AIBU? Please no nastiness :(

[Jadee753]

NDN, middle aged woman with a teenage son. He's outside all hours of the day smoking marijuana, loud music, friends round etc. We've had our french doors open due to the hot weather, as we are entitled. The smell of weed floods our house!! Completely. It's sickening. Even my 5 year old has to go into her room to evade.
Anyway, we were having a BBQ (just myself, husband and 2 children) when NDN comes out complaining that the smoke is getting on her washing. I politely explained that this could not easily be helped. She proper reared up. Shouting and screaming at me. (I'd just finished a 13 hour nursing shift) I just didn't need it.
Her son then proceeded to chime in and call us all sorts, very explicit. My partner then went out in an attempt to fight my corner. Just then, some kind of concrete was thrown by the son straight at me, hitting me in the hand and injuring my fingers.
Being so tired I chose not to report to the police and just leave be.
Following day, visit from police community support officer. Wanted to know what happened. I explained and told them I wanted to press charges.
WIBU for reporting him? I feel kind of bad as he's a teen, but he's making our life hell!

Fortunately I haven't had to take time off, bit got to admit, it is sore lol!

So did they start yelling after the BBQ was over then?

You said he called the police saying we had yelled profanity, even though we had 2 children in bed and would never

Why were they complaining about the smoke AFTER the event?

He’s an idiot. Shame you didn’t report this yourselves.

I was with you until you said ‘they are council, typically’. My mum’s ndn has teen sons who smoke the stuff constantly, and own their own house.

Our neighbour’s son sits on the top of their extension to smoke it...and I won’t tell you how fancy our neighbourhood is.

I’m sorry you had that experience but neither drug use nor bad behaviour and being scummy to neighbours is limited to council tenants.

YANBU just been to check the neighbour on the other side of my NDN doesn’t have patio doors as they sound just like my neighbours
I’ve had exactly the same with smoke and noise, constant door slamming and music until 3/4am but dare cut the grass at lunchtime and they are all leaning over the fence shouting and moaning.
I’ve sold up as a solution and am counting the days til I leave.

I'm council. Thanks for that! Nice to know what I'm like!

YANBU. Fuck them. Fucking sick of anti-social, rude, cunty neighbours. You're not alone. Press charges on the twat.

@Jadee753

It's just, I'm usually a very quiet person, but for the sake of my children, I don't need this to be happening

YANBU, do report him. I hope you hand is OK.

YANBU, but YABVU in regards to the comment about them being in a council house. That's got fuck all to do with the type of people they are.

The comment about council tenants was unpleasant and implied that in itself indicated antisocial behaviour.

I would have called the police every time I smelt weed.

If the ndn's son called the police then yes, press charges if the police are taking it seriously.

He called the police! He got this ball rolling.

He's out of control and if you don't report this he will think he can get away with it, and maybe throw something at your kids next time.

The comment about council was uncalled for. I would give you the benefit of the doubt that you're upset and a little irrational at the moment, but it doesn't help you to come out with crap like that.

OP may have said they're Council typically because the Council are bloody useless at doing anything!

YANBU. At all. Bloody cheek of them to complain about a single BBQ when he smokes stinking weed all day.

If they are social housing tenants report it to the ASB team. They will be able to offer support to the family and help you also

Fucks sake. DH! Not dog! grin

You really confused me.

YANBU, they sound awful.

Please report. It was concrete thrown at you this time. But next time could be your children!

Did the argument happen after the barbecue, because you say in a later post your children were tucked up in bed?

You need to press charges, or they will think they can get away with having a go/throwing things and injuring you. They called the police on you - you can see the level of idiocy you're dealing with. If they are going to try to get you into hot-water legally then you ned to protect yourself from that.

Let the police deal with the assault on you. get a crime number. Call the council with your crime number and put in a formal complaint.

YANBU to report it to the police (pressing charges isn’t actually a thing in the UK). You should have called the police there and then.

Sorry, I think that may have been misinterpreted. I did actually mean that the council are useless at responding these days, I am also a council tenant

I am surprised the police did not smell the canabis

YANBU he deserves it. They sound like the neighbours from hell. I hope your fingers are ok.

Well he is a bit silly to ring the police when he assualted you isn't he ? Especially given he is on probation. If his Mother encouraged him to do so, then she isn't doing him any favours is she ?