Will he really stand out in halls

[thedaywewillremeber]

My ds 25 is going to university this year. He was going to stay home as we live about 40 minutes from the uni. We’ve recently had a discussion about him and brother need to think about moving out soon. He’s suggested he goes into halls first to ease him in to living on his own. He does have asd and mental health problems. Will he be judged from being so much older in halls?

[lockdownalli]

Gosh no there were two women and a man in their forties when I was in halls.

It sounds like a good move if he wants to work towards being more independent. Good luck

[IdblowJonSnow]

Does he want to try it? That's the main thing. What will happen if it's not for him? Is there a plan B?
Sharing common areas was something I massively struggled with. People can be very minging!
I'd recommend a few phone calls to see what support is available and what his options are.

[D4rwin]

I was on a corridor with someone who was literally my mum's age (a year older in fact). It was fine. We were all new, OK there was one (very immature) person on our corridor who would comment on it and just tried to ignore her. But everyone else was normally sociable and attempted to include her.

[D4rwin]

*by attemprlted I don't mean made a deliberate effort due to her age, I mean she already had some uni friends so didn't socialise with the corridor as much as all us freshers

[HolyPillow]

I'm going to disagree with the majority here -- my sister went to university as a (barely) mature student aged 23, and found it a very isolating experience. To the eighteen-year-old school leavers she was waay older than them, but the considerably older mature student cohort, in their 30s and 40s grouped her with the school leavers.

[Cauterize]

I was 23/24, it was fine. Lived with a couple of idiots but that was just bad luck I think!

[thedaywewillremeber]

Thanks everyone he does want to try however he’s worried about his age especially as he think he won’t fit with the younger ones but the mature E.g. the ones in their 40’s plus won’t accept him either.