to have a certain look. Is it because it's too glam or too trash or too whatever?! It doesn't really matter why he doesn't like the extensions that much but I do wonder if he thinks you'll be more attractive to men with them? So double red flag then

Only shit hair extensions are trashy. Lots of people wear them, you just can’t tell because the quality is better than you’re expecting when you think of extensions.

This is them,
Sorry didnt want to show face

Do not let him dictate how you dress or present yourself. Do not let him make you feel bad for doing anything for/to yourself. Do not allow him to think he can control your appearance and behaviour.

These are worrying signs.

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I think he’s just jealous that other men might find you attractive with longer hair or some bs long these lines

Lying? Bizarre comment. Does he say the same about make up, high heels, hair dye? It's just changing your appearance, it's not lying. I'd be more concerned about this over the top take on a bit of girly enhancement. It doesn't bode well for the future tbh.

He sounds very superficial, and the ‘typical girl’ as a bad thing is a bit dodgy - always be wary of men who pull the ‘You’re not like the other girls’ routine.

This is like when men say you look better with no makeup. Sometimes it's a compliment but if they go on about it, it's suspect. Take bugger all notice. Do your hair how you like and never let a man turn you into a dowdy, 'pick me chick' so you look cheaper and low maintenance to him. You don't want to be a girl he doesn’t have to take to a nice restaurant. You want to look your best. He says that so he can save money on dates and less chance of another man coming after you.

Sounds like a twat to me. My partner just gave me £400 to buy myself some hair to get fitted.. whatever makes me happy is his opinion.

Ok you know the answer here op. You look better with them so he’s worried other blokes will fancy you, so he’s trying to put you down and make you not wear them

Massive red flag, wear them, and they look very natural, once you go down the route of letting him control you like this you’ll shortly be donning other styles he deems unattractive to men.

Personally, if I was you I'd turn up next time with a 20 inch weave to piss him off 😂.

You choose the way you want to look.
If he dictates to you show him the door.

This has got to be the most pathetic thread I’ve read.
Arguing over fake hair? Really?

What a weird reaction from him. I'd expect a partner to maybe have a preference, as I have them myself but actually causing arguments over the way someone else chooses to alter their appearance? So odd.

Gotta say, very brave of you to be bleaching and cutting it yourself. You might be pleasantly surprised if you decide to have it done professionally in future.

@chubbyhotchoc hahaha they were down to my bum before I cut them so he didn't even see the full force of them 🤣

Thanks everybody, I feel good and like my old self. I am going to continue wearing them as I feel happier and cant stop looking in the mirror at them (swear I dont love myself, quite the opposite hahah)