facial birthmark

[brunel55]

My son is 7 months old and has a prominent pigmented nevus on his face which he was born with. it's something that has worried me tremendously from day 1 as I worry for his self -esteem when he starts school etc. We have not seen a dermatologist yet but lots have said it will fade but it hasn't a huge amount and seems to be growing with his face i.e. getting bigger. He is such a gorgeous, playful and delightful little baby and we love him more than anything in the world but this gives me bad anxiety and I wonder if anyone else who have a similar experience can share their story. Is it a possibility to get it removed when he is old enough etc etc. thank u :)

Hi all- I wanted to update you on the situation in the hope to seek more advice. We finally had a consultation with a plastic surgeon re removal of son’s facial birthmark. The advice was to leave it until he is 8/9 years old to see how much it fades naturally before considering any surgical or laser treatment. With current Covid guidelines to have any anaesthetic would be too risky at his young age. Appreciate the risk factor and at 1 years old ofcourse this is too young however they also told me it should be my son’s decision when he is old enough to make it, I disagree with this statement. Not quite the outcome we had hoped for. But on a positive note the main thing is my son is happy and healthy.

My brother had a really deep red large BM on his inner thigh at birth - by the he was 3 it was paler/dappled and by school age it had completely gone.

I know it’s hard but you really do need to wait a few years at least to see what changes, if any, occur, before making a decision.

I know a guy who as a teen had slashed his face with a shard of glass because his parents refused to get rid of an ugly birthmark. They still believe that he crashed his bike.

Following my DS has a large one too on his jaw it has increased in size and hairy since birth he's nearly 6.
I was going to wait until he is older.

Wow some beautiful babies on this thread! My husband was born with a huge lump on his head that was some sort of rare birth mark. He did require surgery as it kind of hung over his eye. Now in his forties and he still has a lump but it is part of him. He says he didn’t get bullied but did get curious questions as a child.

@raskolnikova

I was born with a birthmark on my face and to be honest I'm surprised at the number of people saying it won't cause any issues. Whilst I'm happy for people who have encountered no problems due to theirs, I did experience bullying and self-esteem issues due to mine. I had it removed at age 13, and frankly I think I should have done it earlier than that but I was afraid of the operation.

I do have a scar, but I like my scar, whereas the birthmark was ugly. Had I never had it removed, I believe it would have made life more difficult for me.

Of course it all depends on what kind of birthmark it is, how big it is, the individual person, etc, but I reject the idea that my birthmark was part of who I am and I certainly wasn't proud of it.

I could have written this. I had a mark removed at 13 and prefer the scarring to the ugly mark that blighted my life. I was teased, they even made up a ‘lovely’ nickname for me and I have struggled with self esteem. I was out in a pub in my home town a few years ago and a twat who went to my primary school thought it was hilarious to shout the ‘lovely’ nick name at me. I did say ‘oh hi ‘Dave’, still fat then!’