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To hope ds (8) changes his mind about my birthday present!

117 replies

listsandbudgets · 16/08/2020 19:32

Don't get me wrong I'm touched he's thinking about my birthday next month and I'm sure I will love whatever I end up with but this is not quite what I had in mind

Me what would you like to do tomorrow?
ds go with dad to buy your birthday present
me there's no need to worry about that love
ds but I saw an amazing powder for cleaning mugs on a youtube advert and I want to get you that.

How do I very gently lead my lovely boy to the idea mum prefers chocolate to mug cleaning powders? Smile

Obviously whatever gets me he will get a huge hug and big thanks and I will use it

OP posts:
Soubriquet · 16/08/2020 19:34

I would steer him well away

Never too young to learn that cleaning products are not presents!

He might be buy you a mop for your next birthday Grin

funnylittlefloozie · 16/08/2020 19:41

This is easy. You tell your DP to remind DS that cleaning products are not presents. No drama!

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 16/08/2020 19:44

buy him a refill of the same powder when it gets to his birthday?

TheSunIsStillShining · 16/08/2020 19:52

@funnylittlefloozie

This is easy. You tell your DP to remind DS that cleaning products are not presents. No drama!
Oh, but there has to be drama! Even over a simple conversation where mummy clearly laughs her ass off and tells kid to get a grip :) And to never buy any cleaning supplies ever as presents!
Soubriquet · 16/08/2020 19:55

@EveryDayIsADuvetDay

buy him a refill of the same powder when it gets to his birthday?
GrinGrin

Love it

midnightstar66 · 16/08/2020 19:55

Train him now do he doesn't buy his wife an iron or vacuum for her birthday in years to come lol

GameSetMatch · 16/08/2020 19:58

Aww let him buy it, my son gave me a ‘bizzy Bubs’ doll last year, I love the fact he chose it, I don’t particularly want it but it’s the first gift he thought of himself (he was 5)

Brefugee · 16/08/2020 20:05

this is a job for his dad. Don't worry about it.
And if he gets it for you - well, hand it back and tell his dad to sort the both of them out.

TheFormerPorpentinaScamander · 16/08/2020 20:09

My ds wanted to buy me shampoo at that age. Apparently the advert said it got rid of split ends. He didn't know what they were or if I had them but the lady on the advert looked so happy Grin

I agree with PPs that it's a job for your husband to sort

monkeysox · 16/08/2020 20:11

Surely his dad would say presents need to be a treat.
Household appliances or cleaning shite are not presents

WaltzfortheMars · 16/08/2020 20:15

That's very sweet. ❤️ Ask him to do the cleaning too to make perfect present. Grin
Tbh, I'm sure dh will tell ds to get something else too.

MikeUniformMike · 16/08/2020 20:17

Tell him it's a nice thought but you'd prefer chocolate.
It's called parenting.

Sarahandco · 16/08/2020 20:20

I think he is just saying that to throw you off the scent of what he is really buying you, but if it really is a magical powder.......think of the fun you could have cleaning all the mugs together! think of it as a bit of a science experiment.

sixlemons · 16/08/2020 20:22

Bless him, he's found something he thinks he is amazing and he wants to get it for you.

Who cares what it is?

whereistherum · 16/08/2020 20:25

DS once bought me a lego set for my birthday.

He did a very good job in building it

tillytoodles1 · 16/08/2020 20:27

Just tell him you'd love some nice chocolate. My H obviously paid for my presents when the kids were small and I'd have gone crazy if he'd let them buy me cleaning stuff.

northprincess · 16/08/2020 20:31

Ahhhh but he's thought about it and thinks you want it. Don't deflate him - you'll both laugh about it when he's older. I would hope his dad would say "let's get some chocolate as well"

Illdealwithitinaminute · 16/08/2020 20:32

I would actually like this gift!

I am not known for my housework, and if I were DP I would suggest- how about something a bit more 'treaty' to go with that, chocolate for example.

As long as it doesn't go on for years, there's no issue, he won't turn into a Neanderthal who buys his wife a hoover unless you let him- and as someone said, why not do the job together and work out how the magic powder works, science and all.

Bless him!

BikeRunSki · 16/08/2020 20:32

Age 3, my nephew bought DSiL a bag of brussels for her birthday, because she had bought them at Christmas, so obviously a good present. WTF DBro was thinking to allow this to happenI don't know.

Mumfymum · 16/08/2020 20:32

Hmmm i'm split on this....on the one hand he's 8, seen an advert for something, thought of you and thought you'd like it...that's sweet, but on the other hand he needs to learn that cleaning products are not birthday presents!

Papergirl1968 · 16/08/2020 20:35

I bought my mom a pack of small brown envelopes once as she was always struggling to find an envelope or sandwich bag to put the
milkman's money in... Smile

Brefugee · 16/08/2020 20:35

get your DH to nip it in the bud before, in 25 years, we're all looking at "my DH bought me an iron for my birthday" and everyone is a) saying his parents brought him up badly and b) LTB...

MikeUniformMike · 16/08/2020 20:39

You already have a powder that cleans mugs - washing powder.

MikeUniformMike · 16/08/2020 20:42

He wouldn't buy his father amazing mug cleaning powder now would he.

Is this a wind up?

icelollycraving · 16/08/2020 20:43

I have this powder BlushGrin