I don't like other people's children.

[Coffeebreakkk]

I think I am being very unreasonable but I actually can't stand other people's children unless they are family. My dc have lots of 'friends ' in the area and they are just mean and vindictive and I just cant bare the sound of their squeaky voices.

Barely tolerate babies and young kids, can just about put up with teenagers, I’m a staunch ante nativist though and feel having kids is egocentric.

I'm not very keen on children between the ages of about 4 and about 12 - the ages where you're expected to carry on an actual conversation with them, but they can only talk about tedious rubbish. I'm hopeful that I'll still like DS at this age, though - I thought he was amazing as a newborn despite generally being very unfussed by tiny babies, so I'm hoping those same rose-tinted specs will go back on!

😂😂 anti natalist not anti natisvist! I’m not running round banning nativity plays

I'm not into other people's kids either, except my best friends two and obviously my own daughter. But other than that I just have no time for other kids. I can visit a friends baby and be like aww they're cute and then happily go a year without seeing them again. I'm just not a kiddy person, except for the 3 mentioned above

And even them I struggle with often.

They looked outraged, but ahead of other passengers said “Yeah!!!” And stood up and clapped.

Same, the temptation to kick them is real.

I like my ds, the mate we’ve brought on holiday with us, one other of ds mates but tolerate most of the others

Whiney, picky with food, antisocial, that faux shyness that’s really just rudeness, or so needy and clingy you can’t have a moments peace with their parent.

Don’t get me started on how my dsis kids are, or my oh dc.... sheesh, my roots already need doing badly enough already!

It’s ok not to like everyone or their kids. We don’t like every adult we meet.

Insideout99

I do wonder what those saying “yeah I bet others don’t like you or your kids either” are aiming for. I’m totally fine with that and very self aware thank you. I think others that feel like me are also pretty self aware too. I don’t except others to love my kids but I make an effort to keep them in check when around others

Exactly what I was thinking.

I made a particular point of not being that mother who, during a conversation with a friend, would break off immediately if my child appeared:

"Really? You're getting divorced and your mother just died and...

YES! It's a LOVELY stone, darling! You're soooo clever to pick it up!
Show Auntie-Bereaved-and-Imminent-Divorcee!" etc

They're in their 20s.
Seem well-adjusted and still love me.

Still weep when they see a pebble, mind...

I like children from a distance.

I remind myself they have poor impulse control and their brains aren't developed so whilst they may annoy me, I don't hold it against them.

That said I can tolerate a lot more nuisance from my own child than I can someone else's, because I know that those children are not my responsibility and I can just walk away, where as I can't walk away from my son, but I also love my son, whereas I don't always love the other children I'm near.

I don't have any. I'm really not too keen on young children at all, I don't find babies or toddlers cute or appealing in the slightest. I think it's the high pitched noises and the food-wearing. I find they improve with age though and once they get to about 7-8, they can be absolutely hilarious.

On the whole I don't mind other people's children. It is other people's parenting that's the problem more often than not.

"Whiney, picky with food*

That you've just spent twenty quid on, which they chose from the menu and then didn't eat it. And their mum has sent them in hol with you wit 50p spending money. Not that I'm bitter or owt

@Hedgehog44

I don't like kids at all. They are all pretty much annoying and horrible. I never encouraged my son to have parties or play dates. Yuk. I hear you.

How selfish

Yabu. I don't think your own children will thank you for that attitude, OP. I remember when I was a child and my mum didn't like some of my friends. I found it quite upsetting, it made me feel kinda insecure and uncomfortable. So I try to like my kids' friends, or not show any obvious dislike.

Ghastly little fuckers the lot of them.
Apart from my own little cherubs or course, my loveable little twats are the bees knees.

YABU or intolerant, I find most children fine, like most adults, I like my children's friends as they are funny. I don't understand how anyone can dislike babies. Even quite mischievous children I find funny, I find their boldness or some things they say so outrageous that they are actually comical!

@justilou1

I have found my tribe! I have told people on a long international flight that nobody else found their child adorable and that his running around was causing a safety risk for the flight attendants, keeping people awake and pissing everyone else off. The flight attendants weren’t paid to babysit him while they drank themselves into a stupor. I said that if they didn’t sit him down and deal, I’d lick him in the toilet. They looked outraged, but ahead of other passengers said “Yeah!!!” And stood up and clapped.

You did what now?

“justilou1

I have found my tribe! I have told people on a long international flight that nobody else found their child adorable and that his running around was causing a safety risk for the flight attendants, keeping people awake and pissing everyone else off. The flight attendants weren’t paid to babysit him while they drank themselves into a stupor. I said that if they didn’t sit him down and deal, I’d lick him in the toilet. They looked outraged, but ahead of other passengers said “Yeah!!!” And stood up and clapped.“

Wow a real “everyone stood up and clapped” story in the wild. I’d heard of these but had never seen one for myself.
Now I can finally say; Of all the things that never happened, this never happened the most.
Thank you poster, for giving me this opportunity.

I’m fine with other children when they’re away from their parents.
If they’re being a pain and I’m the adult in charge then it’s usually fairly easy to sort out ground rules.
If their own parents (family or not) are there, indulgently tolerating gittishness, then it’s hell.

I find young kids/babies annoying and draining. Im not one to jump for a hold or to babysit. I leave the area with a newborn cry

Older kids and teens, im ok with, even other peoples lol

Are we supposed to like them?

Crikey, what sort of children and adults do you lot all come into contact with? I like most of my children's friends and they are not badly behaved or boring conversationally. I think you should make more effort to get to know the children you come into contact with. Whilst, as with adults, you won't like all of them, you might at least find some young people whose company you don't immediately dismiss on the basis of their age.

I like and can tolerate other people's dc just fine. My own really know how to push my buttons and wind me up! 😅

I love my own children and generally enjoy them however there are only about a handful of my childrens friends that I actually like. The others seem so over barring and irritating.