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Original poster

Aberdeen lockdown.

55 replies

recklessruby · 05/08/2020 17:21

I have just heard that the city is now on lockdown for at least a week due to selfish people rushing out to the pub.
I live in England and am due to fly back home (I m Scottish) on sunday.
I want to see my 79 year old parents. How many more summers will I see them for?
Aibu to literally break down crying (alone dont want adult dc to see) and drink myself to sleep?
I hate myself for being stuck here. I m a teacher and only have school holidays to go back.
Ds 32 and I have a plan to go back permanently once Dd 26 leaves home but I cant stop worrying I wont see them again.
Df has health problems so I m not being dramatic.
I was in a relationship with an English man,so I stayed here but I m not now.
I m 52 and feel like a little girl and it s taking all my willpower not to cry.
Sorry to unload, I just cant talk to anyone irl as they all know me as the strong one.

OP posts:
Caplin · 05/08/2020 17:31

Why do you need to wait for DD to leave? My parents upped sticks twice leaving behind kids in early 20s whilst they lived abroad.

She is 26, if she is responsible she could rent out rooms.

The lockdown applies to Aberdeen City and is for 7 days. Could you delay, or stay in Aberdeenshire?

Caplin · 05/08/2020 17:34

To add, you aren’t coming for a holiday, you could argue you have caring responsibilities. You can then just sit in their garden.

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recklessruby · 05/08/2020 17:39

@Caplin thank you i didnt think of that! I m in the south east of England so only get up for school hols. Expected back on 2 sept.
Also dd is saving for a deposit as it's super expensive here and her boyfriend s work has been affected by covid

OP posts:
dancemom · 05/08/2020 17:45

Please do not travel to Aberdeen. These lockdowns are brought in for a reason. Scottish Goverments advice is not to travel to the area, please respect this.

KrabbyPatties · 05/08/2020 17:47

Op stay away

I am in exactly the same position and can’t go home either now

Original poster
recklessruby · 05/08/2020 17:54

@KrabbyPatties do you think I will get a refund/postponed for later flight?
Sorry you're in the same position.

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YeahWhatevver · 05/08/2020 17:56

Stay away

people need to stop making excuses and finding wriggle room to work around the restrictions by trying to make out their situation is particularly special.

YeahWhatevver · 05/08/2020 17:59

People are being told not to travel to Aberdeen, and those living in the city face travel restrictions.

Pretty clear cut.

Caplin · 05/08/2020 18:25

People are being told not to travel for leisure. They can still travel for work. I would also argue that if you have elderly parents it seems crazy that people in Aberdeen can continue to visit (outdoors), but people outside can’t. That isn’t what the guidance or the regulations say.

Caplin · 05/08/2020 18:27

Caring responsibilities are allowed and were allowed throughout the full lock down.

SheepandCow · 05/08/2020 18:35

If Aberdeen airport is open I don't see how OP coming to care for elderly unwell parents makes any difference. She's probably far less of a risk for spreading it than international arrivals (coming from Brazil, the US, Spain, India, etc).

Ellisandra · 05/08/2020 18:38

She wouldn’t be going for caring responsibilities though.

I’m sorry OP, hopefully it’ll just be 7 days and you can get up before school starts again.

SheepandCow · 05/08/2020 18:38

@dancemom

Please do not travel to Aberdeen. These lockdowns are brought in for a reason. Scottish Goverments advice is not to travel to the area, please respect this.
Someone had better tell Aberdeen airport. According to its website it remains open for international travel.
Caplin · 05/08/2020 18:40

@ellisandra she is hardly planning a hard partying holiday! She is spending time with elderly, poorly parents.

Ellisandra · 05/08/2020 18:43

@Caplin - I know it isn’t a party, and I really feel for her. But she is not going to perform caring responsibilities. She is going because she cares, and especially because they are older and one is unwell. It’s a horrible situation. But it’s not caring responsibilities. I’m not even saying she shouldn’t go - do what’s right with your own conscience. But I don’t think it’s right to call it caring responsibilities - though to be clear, OP didn’t say it was!

AgentProvocateur · 05/08/2020 18:46

A lot of the flights to/from Aberdeen airport are for the guys on the rigs. They’ll be classed as essential workers.

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recklessruby · 05/08/2020 19:00

Obviously I m not actively in a caring role as I m usually in England with a full time job but my father has had a few strokes and he has fits sometimes, my mother isnt strong enough to help him during one. My brother was staying there but also teaches in Sheffield and has gone back for meetings etc.
I have a sister in London too. We all try to be around a lot for them taking it in turns.

OP posts:
SheepandCow · 05/08/2020 19:02

I realised many will be on the oil rigs. That won't stop them being an infection risk. Lockdown is pointless without quarantine (private transport from airport to quarantine hotels).

It won't just be essential workers. Unless Scotland has restricted holidays abroad? Aberdeen locals will be returning from hotspots like Spain.

As the airport is operating normally OP might as well visit her elderly unwell parents.

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recklessruby · 05/08/2020 19:08

I m quite willing to have a covid test on arrival and departure.
I have been really careful and was off work march till june as school was closed. Only been in part time till july 17th and no active teaching.

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VoldemortsMaid · 05/08/2020 19:12

@recklessruby Come and visit your parents.

This bloody local lockdown is the fault of two offshore wankers thinking their need for a pub crawl is more important than spreading this fucking virus.

If you stay safe, take the proper precautions then come and see your parents. People like you and people that are cautious don't spread the virus like those two fucking wankers do.

Edintink1 · 05/08/2020 19:15

We have been asked not to travel to Aberdeen. Don’t go.

lyralalala · 05/08/2020 19:21

The difference in attitude of the oil companies hasn't helped this

Someone I know repairs things on rigs so works for a company that does work on rigs belonging to different oil companies. For one company he has a 7 day quarantine in a hotel (not allowed to leave the hotel, meals and drinks served to the room door) plus a test before flying out. Then another has zero restrictions at all.

JazzTheDog · 05/08/2020 19:26

I am regretting not having purchased the school uniform yet. Had planned to shop in Aberdeen tomorrow. Ach well...

uniglowooljumper · 05/08/2020 19:31

@SheepandCow

If Aberdeen airport is open I don't see how OP coming to care for elderly unwell parents makes any difference. She's probably far less of a risk for spreading it than international arrivals (coming from Brazil, the US, Spain, India, etc).
Bollocks, it's rife in other areas of the UK like Manchester and Leicester.

The airport is open because people have to go through there to work so we can keep running as a country, you know, oil fuels important things like infrastructure. Hmm

The virus is spread by people, nothing to do with being 'selfish' when you're simply living. Unless we stay locked up forever, covid19 is something we all need to accept as something to live with. Locking down forever isn't an option.

Babyboomtastic · 05/08/2020 19:32

If your sister is 'in London too' then can your daughter go and live with her until she gets her deposit?

If you want to go back home to Scotland, then please do. If you wait until she had a house deposit, then the next thing will probably be grand children, and you will never go back.