GP buying sweets!

[Awkwarddough]

I know this has probably been discussed before. But yesterday we went for a picnic at the zoo with my dad and my DS (18 months).

At one point I gave DS a mini chocolate chip cookie, just one, and at the same time my dad gave him a whole bag of foam shrimp and bananas. I took them off him straight away and gave him one of the sweets after his cookie which my dad scoffed at.

We stopped for a cup of tea and DS was happily eating apple and pear slices and raisins, and my dad pushed a giant gingerbread man under his nose. Again I took it from him straight away and broke the head off and gave him that. When I put the rest away my dad got a second gingerbread man out for himself which he waved in front of DS the whole time.

We’re seeing him again tomorrow and when we left to zoo he said to DS ‘I’ll bring more sweets for Sunday’

I really don’t mine him having the odd sweet and treat especially on days out, but we’re trying to teach him that they don’t have a higher worth than his other snacks or food. And I don’t want him to be having snacks from us then my dad pushing snacks on him too.

WIBU to tell my dad to stop giving him treats and if he has treats for him to give them straight to me and I will give them to him so I know he’s not doubling up on snacks?

Also how’s best to tel him? 😂

And no... my Doctor isn’t bribing DS with sweets 😂😂

Of course I understand my dad wants to treat him, but I want him to see my dad for other reasons than ‘he brings sweets’.

You're over thinking. My MIL was a terror for giving our kids sweets and biscuits. But she was also the most wonderful grandma, and although my kids enjoyed the treats from her, they loved her for herself. They didn't see her often but her loving nature and her constant willingness to engage and play with them, is why they were always thrilled to see her.

Let him have his bit of pleasure in giving your DC the treats (unless you see him every day).

So disappointed ... I thought this was going to be about a doctor running wild with pick and mix !

My DM was always similar, feels like a power play.
Suspect actually it’s how love is shown.
Didn’t feel like love when it felt like it was undermining me deliberately,