AIBU to think people would judge someone with a big photo of themselves on the wall?

[SinkGirl]

It was our tenth wedding anniversary yesterday. DH bought me a very large framed print of a photo from our wedding. The main focus of the photo is my face, next to me is my sister and next to us is my mum giving a speech. My mum passed away five years ago, and this is the only pic from the wedding of the three of us together without her shit of a husband.

The thing is that nobody would know any of this seeing the big picture on our wall - I’m worried that it will look really conceited and weird to have a big print of my own face on the wall! And that people would probably make assumptions about someone who has a big wedding photo on the wall that their husband isn’t in.

Am I being silly here? I do struggle with my self esteem so maybe this is just that. I would hate people to think I’m arrogant. I generally hate photos of me, but our wedding photos aren’t too bad as I wasn’t paying attention to them being taken.

YABU - I wouldn’t judge someone with a large photo of themselves on their wall

YANBU - it would look weird

I might have to get a similarly sized one of him with his family then it probably wouldn’t look weird! It is a lovely photo and really special to me so maybe I shouldn’t care what anyone thinks.

I'd suggest putting it upstairs (perhaps on the landing) so you can enjoy it without worrying what other people might think.

He sounds a lovely husband! Put it in your bedroom if you’re really worried? But I wouldn’t be.

It's your house. Who are you going to have in it that will judge you? Your husband, who loves you, thinks it's appropriate, so why would anyone else think any different? You're only going to have friends over , they'll be visiting because they like you. The photo clearly means a lot to you so put it up.

I am putting it up today. You’ve all been really helpful, thank you. I think when I first saw it I was a bit scared by the size and focus on me, but as I’ve gotten used to it (currently propped up in our bedroom) I’ve realised it’s really not as bad I thought initially.

You’re totally right wwwomble, we have so much difficult stuff going on right now and I’ve managed to turn a lovely thing my DH did into something else to get anxious about. I have given my head a big wobble and will be putting it up in the lounge where I can enjoy it and remember my mum every day.

Hang it up with pride. Such a lo may thoughtful gift from your hubby.