To ask what I did wrong?

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Because I don’t understand what’s happened. Can anyone help me unpick it?

My boyfriend has been going through a lot of work stress, think he had some type of breakdown so he completely withdrew from me, asked me for space. This lasted about 3 weeks, in that time I sent a few supportive texts asking how he was and saying I was there for him when he was ready to talk.

He text me on Saturday, the text just said hi with no kisses or anything. So I replied back ‘hi how are you feeling? Xxx’. He said I’m ok then nothing else.

I’ll admit I got a bit upset about this because I hadn’t heard from him in 3 weeks then felt like he’d left me to worry about him not knowing what was going on and then couldn’t be bothered to talk to me when he decided to get back in touch. So I sent a text saying I was upset.

He read this and then blocked me, I don’t understand why? Was I wrong to be upset? Everything was going so well before this happened and now I feel like I didn’t even mean enough to him that he couldn’t tell me what was going on or why he didn’t want to talk to me. Did I overreact? I feel like I’ve made a complete mess of everything.

He's ghosting you. Like Blobby10 my daughter went through similar. It is horrible the way so many young men play with their girlfriends feelings like this.

I’m sure I said on your last thread that his needing space was a load of cobblers. This just confirmed it.

Move on OP. He hasn’t had the balls to end your relationship. Cruel and nasty.

Ignore the posters saying you’re being needy wanting contact after three weeks. You’re really not.

As for posters defending him on the basis of his mental health, no, even mental health issues aren’t a valid excuse to treat people like shit. If he was in that place where he couldn’t handle seeing or speaking to people he should have done the right thing and ended the relationship, not run away for three weeks and then blocked the OP when she dared to speak to him.

I understand that sometimes people want to withdraw, but reality is that anyone who expects to come in and out of their friends’ lives on their own expectations should expect to lose friends. They can’t have it both ways.

Just leave him too it. He’ll come creeping back when he gets no better offers

Your text to him was very reasonable.

Don't waste any more time on him. He's an adult and if he cared enough for you then he would not leave you with no contact for 4 weeks. Mental health issues does not excuse this.

He's ghosting you. As hard as it is it's time to move on. If he does come back to you in a few weeks this is the sort of behaviour you can expect in the future. That would be a no from me.

Op I have just read your other thread and you really need to walk away.
If you are at the stage you aren’t eating or sleeping after 5 months picture what your future will be like.
Walk away, do not contact again. The only thing you are doing wrong is torturing yourself

The classic Silent Treatment. Designed to do what is says on the tin: Fuck Your Head Up...if you let it.

Take the power away from him but deciding that you will no longer put up with his bs.

It's a way to manipulate and control you into a state of confusion without doing a thing!

Fuck Him Off.

He blocked you for that? Don't blame yourself, this was his cruel way of toying with you and ending it. Its so childish and nasty. You are well rid. Imagine if he was still putting you through these tantrums in a year's time.
He's blocked you, but you have come out of this better than him. A lucky escape from an unkind person