GCSEs party tomorrow evening at friend’s house

[Italianmoma1983]

My dc is going to a GCSEs party tomorrow to one of her friend. She asked us if she could take some fizz there and we said yes as long as the parents hosting are ok with it and that they will also be present at the party. We are going to chat to the parents today to check that everything is ok with them. We are also going to talk about alcohol and safety again with our dc.

Dc has another friend that would be going to the party whom I know the mum. I don’t think dc’s friend is going to tell her mum that there will be alcohol at the party because she is really strict. My dc assured me that he friend wouldn’t be drinking. I want to tell the mum (who is a new friend of mine) that there will be alcohol at the party but dc exploded with anger telling me not to say a thing to the mum, dh thinks the same. I feel uneasy keeping it secret - although maybe the mum is not naive will know that there will be alcohol at that party ?

YANBU - say something
YANU - mind your business

Do any of the people on this thread have teenage girls? My DD is doing the same although without fizz as she doesn't drink. They will be outside because they know the rules and have stuck to them for months. A lot better than a lot of adults I know.

As far as telling the other mum, hopefully she is not naive. I would leave it to her to talk to her own child.

@00100001 as a school governor if I have to be part of a discussion whether to close my school due to some children having a party which will then inconvenience many people who will undoubtedly moan at me, then I may become a miserable twat

My teen will be traveling on a non-socially distanced bus for two hours a day there and back to school, with masks on- that's it, no spacing, no extra buses, no nothing. In with 50 kids, not even the same ones she will then be 'bubbling' with at school.

I think the risk of her going to a small party tomorrow night to be negligible compared with that- if corona is so prevalent it's going to fell a school due to 6 kids at a party, it's fair to say school is out for the rest of the year.

My dd is going to an outside party tomorrow if the weather holds. She knows her grades are good because her mocks were good, her predicted grades after mocks were good- and so CAG are likely to be good. There will be plenty to celebrate.

Exactly my thoughts sylviam

Do any of the people on this thread have teenage girls?

Yes, a 15 year old DD who will be doing her GCSEs in 2021 (I hope).

If you supply alcohol to underage kids and they have an accident (eg fall down the stairs or walk out in front of a car or whatever you can imagine), I believe the liability for that accident will rest with YOU. You must not supply the alcohol basically.

I personally wouldn't give a shit if my teens had a glass of champagne at someone's house. However, you need to understand the potential downside if you supply the alcohol, however unlikely that may be.

And why does it matter what their grades are. They have missed out on so much. They need to see their friends to celebrate or commiserate.

The party is outside !!

Just marry a couple of them off- you can have up to 30 then.
I'm still not sure what makes that safe but a few teens in a garden unsafe tbh.

I wouldn't say anything to the mum but I would have a quiet word with your daughter to keep an eye on this girl

At something similar when my daughter was that age, they were drinking 20/20 (🤮🤮🤮 vom). The girls that were allowed occasional small amounts of alcohol only had a few drinks. The girl that was allowed none at home, said she was just having one. She ended up drinking much more than them, eventually getting so drunk she wet herself. The others had to get an ambulance and she had her stomach pumped.

Certainly not saying this will happen here but it is worth reminding your daughter what to do should someone become ill.

Tell them congratulations from all most of us on here and to enjoy their party.

Oh God, 20/20. I have lost so many nights on that stuff 🤮🤮

20/20 at the same age as my daughter I got really drunk on ricard, I have never been able to drink some since..

@PurpleDaisies

The OPs child as described on this thread is not breaking any rules at this party

Unless I’ve missed it, the party is not outside. Six people from different households are not allowed to meet inside.

Exactly.

Sorry, just seen the party is outside. However, is it in a garden?

Don’t say anything - all you’ll be doing is ruining your daughters friendship.

I confirmed it with dc - the party is going to take place outside

Yes the family has a huge garden - I won’t say a word to the mum.

I hope your DD enjoys her party. My DS isn't celebrating with friends tomorrow but will be at some point

Don’t say anything. Doesn’t sound like they are gonna get out of hand

@Italianmoma1983
How did they get on with the results and the party, Op? Hope both went smoothly.

@Theimpossiblegirl she got brilliant results but was too tired for the party so was back really early and did not drink ! She wants a take away tonight to celebrate (exactly my type of party !) thank you for asking !

That's great news! Congratulations!