I am sorry OP, but it's clear your kid has absolutely ZERO respect for you, and I am NOT surprised.
You let her get away with murder and reward her behavior by her never really missing out on anything, she is CRYING for boundaries and you are not giving it to her, the fact that you didn't go get her when she left will be further proof to her that you don't actually care and have given up. Kids need guidance and in fact they WANT guidance (trust me my mom didn't set boundaries and gave up on trying to educate us and it built so much resentment for me as I needed the protection and guidance that come with boundaries).
You are failing your daughter by not being proactive. If she was my kid I would fall on her like a tone of bricks.
A- Check that there is no underlying issues that's causing her to act and cry for help in the way she does (I was sexually assaulted at 12 and I went into rage and that's when my mom started giving up on me instead of realizing something traumatic had happened and I was calling for help rather than genuinely being a terrible human being)
B- Tell her that you love her and will always be there if she needs to talk or if she feels she needs third party help to talk to (therapist) but that her conduct is unacceptable and that you WON'T tolerate it and that from now on things are going to change.
C- Start by canceling everything that was planned for this week and tell her she is not allowed to go out (and for the love of everything, lock the front door and keep the keys at all time with you). That if she does, you will make sure she gets home in the back of a police car as you will report her as missing.
D- Request she cleans her room and give her a firm timeline. ''Tomorrow your room needs to be clean before 6pm or everything in her room that's not clothes and books will disappear."
E- Make sure she knows that she will have to work for the phone she broke (and give her tasks to do and ensure she does them).
F- Set boundaries and strong consequences and stick to them. No matter what she does.
G- Make sure she understands that this is your house, and your mom not her best friend and the same way you can be nice and cool you can also be strict and firm and will have her respect you and your property.
She is 11, if you let her run circles around you at 11, at 16 she will act like your house is an hotel (which she seem to do already!) and you will end up dreading living in your own home. Cut it off now and react. For your sake but also her own, she is calling for help and if you don't giver her boundaries she will continue to spiral out of control in seek of those boundaries and might end up in terrible situations later down the line.
Good luck and please, don't back down.
I was very challenging after my sexual assault but I was hurting and I knew my behaviour was unnaceptable I didn't need nor wanted a pass, I had just been left to feel extremely unsafe (my assault was by close family friends in an environment I once saw as safe) and I was craving boundaries to feel safe again and to be made aware that my parents noticed I wasn't doing okay and were ready to take immediate actions to protect me from me and them from me as well. I would have hated them setting boundaries because who likes rules but deep-down I knew then and definitely know now that that's what I really needed and was craving for by my behavior. So please set boundaries, she will reject them but boundaries are that safety net kids need to know that if they jump too far they WILL be caught and was just be let to fall and crash and burn.
If when at my worse my mom didn't even bother to look for me when I left the house unexpectedly barefeet it would have only increased my reality that I can't trust my mom to keep me safe (which was my issue).
So please, show your kids you care and will be the annoying overbearing mom if you need to be because her safety is more important than you two getting along. It's super important.