AIBU? Please no nastiness :(

[Jadee753]

NDN, middle aged woman with a teenage son. He's outside all hours of the day smoking marijuana, loud music, friends round etc. We've had our french doors open due to the hot weather, as we are entitled. The smell of weed floods our house!! Completely. It's sickening. Even my 5 year old has to go into her room to evade.
Anyway, we were having a BBQ (just myself, husband and 2 children) when NDN comes out complaining that the smoke is getting on her washing. I politely explained that this could not easily be helped. She proper reared up. Shouting and screaming at me. (I'd just finished a 13 hour nursing shift) I just didn't need it.
Her son then proceeded to chime in and call us all sorts, very explicit. My partner then went out in an attempt to fight my corner. Just then, some kind of concrete was thrown by the son straight at me, hitting me in the hand and injuring my fingers.
Being so tired I chose not to report to the police and just leave be.
Following day, visit from police community support officer. Wanted to know what happened. I explained and told them I wanted to press charges.
WIBU for reporting him? I feel kind of bad as he's a teen, but he's making our life hell!

OP, They sound a complete and utter nightmare.

Probably the son 'rules the roost'?
It is a shame that so many 'newbuilds' now have to have 'social housing'...Everyone who owns keeps their houses and gardens in decent order, but Social housing 'gardens' are full of dumped stuff, and people just don't seem to care.

Weed in this weather intensifies in stench..Hot, humid weather makes it reek.
My brother says his place smells of weed, too..People down the landing {a sort of Coach house galleried place} smoke weed, and it hangs in a stinky fug in this close air.

Open windows and doors brings in barbecue smells too.

YANBU to report him. And you really need to get a bit of a backbone here. He assaulted you but you didn’t want to report him to the police for that? Come on now.

OP, All classes smoke ''The Devil's cabbage''...Wealthy private owners in 'good' areas to sink estates...
I don't mind the smell of it, when the weather changes, it won't be as noticeable?

It is a shame that so many 'newbuilds' now have to have 'social housing'...Everyone who owns keeps their houses and gardens in decent order, but Social housing 'gardens' are full of dumped stuff, and people just don't seem to care.

What a judgmental comment! Not everyone who lives in social housing treats their house like a dump. Not everyone who owns their home treats it like a palace.

Just to add, the son of our neighbours smokes weed regularly. They own their home and so do we. We live in a ‘naice’ part of the town so it really isn’t a class or council estate thing.

Cowards like your neighbours love to get their side of the story in first and mess up any chance of you reporting things to the police. A nasty calculated "pre emptive strike" kind of move.

You really need to call the police next time throws concrete at your hand!

@isadorapolly

Fucks sake. DH! Not dog!

That was a fantastic typo. Bloody dog did nothing! May as well take him to the pound

It's just, I'm usually a very quiet person, but for the sake of my children, I don't need this to be happening

for the sake of your children you need to show that this is one of the things the police are for.

So did you report the assault? The weed? what's the next step?

Good news if you're all council - they can deal with nuisance tenants in a a way private landlords can't. Some boroughs boot out the troublemakers, most investigate, but they have to do something.

If the kid gets a caution from the police, that should a) put him off b) mark his card with the council, so push for that.

I'd tell the Police the whole truth, including the weed smoking.

What a little div!

So, the neighbour complained about BBQ smoke, her son complained about BBQ smoke then chucked a bit of concrete at you. Then, because he is really really really stupid, he (or his mum) rang the police and complained about you having a BBQ in terms which are bad enough that the Community Police Officer actually came out to investigate? At which point, you told the Officer about the weed smoking.

As they say, there's no arguing with stupid.

YANBU

Oh my god, please press charges. Make every complaint you can - to council/HA/landlord. Also look into anti social behaviour orders or whatever they’re called now.

My mum has a similar problem with her neighbours. It really doesn’t get better if you leave it, try to be nice etc- which is what she did. She’s now having to cope with aggressive groups of young men outside her house, constant stream of people buying drugs, people vomiting in her garden, bottles thrown in her garden, music all night.

I’d now always take constant ganja smoking & the smell as a big warning sign. If neighbours inflict their gear smoking on you, through constantly smoking in garden or with windows open, they’re inconsiderate & will move on to other things.

I'm in a council house. I've lived here 5 years and paid full rent without ever claiming housing benefit.

The lads that have constant parties and smoke weed all day every day own their house next door because mummy and daddy bought them it!

Sounds like an invitation to have a BBQ every night!

I'd definitely report them to Council, Police etc.
Get GP to check your hand (for the records) if it is sore perhaps?

but I'd also put up some inexpensive CCTV if you can, in case it escalates their behaviour towards you.
They are clearly aggressive and none too bright so they might, sadly.

Definitely report and keep reporting everytime something happens. Keep a diary of everything too. They’ve gone too far being violent to you and it needs to stop before it gets out of hand. Don’t feel bad because he’s a teen, he’s clearly old enough to behave this way so he can deal with the consequences.