I don't like other people's children.

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I think I am being very unreasonable but I actually can't stand other people's children unless they are family. My dc have lots of 'friends ' in the area and they are just mean and vindictive and I just cant bare the sound of their squeaky voices.

Mind you, I fall in love with every cat I see immediately.

I'm a nanny with no children but iI realise I'm even fonder of my work charged (who I've had daily from baby) age to even my child relatives Because they were raised by me I guess and I love them to pieces. But in general other kids annoy me greatly and even them I'm glad I can hand them over. I don't want children of my own at all which people can't get their heads around as I love the work kids so much.... even so I have at least 50 moments a day I say in my bead how greatful I am I don't have to have these kids 24/7!

YANBU. I have always adored my own children. Fact.

But I think that might be because they had round chubby faces and fat cheeks as babies. I'm a sucker for fat cheeks and dimples.

Babies with long thin faces, not so much. I'm aware this is very unfair.
But babies with fat cheeks and dimples seem to be more amenable. Maybe because they look so much more friendly and cute that they get more positive input.

However, as they grew up through baby and toddlerhood, my values changed. Thin faces against fat cheeks didn't count any more.

It's now more to do with not screaming your arse off in company, having a few manners, and acting like your parents have taught you something about being in the company of others.

It seems nowadays that kids rule the roost. Nobody teaches them how to behave or have any respect for the comfort of others. Not just older people. Other families who have taken the time to teach their children to behave normally (and most people do!)

Kids running riot in public places is the prevalence now.

So YANBU. If the kids are vindictive and mean I would send them home. There are plenty of well brought up kids around to foster friendship with. You can't do much about the squeaky voices though. It goes with the territory.

I’m quite happy to be around kids that are parented properly and have manners and social skills. I inwardly groaned when I was sat across from 2x 6 or 7 year olds on a flight to Tenerife last year with their parents sat behind them. I really thought their parents would get drunk, ignore the kids and the kids would be misbehaving and being attention-seeking shits. They were utterly charming and delightful with each other (siblings I think) and they got me all protective of them when the little shit in front of them kept turning round telling them that this or that noise probably meant the plane was going to crash. The charming kids starting getting a bit scared of this constant talk about plane crashes and death and said “please stop talking like that, I don’t like it”. Total manners, all the way, while the other kid was oblivious and kept on and on, winding them up.

I am also happy to be around kids who have SEN. (I work with them so usually know the difference between that and poor parenting. Unlike DH )

On a plane I can deal with crying toddlers and those having tantrums and those whose ears hurt enough to make them cry.

I just can’t STAND being near obnoxious whiny, impolite, screechy, stand on the plane seat/kick the plane seat/drop litter under the plane seat. But I realise it’s not their fault and then I hate the parents instead.

Me neither! Love mine and love their company. Don't really like being around other kids though.

YANBU loads of people feel that way!

I hear you, my children don't squeak so it's quite unbearable being around with most children

A tricky one threw a glockenspiel at my head and I never took to him, but aside from that they're alright

I volunteered at a special school. I was asked, and agreed to sit with a 12 year old autistic boy while he sat at a piano for music therapy while someone else played. He was non verbal and had a history of biting. Some minutes into the tune, he turned around to me and attached his teeth to my chest. His teeth were around my nipple.
I was scared because I knew that if he got a bit cross he'd just chomp down.It would not have been the first time he'd caused injury to a carer. As it happened, fortunately, his Mum walked in to see how he was doing. He was happy to see Mum and it distracted him so he let go his toothy grip on my breast.

I still did it again, but I wore more protective clothing. Padded my bra and wrists with hankies and cotton wool.

So I can't really do with NT kids who can't behave.There's no excuse.

I always love the kids i have in my class (once I have them trained) but some of them become fantastically repulsive, obnoxious little buggers when their parents appear. I find that weird because I’d have been on my best behaviour when my parents were around.

My patience wears out at half three though, and every child becomes irritating. For this reason, I plan to stay child free.

As someone who is maternal and who really prefers the company of children to adults I find this hilarious. YABU only because children are much more fun than adults. Most kids. Some are spoilt and bratty and annoying. But most aren’t.
Teenagers on the other hand, yuk, horrid.

It's OK. Other people probably don't like your children either.

SimonJT

Yup. Agree.

Other children - so my son’s friends - I really didn’t like at all.

Other dogs, however, brilliant.

I’ve always felt this way and never found anyone who has ever agreed with me! I don’t usually mind babies and am quite happy to hold them, I like my best friend’s and family members’ small children, but as they get older I find them hard to talk to and annoying when they demand so much attention and misbehave. Sounds horrible, but once they are old enough to properly talk I lose all interest and just find them irritating rather than cute. I hope I don’t feel this way about my own kids!

I'm very much on my own then! I think yabu. I think it's sad when parents make their thoughts about other children known to their own children too.

I don't think anyone does. I see myself as quite maternal, was broody before I had my toddler etc, but I still don't like other people's kids really. I like them up until they are three.

I quite like them not pre schoolers or babies but primary age upwards. But only if properly parented. No one sane likes Verruca Salt type children.

I love my own kids. Must admit I'm not keen on other peoples. Wasnt even keen on kids before I had my own. Its weird as love spending time with mine and doing stuff but dislike having kids over to play. Getting together with friends and their kids. I do it as my kids enjoy it but really dont want to spend any more time than I have to woth other peoples kids.

A lot of people are obnoxious and unlikeable in anything but very small amounts; children are people, so it stands to reason that the same would hold true for them, as well.

If a child's not bratty, I like them more than the average adult, but when a spoilt child is misbehaving, it's especially annoying, mainly due to the sheer level of noise they can make and the expectation (of some) that you shouldn't mind, because they're young. At least there's less stigma around disliking irritating adults, so there's less need to hide your disgust.

Me either

Hell is other people’s children

So they say
I usually like them if they are nice

I can't stand kids. Mine are ok. I quite like that particular pair. School concerts were always an ordeal. 60 kids singing out of tune with precocious Jocasta hamming up her lead role. The thing that really amuses me now is the trend for parents to put their performing angels on Facebook either singing really badly or doing some shite dance routine. I'm not fucking interested your kids won't appreciate being plastered on social media in five years time.

I do wonder what those saying “yeah I bet others don’t like you or your kids either” are aiming for. I’m totally fine with that and very self aware thank you. I think others that feel like me are also pretty self aware too. I don’t except others to love my kids but I make an effort to keep them in check when around others (ie not racing around like a loon or being annoying AF. Some parents clearly are not concerned by this behaviour in social scenarios however)

Mine are grown up now but I work in a Special School.
I am very fond of many of the children at school.. even the bitey chair throwing varieties because they are fascinating personalities and forming bonds with them feels such a privilege.

But regular kids?
Nope. I quite like aged 4-7 if they are polite because they are so funny, but after that..na.

And I don't want to hold any babies, all newborns look like prunes. Give me a puppy or kitten!