I don't like other people's children.

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I think I am being very unreasonable but I actually can't stand other people's children unless they are family. My dc have lots of 'friends ' in the area and they are just mean and vindictive and I just cant bare the sound of their squeaky voices.

I don't mind other people's kids, as long as I don't have to look after them! Even then, the kids aren't the problem, it's the parents who cba to parent, like, ever. Looking at you SILs.

I have neighbours with kids and the neighbourhood kids bother me a lot less than the wankers (in their 50s) who also live in my street. They are the fucking eejits having big parties in their gardens through lockdown, playing shite, cheesy music all day and swearing loudly all the time.

Love my own children but I can't stand children in general. I'm more than happy for my kids who are now a bit older to have friends over as they can entertain themselves, I'm nice and pleasant to them and either cook them a lovely meal or order them a takeaway if it's the weekend. Can't stand most of my friends moany and clingy children but suck it up in order to be able to spend time with my friends.

Yep other people probably think the same about your child

There are some kids I absolutely love, more than happy being around them, one I kinda wish I could adopt! Others not so much. One of my best friends wants to come and stay soon with her tribe. I flippin despise one of her kids. A spoilt, whiney, rude, annoying little shit!!

I love my nieces and nephews and close friends’ babies. But I find general children to be extremely irritating from age 2-8

Once they hit 8 you can generally have a proper conversation with them and then I start to like them again

No I can't bear (NOT bare-that means take your clothes off ) other people's children. I don't find my own that pleasant either sadly. ☹

I had dd at 37, so came to parenting relatively late some might say. I could cope with, and quite enjoyed, rooms full of scream and excitable kids for the first few years. Fast forward to today, I'm 45 and have very little tolerance for small kids. Thank goodness dd is older now. I couldn't be a new parent now at my age.

@TakemedowntoPotatoCity

I had dd at 37, so came to parenting relatively late some might say. I could cope with, and quite enjoyed, rooms full of scream and excitable kids for the first few years. Fast forward to today, I'm 45 and have very little tolerance for small kids. Thank goodness dd is older now. I couldn't be a new parent now at my age.

I know two older mums who said similar to this! They said they used up their patience with small children before they had kids and now they have none. It was said in a very jokey way btw. But it did make me wonder if it is a thing... I'll have to see how I feel in ten years' time!

The worst thing is when someone puts them on the phone. My DH occasionally did this with his daughter (pre smart phone). Little children are often not great on the phone, it wasn’t her fault but I would get “Maisie’s here! Do you want to speak to Drizzle Maisie?!” then an awkward gap with me saying brightly “Hello Maisie! What are you up to today?” Soon the Darth Vader-like breathing on the other end would advise me of Maisie’s presence and I’d witter on attempting to elicit monosyllables from a bored little girl who had been dragged away from whatever to be pressed against a handset.

That and people who think that bringing their children along to an adult event will be lovely for us all, and that we are all marvelling at their precocity and creativity when they regale us with their extended story about a magical unicorn who goes round helping people.

My own mum, who was and is a great mum, aunt and grandma, dislikes children from outside the family. She finds most kids annoying and whiny and doesn't coo all over some 8 year old telling a shit story nor does she find babies particularly cute. I think she finds most kids hard work but when they're your own and get to know them better and be more involved, it changes how you see them completely.

@WhereamI88

My own mum, who was and is a great mum, aunt and grandma, dislikes children from outside the family. She finds most kids annoying and whiny and doesn't coo all over some 8 year old telling a shit story nor does she find babies particularly cute. I think she finds most kids hard work but when they're your own and get to know them better and be more involved, it changes how you see them completely.

I definitely think this is a thing. Lots of people only like their own family's dcs.

I know one woman, let's call her 'Cuntface', who hates all children, even those in her own family. I thought, when her first nephew was born, she would change her tune about hating all children. Nope! She blanked him all the time. When he was old enough, he said "Auntie Cuntface doesn't like me, does she"? She thought that was funny. I thought "you are an epic cunt". She isn't someone I have to see any more though, thankfully. Tbf, I think she has some problems with aggression and life in general.

I find most children that aren't mine annoying too tbh.

Where do you get the idea they're the norm now? Have you some kind of evidence to back that up or is it anecdata because there was a loud child last time you popped into a supermarket?
If it! Kids on one side, shouting screaming non stop. Kids on the other side just as bad, be we ever hear apparent telling them to calm down.

Go to the gym, kids running into you, then starring at you, seeming unable to articulate a sorry. Door slams in your face. Taking a shower is a nightmare, kids screaming, singing at the top of their lungs, trying to look at you from under the dividing wall.

Kids in train who can't stand still, shouting, arguing, constant 'muuuuummmmm', and no regards at all for anyone around them.

You might see the best if them as a teacher being a figure of authority, but behaviour tolerance has certainly gone down with kids disturbance more and more considered something others have to tolerate.

@dontdisturbmenow

Where do you get the idea they're the norm now? Have you some kind of evidence to back that up or is it anecdata because there was a loud child last time you popped into a supermarket? If it! Kids on one side, shouting screaming non stop. Kids on the other side just as bad, be we ever hear apparent telling them to calm down.

Go to the gym, kids running into you, then starring at you, seeming unable to articulate a sorry. Door slams in your face. Taking a shower is a nightmare, kids screaming, singing at the top of their lungs, trying to look at you from under the dividing wall.

Kids in train who can't stand still, shouting, arguing, constant 'muuuuummmmm', and no regards at all for anyone around them.

You might see the best if them as a teacher being a figure of authority, but behaviour tolerance has certainly gone down with kids disturbance more and more considered something others have to tolerate.

Where on earth do you live? I see this sort if thing, maybe once in a blue moon.

That and people who think that bringing their children along to an adult event will be lovely for us all, and that we are all marvelling at their precocity and creativity when they regale us with their extended story about a magical unicorn who goes round helping people.

I could have sworn I didn't bring DD to that wedding and yet you've heard her story

Other people’s Teenagers are generally better as they’re more interesting, lower maintenance (just supply food) and less squealy. But the mean ones are twats so it can go either way.

I'm convinced I wouldn't even like my own kids. I decided I didn't want them when I was about 14 and with every year that passes (I'm 30), I'm more sure of my decision

100% could’ve written your thread OP, as i can’t hide my feelings with facial expressions I avoid encounters with other people’s kids except nieces in small, short doses.

I don't think OP you are unreasonable. Hopefully you still want all children to do well and become lovely adults.

I have my own kids (now adults) and have worked in the past in child care.I help out one day a week with my nieces two little girls which I enjoy....but I have a younger friend who has two pre school aged children and she seems to think i want to spend lots of time with her kids.
They are lovely but very lively and I just can't be bothered .
Its going to be awkward come Sept because the hints about school runs have already started.No sorry I dont want to stand in a playground picking peoples kids up.
Didn't much enjoy the school run when I had to do it for my own.

So I totally get it OP

I’ve taught thousands of them and I can honestly say that I’d only want to be a parent to about 30 of them. The rest were irritating. Obviously, I disguised that well. My eight year old nephew also drives me nuts.

I work with toddlers and during lockdown I really missed some of them!

Mine are grown up so i cant tolerate other peoples small children....some of my friends have grandchildren so i find phones shoved in my face where im obliged to look at pics of their grandkids...im not interested in the slightest.

I generally like kids but I do know what you mean op..

If you have kids you have to suck it up.

Preventing your child from having sleepovers, parties or playdates because you don't like other kids is just selfish to me. Why should your child suffer for your issue.

I find other people's children a bit boring if I'm honest. Especially the early years...

"Oh really? He can roll? Amazing! Little Tarquin can say "moo" now when you point to a picture. How fascinating! Eating with a fork now? Wow, how grown up!"