why do people on here feel the need to be so dramatic?

[amb885]

not a thread about a thread, i saw on another thread someone telling the op to 'move out. now' over a minor inconvenience with her dh aibu to think people on here are unnecessarily dramatic?

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Do you sometimes worry that people read MN and judge all the women by what they see here?👀

Not just MN, but FB and other social media sites (and the news, come to think about it), all make me wonder if there are any sane people out there... Batshit crazy seems to be the new normal.

I love how every woman on Mumsnet that has a dispute with their partner is in an abusive relationship 🤦🏼‍♀️

Please keep these coming /restoring my sanity😀

Basically any Coronavirus thread is full of dramatics. People frantically washing shopping, cooking their parcels in the oven and stripping their clothes as soon as they walk through the door
Oh yes!

Drip feeding.

My husband is being really weird with me and I'm not sure why.

20 messages later

I think he's being weird because I threw all of his clothes in the bin.

50 messages later
Oh yeah so I cheated on him and cut up his cat with a knife.

Oh op you poor thing!

20 messages later

I'd like to talk to him but I just have to wait until he's done cooking dinner. I'm just going to put the washing on now.

59 posts later
And we haven't had sex in 2 years.

YOU MUST LEAVE HIM! THE MARRIAGE IS OVER!

Yes sometimes drip feeding is a valid accusation, but I find that more often this accusation is thrown in when the OP is simply answering other posters' questions; it's impossible to include all details in a first post. The accusation is then thrown in because they're pissed off that the OP isn't U after all and it's spoiled the fun they were having frothing at the mouth.

The drip feeding accusation leads to ridiculously long opening posts 'so as to avoid drip feeding'.

Well I have just been accused on a thread of making stuff up about, wait for it. Bedbugs. I got rid of mine (not mine but I had them last year) so posted what I did. Op didn't take much notice and was going down a bit of a rabbit hole with 'resident expert' so posted again. Found some links of stuff I'd bought and posted them too.

And was then accused by said 'expert' of making stuff up. "thats not what you said is it?". About bedbugs I am oddly annoyed but will survive. God though there are some fuckwits on MN. Total fucking morons

@amb885

not a thread about a thread, i saw on another thread someone telling the op to 'move out. now' over a minor inconvenience with her dh aibu to think people on here are unnecessarily dramatic?

Because people want to "win". If you post "ltb" on enough relationship threads eventually they hold out hope somone does it and comes back posting how they escaped and the poster can feel all warm and fuzzy.

Doesn't matter that in 99.99% of cases their being over dramatic and realistically making things worse or putting more stress on the op, it's all chasing that high, that thrill of being right!

After all no one ever sees the failures only the one in a million success

Sadly the really good threads get deleted! The one with the ex therapist/mentor was FANTASTIC! I didn't see the comments that got it deleted but I suspect the op asked for it to be deleted because it was a drip feed extraordinaire! And the extra info changed the whole scenario completely!

Her first 5 or 6 posts made no mention of the guy who was her ex therapist being her ex therapist. He was a 'friend' and 'mentor' and 'father figure'. Everyone thought he was a work colleague! Then it sounded like they were working in therapy together. The final reveal was that he was her counsellor!

Oh I do wish you could have seen it. It should be in Classics, not deleted!

"Its rude and grabby. If I got that invite it would be thrown in the trash and you would not be in my life."

"I wouldn't like them after they begged for money and I wouldn't associate with them. I have better things to do with my money than send someone on vacation. I would take that money that would have been used for a wedding gift and donate to the Ronald McDonald Organization or Hurricane relief depending on the time of year. I would never talk to them again"

This is someone's reaction to being asked for money instead of a wedding present.

How about the opposite? If you post you've done a favour for someone and not had a thank you:
"I would have bought you flowers AND wine AND chocolates and I would have kissed your feet and given you my first-born child"

Found a gem:

"Would you be willing to go to prison to save lives?"
FFS, ppl were asked to sit on their couch, many even being paid for it through furlough scheme.
Or having to undergo mandatory quarantine in a hotel would not be prison.

"Would you be willing to give up your children's right to an education to save lives?"
Again, most schools did do online schooling and only a minority of children actually had no schooling (not saying this is okay)

I remember a thread a while back about whether it was OK to ask to go in front of someone at the supermarket, and someone said it was “incredibly rude” to ask. What, did I miss the bit in the question asking if it was OK to do that while calling them a cunt and then curling out a turd on the belt in front of their shopping? That would have been incredibly rude. Asking to go in front at the shops is mildly cheeky at worst

‘My MIL likes salt on birthday cake - I think it’s rude and I want to have a word’

Queue posters declaring she should be insisting MIL goes to the drs for her blood pressure and one response about autism.

Am I missing something? Why does how someone else seasons their food even deserve a post online?!

@BadLad

"Its rude and grabby. If I got that invite it would be thrown in the trash and you would not be in my life."

"I wouldn't like them after they begged for money and I wouldn't associate with them. I have better things to do with my money than send someone on vacation. I would take that money that would have been used for a wedding gift and donate to the Ronald McDonald Organization or Hurricane relief depending on the time of year. I would never talk to them again"

This is someone's reaction to being asked for money instead of a wedding present.

Oh FFS!

@TheSunIsStillShining

Found a gem:

"Would you be willing to go to prison to save lives?"
FFS, ppl were asked to sit on their couch, many even being paid for it through furlough scheme.
Or having to undergo mandatory quarantine in a hotel would not be prison.

"Would you be willing to give up your children's right to an education to save lives?"
Again, most schools did do online schooling and only a minority of children actually had no schooling (not saying this is okay)

In fairness, that poster did say she was thinking it over in the sense of a philosophical question, she wasn't actually suggesting that people had been imprisoned.

"It's soooo grabby!"
But it is not grabby to ask for expensive dinner wear🤔

This is what happens when you inviting people to your wedding when they don't deserve the honour. Small weddings now will shift it.

@elenacampana

‘My MIL likes salt on birthday cake - I think it’s rude and I want to have a word’

Queue posters declaring she should be insisting MIL goes to the drs for her blood pressure and one response about autism.

Am I missing something? Why does how someone else seasons their food even deserve a post online?!

Are you sure it wasn't dementia? Under 40 - autism, over 40 dementia.

Not just dramatic, also a bit prim and proper? Always quick to castigate anyone who doesn’t do things correctly or perhaps questions laws and..... shock horror actually disobeys the odd law?

What really annoys me is this assumption that posters Naomi g about someone else poor behaviour, which is really mild in the scale of things, are inevitably perfect themselves.

I'm really baffled with the number of people who seemingly never get angry, never raise their voice, never do anything a tad selfish, never decide to keep quiet, aqa giving the silent treatment in MN, rather than lose their temper.

They are never short just because they are tired, never ever say anything to their partner that is not deadly serious and therefore couldn't possibly deemed upsetting.

MN is full of perfect people so it's not surprising they get so annoyed with 'normal' people. I've never met such MN person in real life!

@dontdisturbmenow

What really annoys me is this assumption that posters Naomi g about someone else poor behaviour, which is really mild in the scale of things, are inevitably perfect themselves.

I'm really baffled with the number of people who seemingly never get angry, never raise their voice, never do anything a tad selfish, never decide to keep quiet, aqa giving the silent treatment in MN, rather than lose their temper.

They are never short just because they are tired, never ever say anything to their partner that is not deadly serious and therefore couldn't possibly deemed upsetting.

MN is full of perfect people so it's not surprising they get so annoyed with 'normal' people. I've never met such MN person in real life!

Well, it's the same like the wages here. Lies

People get bored and often have boring lives so live vicariously through others and it’s the anonymous internet so people rarely check their behaviours.

The LTB responses get out of control on some minor transgressions.

My life story is so fantastical, often not in a good way I actually don’t write much detail as think I will be accused of making it up.

Another type of post that annoys me is:

OP: AIBU?
MN: Yes you are!
OP: No, I'm not and you're all mean!

Sometimes the thread is definitely like that, but this post often appears on threads where it started with a pile on and then there have been more measured responses and it's become 50/50.

I end up thinking, 'Don't speak for me!'

The "all rude/nasty/horrible old people must have dementia" gets my hackles rising. Old people can be cunts without having dementia...yes grandma I am thinking about you, you old bitch.

@Mittens030869

Another type of post that annoys me is:

OP: AIBU?
MN: Yes you are!
OP: No, I'm not and you're all mean!

Sometimes the thread is definitely like that, but this post often appears on threads where it started with a pile on and then there have been more measured responses and it's become 50/50.

I end up thinking, 'Don't speak for me!'

Ah yes. Had one of these the other day. Saw an update that the thread had been 'taken down'. I.e. OP didn't like the answers.