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To want my neighbour to stop parking in my spot

423 replies

KangarooAtTheZoo · 25/08/2020 14:46

I have an allocated parking spot in a cul de sac. It's on the deeds to the house and we have the freehold so we own the parking spot. We don't own a car but we use the spot for visitors alot. A neighbour has started parking in our spot every day even though they have 2 spots and there are communal spots (his household have at least 3 cars I think). It started in the lockdown as we had no guests. I have left notes on the car and asked them not to park in our spot because our guests can't use it and it's blocking access for me to get my pram out when there is a car parked there (there is narrow paths and bushes either side). When I have confronted him he says just ask him to move his car when you have guests. But the last two times we had guests he didn't answer the door so my guests couldn't park there. And why should I be inconvienced by him parking on our property.
What options are left now? I assume police and council can't do anything? There is a property management company that manages the communal area because some people own half the property and pay half rent to this company but I assume because we own the freehold they can't do anything? Can I put a parking bollard on my spot? I'm also worried if it goes on for to long they can claim rights to the parking spot. Thanks for any advice

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Nikori · 01/09/2020 11:05

Gosh, I'd have been straight down to B&Q and bought a bollard and installed it right against his back bumper by now.

PerveenMistry · 01/09/2020 11:46

This is infuriating.

Can you have the vehicle towed away by a private company? CF will have to pay the towing charges in order to redeem his car.

The suggestion to go over at 6am is good. Do they work?

Agree to the bollard or perhaps an outdoor table & chairs in the spot?

KaptainKaveman · 01/09/2020 14:11

Have you been over there OP?

LadyLairdArgyll · 01/09/2020 14:25

This neighbour has literally taken over OP's parking space and doesn't give a shit, I'd happily contribute to a car towing firm to move his ass OP.

MusicWithRocksIn1t · 01/09/2020 14:32

I love the idea of letting DC play rock throwing. Not sure where you would stand legally with that though

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 01/09/2020 14:49

I like the idea of installing heavy planters on your spot once he's fucked off out of it. Concrete types, planted with really prickly stuff. Mahonia's a good one, or berberis types - very pretty flowers and berries, with pretty coloured leaves and fuck-off spiky bits.

That doesn't really help when they have visitors needing to park in the space, though. That would only really be spiting and making a lot of work for themselves. That's the idea of the bollard: if the space were never needed to park a car in, they could just straight build a wall at the entrance to it to completely block it off and use it as a small enclosed 'yard'.

Weebitawks · 01/09/2020 14:53

Keep knocking and the door and tell him to move his car as you're having a bollard installed soon. Make it clear that he can't park there again and he take the piss.

Kick your husband. Hard.

Jux · 01/09/2020 15:35

If you're still not getting anywhere put a note through the door telling him to move the car by midnight tonight or you will take further steps.

What those further steps would be can remain unspecified, but you could report to police (trespass), Council, Management Co, or just get a solicitor's letter warning of legal procedures.

You don't need him to acknowledge anything, just put the letter through the door and TELL him don't ask him. Don't apologise, don't explain. Just TELL him that he MUST move his car.

Then take photos. See a solicitor.

Decentsalnotime · 01/09/2020 16:50

‘Unspecified further steps’

I don’t think he exactly going to be quaking in his boots!

comingintomyown · 01/09/2020 17:32

Accept he’s going to park there until you have installed the bollard. I wouldn’t invite any further confrontation with any of these mostly dubious suggestions when you presumably will have it installed any day now.

Littlemissdaredevil · 01/09/2020 20:10

@KangarooAtTheZoo is the CF car still there?

GhostCurry · 01/09/2020 20:22

Your husband is... well, words fail me! I would be livid.

I would also make him go over and have The Chat. And finally, I would ask your other neighbors to park their car half over your spot, so you can at least get your pram out, and stop CF from parking there. Cheeky prick.

rainbowlou · 01/09/2020 20:42

You have my sympathy op, I once lived in an estate where we all had our 2 allocated space but one of mine was outside the neighbour opposite.
She just didn’t get it that it wasn’t a bonus extra space for her and her visitors!
I’d be tempted to put up an outdoor storage unit in your space to keep the buggy etc in.

Bargebill19 · 01/09/2020 20:52

Agree with everyone else. Just put the bollard in. Then go on holiday.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 01/09/2020 21:59

What those further steps would be can remain unspecified, but you could report to police (trespass)

Trespass is a civil offence - the police won't be interested.

But I would go out under cover of darkness and stick notices saying "Move your car" all over it using vaseline. And on the front windows of the house too, And the front door.

Add a few saying "And answer your doorbell"

Then push a potato up the exhaust pipe.

And wee in a bowl and pour it into that grill on the top of the engine. It will stick when the engine warms up. Better still, get your DH to do it - male wee (aka p*ss) smells MUCH worse.

BenoneBeauty · 01/09/2020 22:14

Agree with everyone else Op, install the bollard whilst his car is parked so that he has to ask you to move it.

I'd also be extremely angry with your DH - he should be worried about keeping you happy, not a cheeky neighbour.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 01/09/2020 22:56

Accept he’s going to park there until you have installed the bollard.

Sadly, some people don't seem to be able to act like civilised humans - they're effectively no different from the birds who will eat your planted seeds unless you put strong nets down over them, or mice who will get into your shed unless you seal up all of the cracks and knot holes. It's pathetic.

CandyLeBonBon · 01/09/2020 23:31

Op hasn't been back. Safe to assume that normal life has been resumed

Queenoftheashes · 02/09/2020 07:57

Or she’s been injured in brawl with neighbour

MadeForThis · 02/09/2020 08:23

I would knock on the door every hour until he answered.

LakieLady · 02/09/2020 08:29

I'm over-invested in this. I want to know if the CFN moved his car, and were words had, has a bollard been installed and did the OP get her walkover of a husband to piss in a bowl and pour it into the scuttle on the CFN's bonnet!

I hope no-one in my road never seriously pisses me off, as I will feel compelled to try out that revenge. Grin

SilverOtter · 02/09/2020 12:05

Oh I reeeeally want to know what's happened with CF!!

LioneIRichTea · 02/09/2020 12:07

I too am over invested! I wish I lived by OP so I could just park on the CF’s drive or block him in Grin

SquirtleSquad · 02/09/2020 14:28

Please update op Grin

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KangarooAtTheZoo · 03/09/2020 09:23

Sorry didn't update, been ill with a cold the past few days. He moved his car on Tuesday (to go to work I think). I moved the bins back. Then the bin men came later and he put my bins in the same place as well as some of the neighbours. Which normally doesn't happen. Wonder if bin man saw note and thought cheeky git let's see him move 8 bins. Ordered a bollard and will get my dad to help install when my cold has gone.

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