Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Aibu to expect my partner to get a job and stop playing xbox?

106 replies

lonelylou09 · 18/08/2020 10:29

So... Been with my partner 18 months. Its all been mostly wonderful until now.
He was new to my area when I met him so he was out of work but looking and it meant we had a lot of time together.
He got a job an hours drive away and moved in with me and my 21 year old son and started contributing to the house costs. All good.
With lockdown he was off work on furlough, as was my son, while I've worked part-time all the way though and now I'm back full time, and I haven't had a week off since January.

We've had words because I expected him do more chores ect but he would mostly sit on the xbox all day.
When lockdown eased he decided to quit his job and go to work for a mate for less money.
I wasn't happy but it's his life right?

So for a month it was OK, he was happier and I was happy to have him doing something and some money still coming in.

Then he had a week off, then another. Now he's not been to work for a month, xbox all day and no money for 2 weeks.
He was meant to go back to work last week but didn't. Meanwhile I'm working 2 jobs plus doing nearly all the chores and paying for everything.

I've tried talking to my him about work and he said he would look for a different job but he hasn't. He does help out around the house a bit but I still do most of it.
He says I'm always moody but I'm so physically and mentally exhausted from work and stress that I come home and I don't want to be near him.

I love him dearly but this isn't what I signed up for. I feel like a broken record saying the same thing over and over again.

OP posts:
WinterAndRoughWeather · 18/08/2020 18:42

How is it sexist?

Pandacub7 · 18/08/2020 19:31

Is it possible that he didn’t quit his job, but rather he was made redundant after furlough ended? He might be super depressed and didn’t want to tell you. On the other hand he could just be lazy. It’s important to speak to him.

ILoveFood87 · 18/08/2020 19:38

Sounds like he wants you to be his mum. He wants to be treated the same as your son. What a man, defo get rid.

Techway · 18/08/2020 19:50

He hasn't changed, this is the real person. Of course he can be lovely, everyone can when they want something such as a place to live.

If you stay with him your confidence will go as he will convince you that you are unreasonable and moody..soon you will be labelled crazy.

I bet he has had a few Ex's

converseandjeans · 18/08/2020 22:35

He sounds awful. It's none of his business what arrangement you have for your DS. Please tell him to move out!

spacemonkeyhat · 19/08/2020 10:42

He is a ⭐️ COCKLODGER !

Why do you put up with it?
He's draining your life-force.

Why the fuck has he not been employed at your cleaning job if you are short-staffed and he is off work? - That tells me everything about his attitude towards you and your relationship.

Send him back to his Dads.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page