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To want my neighbour to stop parking in my spot

423 replies

KangarooAtTheZoo · 25/08/2020 14:46

I have an allocated parking spot in a cul de sac. It's on the deeds to the house and we have the freehold so we own the parking spot. We don't own a car but we use the spot for visitors alot. A neighbour has started parking in our spot every day even though they have 2 spots and there are communal spots (his household have at least 3 cars I think). It started in the lockdown as we had no guests. I have left notes on the car and asked them not to park in our spot because our guests can't use it and it's blocking access for me to get my pram out when there is a car parked there (there is narrow paths and bushes either side). When I have confronted him he says just ask him to move his car when you have guests. But the last two times we had guests he didn't answer the door so my guests couldn't park there. And why should I be inconvienced by him parking on our property.
What options are left now? I assume police and council can't do anything? There is a property management company that manages the communal area because some people own half the property and pay half rent to this company but I assume because we own the freehold they can't do anything? Can I put a parking bollard on my spot? I'm also worried if it goes on for to long they can claim rights to the parking spot. Thanks for any advice

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WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 30/08/2020 15:43

How would the law stand if you gouged a huge scratch in the side of his car when struggling to get the pram out - either accidentally or.... other? I've often wondered this when people park up on pavements - not just two wheels on a very wide one, but leaving you barely any room to get by. If a parent with a pram or a wheelchair user accidentally damaged an arrogantly parked car whilst proceeding normally along a (usually) perfectly adequate pavement, would the driver have any recourse? Could the law really rule - in all seriousness - that a disabled person (not even necessarily over 18) is expected to go out into a road and contend with the traffic in order to protect the cosmetic appearance of the vehicle that is deliberately obstructing their pavement?

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 30/08/2020 15:46

In MN language, you don't (just) have a neighbour problem - you (also) have a DH problem. Does he not realise how irritating and inconvenient this has been for you? Does he never take the pram out? Are none of your visitors his family or friends?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 30/08/2020 15:46

I'd install the bollard behind their bloody car if they don't fecking move it!

Once it's gone, get out there with a can of spray paint (yellow) and mark it up like a hazard box, with your number clearly in the middle with a big circle round it.

Then you could get one of those signs they have in company carparks that say "DIRECTOR ONLY" or similar and put "KANGAROO FAMILY ONLY" on it, stick it at the end.

And of course the bollard. They are grade A arseholes but your husband is a lily livered dick for allowing them to park there again.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 30/08/2020 15:48

@Nikori

Just make sure if you install a bollard that your DH doesn’t give them a spare key.
Don't give your DH a key at all! Hide the spare! If you don't have a car, he doesn't need a key!
WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 30/08/2020 15:48

Send your useless DH over to tell them to move the car.

Problem is, he isn't going to suddenly man up and stand up for your home's right to use/keep clear your own parking space - he'll be all apologetic about how 'she just gets a bit tetchy' and end up on CFN's side, with you as the bad guy.

Longdistance · 30/08/2020 15:51

Your dh is wet. Ffs! They’ll park there constantly now.
🐧 is the only answer.

nicebreeze · 30/08/2020 15:53

@KangarooAtTheZoo

TheOrigBrave now the lockdown is eased we have guests/ family once a week so they can see my toddler alot before a further lockdown. Also have an elderly relative that struggles to walk so parking further away isn't great for them.
Is this your toddler who likes to play in the confines of your parking space, who might accidentally damage a car parked there?

Also, if he's blocking your pram in when he's parked there I'd be liberally shoving thr pram through the smallest gap with zero fucks about any damage done to his car

Namechange2020onceagain · 30/08/2020 16:06

@KangarooAtTheZoo That should be fine. If you are installing it yourself, just make sure that the drilled holes and properly straight. I tend to go at an angle Grin

CandyLeBonBon · 30/08/2020 16:23

Sorry op but you def need to ltb. Grounds for unreasonable behaviour in my book! 😂

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 30/08/2020 16:37

OP, please tell me your H did not move the bins for this man?

Jux · 30/08/2020 17:36

Did you go over and tell him to move the car? You'd only agreed to the evening, not today as well and now he's got a free spot of his own......

FGS, take control!

Redred2429 · 30/08/2020 17:43

Op I would request he moves his car op 😁 and please update when he sees the bollard

cakewench · 30/08/2020 18:40

Please please post an update with the bollard. It's a bank holiday weekend so the perfect time for a bit of DIY!

(You'll never be able to manage this without it at this point, with your DH agreeing to anything this guy wants)

perfumeistooexpensive · 30/08/2020 19:03

He's not covered by your insurance as he's parked there illegally. Make sure your DH never gives permission again! I use a neighbour's space for visitors as he doesn't have a car, but it was his suggestion and I check regularly to make sure that it's still ok with him. I only use it for our visitors. Our spaces are part of our freehold.

pinkyredrose · 30/08/2020 19:15

It won't be illegal because one of the (idiot) landowners has given permission.

OP please say the car's gone now!

Alwaysinpain · 30/08/2020 21:25

@Beachbodylonggone

Where is Olaf + his high viz when you need him?...
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Alwaysoutofreach · 30/08/2020 21:41

🐧🚗🚫

Queenoftheashes · 30/08/2020 22:39

Ltb

Pobblebonk · 31/08/2020 08:49

@perfumeistooexpensive

He's not covered by your insurance as he's parked there illegally. Make sure your DH never gives permission again! I use a neighbour's space for visitors as he doesn't have a car, but it was his suggestion and I check regularly to make sure that it's still ok with him. I only use it for our visitors. Our spaces are part of our freehold.
He wouldn't be covered by OP's insurance even if she had given permission.
Original poster
KangarooAtTheZoo · 31/08/2020 09:15

He is still in our spot, one of his spots is still free and he didn't answer the door when I rang. So quite furious at this entitled **. Wonder if he has seen this thread and won't move his car so I can't install a bollard or something. Sooo tempted to accidentally drop one of my toddlers dirty nappies on his car while taking out the bins. Woops must have been a hole in the bag

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NotEverythingIsBlackandWhite · 31/08/2020 09:15

Just make sure if you install a bollard that your DH doesn’t give them a spare key.
😂😂😂😂

Queenoftheashes · 31/08/2020 09:38

Omg it’s time to go mental at him

justilou1 · 31/08/2020 09:40

Might be time to drop some thumb tacks when you take the bins out too. Right behind their tyres. Fuckers....

NotEverythingIsBlackandWhite · 31/08/2020 09:42

If there is room in your parking space in front of his car then install the bollard there now. He will then need to ask you to unlock it to get his car out. Take control of the situation.

If one of his spaces is free, don't you have any friends who could park a car there for a week or so to show him how it feels?

If you haven't got the balls to install the bollard in front of his car, then go and hammer on his door and windows for at least an hour. If he still fails to respond then call the police out on a welfare check because this man is clearly unbalanced and not just an ignorant bastard.

Queenoftheashes · 31/08/2020 09:48

How is anyone this brazen?