To think colleague is not too old to have a baby

[thedaywewillremeber]

My colleague at work has just told us all she’s 14 weeks pregnant. I’m very happy for her however another colleague mentioned today not to her but to me that she’s a bit to old to be having a baby. She’s 33 which I think is within the normal age range.

@RaininSummer

I thought you were going to say she was 47 or something. Commenting would still be rude but 33! Ideal king age.

My mum was 47 when she had me!

33 isn't too old at all. I was 35 when I had mine.

@formerbabe

At the risk of a flaming, is he from a very working class background or poorly educated? The only people I've encountered who think like this are either old or from the background I've got described.

Yes, I know not everyone in that demographic thinks like that before anyone says anything

My mum and dad both left school at 16, met aged 18 and were married and had two kids by the age of 21. Both from very working class backgrounds where it was the norm for them and their peer group. Going to university just was never an option available to them. I remember my mum being all cat bum faced about someone she knew having a a baby at 35. She made comments about it being unfair on the child because her parents would be “so old fashioned” (they weren’t). Then when my auntie sadly had a miscarriage at 39 she made lots of comments along the lines of “silly woman! What did she expect at her age”

I’m now pregnant with my first at 39 and she has changed tune! I’m the first in the family to go to university. It’s the norm in my peer group to start having children around 34/35. No one would bat an eyelid at 33.

What an odd comment. I had my first at 30 and second at 33. No one mentioned it being old although my mum was at pains to tell me that at my age, she had three kids, the youngest being two!
My MIL described post 30 as an ‘older mum’ when she was having her babies. Apparently one of her friends, who had her dd at 33 was classed as geriatric. This was early 80s.
I didn’t think that attitude existed today though. How strange.

33 is too old?! Your colleague is a tool.

Lol I'm 35 and just had my 4th, guess that makes me a dinosaur of a mother!

Seriously though, the colleague is a bit of an idiot. I hope the comment doesn't get back to your pregnant colleague, she shouldn't have to hear stupid remarks like that (though putting up with stupid remarks during pregnancy seems to be a fact of life...)

Some people are so odd. Your colleague must know of other women that age or older who have had kids unless he's lived a sheltered life. My MIL also said at 33, I was too old to have a baby. In her mind, I guess most people around her had finished having their babies before reaching 30.

My uncle said aren’t you a bit old when I was pregnant at 40, I said well my body clearly doesn’t think so!
If a man in his 20s said that to me I’d laugh him out the room.

Surely you are young enough to have a baby until menopause.

How bizarre. It's normal and perfectly acceptable to have children in to your 40s now. 33 is a great age to have kids!

Are you in london? I was the youngest by 10 years in my NCT group when I had my first at 29. It’s totally normal in London, 33 is very young still!

🤣🤣 what a knob

Your colleague is a twat. I’ve just had a baby and I’m 40

Shit. I had my baby 2 years too late.

We are south east but due to house prices being so high most people that I know of have children around that age if not closer to 40. So I did find his comment quite odd.

How old is the commenter? They may be from my era where one of my friends was described as an “elderly primagravida” when she was 25!

He’s late 20’s no children of his own yet.

@thedaywewillremeber

He’s late 20’s no children of his own yet.

He needs to get a move on then or he’ll be far too ancient to have a family!

I was 36 when I had DS, SIL was 41 when she had her second son. Your colleague is a pillock.

@thedaywewillremeber

He’s late 20’s no children of his own yet.

Predictably. Hypocrite then!

No it's not too old. Your colleague is embarrassing for thinking that.

Hahahahahaha.

Your colleague presumably knows no highly educated women at all.

I don’t know anyone who had children earlier than 30, the vast majority after 35. Long degrees and then long training programmes.

Some people definitely feel entitled to comment on pregnant women. An ex-colleague used to comment on what I ate as I had severe nausea if I didn’t have regular snacks (it was a very casual office where it was absolutely fine for me to have the odd piece of fruit or packet of Belvita), she’d say things like ‘another banana!’ or ‘goodness me, are those Mini Cheddars?’.....and another group of colleagues who’d apparently been having some kind of guessing game as to whether or not I had a bump. I’d kept that pregnancy on the quiet to everyone apart from my lovely line manager as it was one after a miscarriage but one of them asked me outright one day if I was pregnant (I was on my own and her ant the other two who’d been guessing suddenly sprang out) and it was really awkward.

^^ *and the other two, that should say

What!
That's absurd. How old is this colleague ? I'll be 32 in September and of my close group of high school friends (9 of us). Only 4 are married and 1 has a 2 kids. 1 is pregnant.

I know lots of people my age who already have kids but a hell of a lot who don't. I'd never even consider a woman being "old" to have children until probably 40 and even then it's becoming more and more common for women to have kids much later.

At 32 I know I'm no where near ready to start breeding. Can't see myself being prepared to take that leap until 37/38.

Can’t believe you have to ask really.