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To think you shouldn't be advertising porn on an autism page?

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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 17:52

I have three autistic loved ones, one being my DH and the other two being my DC and my step child.

Myself, DH and DSS use Facebook and a while ago DSS invited me to like a page ran by a young man with autism who made the page to raise awareness about autism/mental health and to provide solidarity to others on the spectrum who may feel alone / struggling. His audience are largely children/teens on the spectrum and then alot of adult women who are on there because they either have autism themselves or have somebody on the spectrum in their family. He has alot of vulnerable followers.

As his page grew in popularity and he discovered memes were popular he would upload funny pictures of himself wearing mankini's or whatever else with funny quotes. Just a bit of fun, nothing especially wrong with that.

Fast forward to now he's made an onlyfans (which is basically porn where you upload photos of yourself naked / masturbating / having sex or whatever else) and he's using the autism page to heavily advertise it and post inappropriate posts about how he "bares all" is dirty and encourages his followers to subscribe.. many of whom are children.

A couple of days ago he uploaded a screenshot to the page purporting to show a message from a married man saying how his porn profile arouses him more than his wife ever has, and then boasted that the 'married man' and his wife both follow the page. Cue a huge backlash and he then deleted the post.

Suffice to say DSS has been told in no uncertain terms to unfollow and unlike the page immediately.

AIBU to think he's out of line for using the autism community in this way given his target audience are primarily young teenagers with autism or the mothers of children with autism?

A few months ago I was shown a Facebook page called Marcus' Autism journey,

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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 17:55

Excuse the last line of the post that was supposed to be at the top!

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WorraLiberty · 15/08/2020 18:00

Marcus's Autism Journey?

YANBU. I unliked that a while back because he suddenly became creepy as fuck.

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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 18:03

Yes Worra that's him.

DSS thought he was wonderful before all of this. He's 14.

I know you need to be careful what your children are looking at online and we're very on the ball with regards to who he has on Facebook and what he does on the internet. I didn't expect this from what is supposed to be a safe haven for people on the spectrum.

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WorraLiberty · 15/08/2020 18:08

I suppose it just goes to show nothing is a safe haven on the internet and especially not Facebook.

I'm completely unconcerned about the adult women who read his page but kids can join FB when they're 13 and many younger kids do too because they don't ask for proof of age.

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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 18:11

Absolutely. There are parents on there (before the porn) saying how much his page brightens their DC's day and how he encourages them to be themselves etc.

Then they get a big photo of his backside on their newsfeed (with a peach emoji over the crack granted) and posts telling his followers to subscribe where he shows it all etc.

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TeaSoakedDisasterMagnet · 15/08/2020 18:14

Have you reported the page to Facebook? I’m sure they wouldn’t do much about it but then you know you’ve reported it.

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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 18:15

I have yes, as has DH.

Apparently the content doesn't "go against community guidelines"

Fuck knows how not.

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WorraLiberty · 15/08/2020 18:16

OMG I know. Plus it's a bit of a worry that Marcus himself may be vulnerable and that men may want to start meeting him for sex.

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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 18:16

Unless he posts photos of his penis on the page Facebook isn't interested Confused

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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 18:18

Absolutely Worra. It's a valid concern.

His mother who looks out for him isn't at all concerned about the porn or where he's posting it, the mind boggles.

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HeyDuggeesCakeBadge · 15/08/2020 18:20

If he's only 14 shouldn't this be flagged to the police?

IsaLain · 15/08/2020 18:23

Just unfollow and unlike his page. I'm not sure if Facebook would do anything about it; is his page specifically targeted to children? Maybe they would if he has built it up by targeting children and us now using it for this but I'm not sure.

An aside; why did you use "myself" in that sentence. If you were saying "I use this page myself" then fine but you're not. The word is 'I'. Just I.
Its only on mumsnet, and its every few posts, that people write lists with myself instead of I. Please stop it.

WorraLiberty · 15/08/2020 18:23

@HeyDuggeesCakeBadge

If he's only 14 shouldn't this be flagged to the police?
No, his fans start from age about 13/14

Marcus himself looks about 20ish?

HeyDuggeesCakeBadge · 15/08/2020 18:24

Thanks worra, that makes sense.

WorraLiberty · 15/08/2020 18:26

An aside; why did you use "myself" in that sentence. If you were saying "I use this page myself" then fine but you're not. The word is 'I'. Just I.
Its only on mumsnet, and its every few posts, that people write lists with myself instead of I. Please stop it.

Fuck me, who alerted the wannabe head teacher? 🙄

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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 18:30

There's nothing the police would be able to do about it because he's not actually showing anything on the page.

I assume to subscribe to the onlyfans part you would need to have an adults credit card so they have covered their backs on that website, it's just that Facebook isn't at all bothered about him advertising it there.

I think Marcus is 22.

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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 18:31

Fuck me, who alerted the wannabe head teacher?

Quite Grin

I couldn't get worked up about spelling and grammar on the internet personally. It's a total non issue.

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BubblyBarbara · 15/08/2020 18:41

Have you actually looked at his onlyfans to check if it’s what you’re saying? It may just be a joke, he is autistic and does not understand social norms so I think you are being a bit mean

WorraLiberty · 15/08/2020 18:45

@BubblyBarbara

Have you actually looked at his onlyfans to check if it’s what you’re saying? It may just be a joke, he is autistic and does not understand social norms so I think you are being a bit mean
The OP's not being mean. He constantly posts links to his Onlyfans page.
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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 18:46

I haven't paid to subscribe no but anybody can go to the link and see the captions which clearly state that he's masturbating/ejaculating in the pictures.

He says as much on the autism page.

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Flowers009 · 15/08/2020 18:50

absolutely creepy and wrong

FYI only fans isn't just porn, music artist etc use it to upload backstage stuff.

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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 18:50

This is what he's advertising on Facebook

To think you shouldn't be advertising porn on an autism page?
To think you shouldn't be advertising porn on an autism page?
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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 18:54

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To think you shouldn't be advertising porn on an autism page?
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Steakpienchips · 15/08/2020 18:55

Before anybody bollocks me for posting those here, he has hundreds of thousands of followers. His stuff is in the public domain.

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PhilSwagielka · 15/08/2020 18:55

YANBU, and I'm autistic. It's a boundaries thing. If kids read your page, you need to be careful what you post on it.