To have shown fear in front of ds 6?

[AriesTheRam]

Fucking spiders.One on the ceiling this morning and had to brave it after several coaching speeches from ds.I always said I wouldn't be like this in front of him ffs.Om a dick aren't I?

@FairNotFair

Why do they always do that??!! Even when you Google how to get over arachnophobia. There is always a big fecking photo of one!

@BadDucks

I feel your pain. The same happened to me several years ago. We showed up at our beautiful cottage late and night and out they all came as a welcoming committee! I tried to sleep in the car the first night. Fortunately our cottage happened to be next door to a pub with an annex block of newly built rooms and they just so happened to have a free room. So I moved into there and left the family next door. It was an expensive holiday though!

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My top tip for coping with scary critters is to give them a girl's name, and treat them as being scared of you (which they are!) as you rescue them:

'Awww, it's ok Susie, I won't hurt you. Let's pop you outside!' etc etc as you scoop them into a cup.

I'm not scared of spiders but DS is terrified, he's not learned that from me so I think it's just a natural reaction in some people!

Best thing I ever did was spawn a child to kill the spiders. Honestly, parenthood is worth it for that alone.

Are spiders dangerous where you live?

If not then you should just get DS to remove them for you. Problem solved.

I can't do that... I'm in the land of deadly things. But at least it means I have a good excuse to be scared of them in front of the children

@Arthersleep

"Hey - here's an article you might like to read. It could really help you. What's that you say? You'd like to read it? It could really improve your life? Excellent news. Come this way. Oh - and enjoy the illustrations"

Ha ha!
I once went on a fear of spiders course. What did I learn....? Well, you know when you find what looks like a large dead spider.... it's often not. It is in fact, it's exoskeleton, which it has simply shed because it has grown out of it!!! So that helped me!

I also find it helpful to give spiders names. I usually call mine, "you bastard", "fook you" or "you're dead!", Whilst spraying them with Raid!

Some spider reducing tips:
Spiders like cardboard, esp damp cardboard. Replace cardboard boxes with plastic storage boxes.
Declutter and keep things in plastic boxes, esp during spider season (i.e. shoes in one by the door etc)
Vaccum, vaccum, vaccum
Ensure no dead flies on windowsills
Spray round with raid every few weeks (esp before going on holiday/leaving the house to avoid fumes).
Don't have windows open, esp if rainy or at night
Use fly screens (you can buy kits off Amazon tofit your windows)
Get a cat.. or several

Don't piss around with ineffective natural remedies such as conkers, essential oils etc. Stick to Raid. Keep at least one new can at hand. A new can will shoot out a stream of liquid at a distance of 3-4m (like a super soaker).

Sorry. I forgot to include the obligatory picture of a massive house spider alongside my top tips!! Here....🕷️🕷️🕷️🕷️🕷️🕸️🕸️🕸️🕸️

@Arthersleep

Ha ha! I once went on a fear of spiders course. What did I learn....? Well, you know when you find what looks like a large dead spider.... it's often not. It is in fact, it's exoskeleton, which it has simply shed because it has grown out of it!!! So that helped me!

I don't find the idea of exoskeleton reassuring at all. It just means there's an EVEN BIGGER spider running around, having discarded its too-tight jumpsuit.

I have just placed an order for Raid.

@Arthersleep you've really given me the willies with the exoskeleton thing
I hate killing spiders so rely on cats and frequent hoovering, but I know there's the odd one lurking, and we're coming into 'that' tome of year :(