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How do you know if you’re an alcoholic

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Tea111 · 05/08/2020 02:03

Nc just to post this. Please no p**s takers I just want genuine advice and might sound like a stupid question But: how do I know if a) I’m an alcoholic and have issues with drinking or b) I’m just stressed and drink too much?

Take just today for an example: ndn were pissing me off as usual and instead of waiting for weekend like I promised myself I poured a drink (vodka and lemonade) just to get through the evening. I put on headphones to block them and just had a drink. I got super relaxed and didn’t feel drunk at all so poured another. The evening in some parts is a blur. DH and I took kids out for dinner and I remember parts of it. Didn’t drink when out just had lemonade. Came home we fought and he said “you’re a drunk, everyone could see in Restarant you were drunk”. He stormed off and left me to deal with kids which I did manage as usual and got them to bed. I’ve woken up now very embarrassed and determined to just spill rest of bottle in sink. I just don’t have anyone to talk to. I think I may have overreacted at neighbours which is definitely a good thing if I did as my usual non-drunk personality is doormat who just takes s**t and smiles and is friendly.

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lazylinguist · 27/06/2021 11:40

You may not be physically dependent on alcohol, but you certainly have a drink problem, which could still be described as being an alcoholic.

It will be very hard to untangle how much of your situation is down to your relationship,your anxiety/depression and alcohol itself, as they are all interconnected. One thing is for sure - being sober will make it much easier to deal with the rest of your issues. Dealing with anxiety by drinking is just a vicious circle, because (next day,and long-term) alcohol makes anxiety much worse, not better. It sounds as though AA could be a good plan here.

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Freckles17 · 27/06/2021 12:47

I see I have not proof read my post ! Always rushing ! It should say 10 months not 20 ! All the best , hope u work things out x

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