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To ask what is the most ridiculous reason someone has fallen out with you?

735 replies

Rainbowb · 04/08/2020 07:13

Need a bit of solidarity right now!

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julybaby32 · 04/08/2020 21:33

I mean suppose you DD had arrived a week later.

shinyredbus · 04/08/2020 21:38

Friend of mine dropped me when I fell pregnant. She was upset because apparently i was not good enough to be a mum.

SingingSands · 04/08/2020 21:39

Because I dared to the leave the dead-end job we both worked at in a call centre, and get a better job with real career prospects.

Yeah, how dare I Hmm

Charleyhorses · 04/08/2020 21:39

Because they had professed their undying love for a colleague and offered to leave their husband. Barking up the wrong tree there. Said person assumed he had confided this in another friend and assumed that she told me.
She literally blanked me totally. I only actually found out what it was about 2 years later!

Akrotiri1 · 04/08/2020 21:43

I fell out with a very good friend, because when she came to visit one day, my 9yr old son did not say 'good morning' too her. She started ranting at me how I was a bad parent and she expected better of me!!!!

Completely bizarre, and tbh just put it down to her having a bad day (looking back she could be quite moody), and fully expected an apology the next day - it never came so we have not really spoken since.

Very sad as we had been close for years......

PablosHoney · 04/08/2020 21:44

Omg 😆 ‘Silk capped indignation’ 😂😂

Thornhill58 · 04/08/2020 21:45

A friend fell out with me over BLM and her repugnance to my white privilege apparently.

Thornhill58 · 04/08/2020 21:46

@mdh2020 not a simple fix 😢

Sceptre86 · 04/08/2020 21:47

Once sil fell out with me because I said no to giving her son anymore crisps i had with me as snacks for my own kids. He had eaten two packs! She also had crisps in her own bag for him.

More recently she has fallen out with me because I am due to start back lessons with my driving instructor and she has decided she doesn't like him because he negatively affects her confidence. He has a very sarcastic sense of humour, she is from abroad and doesn't get it. He is also the fourth instructor she hasn't gelled with.

She stopped talking to me for a few weeks when she found out I was having a son even though she has one herself. I think she just looks for an excuse.

Sceptre86 · 04/08/2020 21:48
  • jelled even
TheId · 04/08/2020 21:53

I have fallen out with 2 people over lending/ giving clothes. The rules never seem to be clear and I just decline any offers now as not worth it.

Ex friend 1 loaned some nice maternity clothes. It was very helpful of her and much appreciated. I gave them all back when I no longer needed them or so I thought. She insisted there was another pair of black trousers that I didn't return. She was very particular about the description make, size and everything. I had another look but I really don't have them and I maintain I never did. She stopped speaking to me and I assume she thinks I stole them but why would I steal a pair of maternity trousers when I am not pregnant? And just that one item and none of the rest?? Is a pair of trousers worth ending a friendship over. Clearly she thought so.

Ex friend 2 insisted on giving me all her DDs outgrown clothes for my DD. I didn't actually want most of them. Some of them were really tatty and had to go in the bin eg leggings with holes in. I accepted out of politeness. She only had 1 DD and I assumed this was a gift not a loan. In fact she often used to imply that it was In lieu of petrol money because I had a car and she didn't and I used to give her a lot of free lifts. Years later she suddenly asked for all the clothes back to sell. I gave her back what I still had but it wasn't much as it had worn out or been passed on. She was very cross denied it was ever a gift and actually tried to get me to pay for some ridiculous price which she said she would have got selling them.

So as far as clothes are concerned I am going with grandma's advice: neither a borrower nor a lender be.

looselegs · 04/08/2020 21:54

I asked my best friend of several years to be my chief bridesmaid. She didn't like the colour of the bridesmaid dresses,declined to be chief bridesmaid and never spoke to me again!

MrsAvocet · 04/08/2020 21:57

Someone I used to be very friendly with wanted gossip about the leaders of an after school activity that one of my children used to attend. I told her that I didn't know anything as we had moved on to other hobbies. I found myself instantly blocked on social media and never spoken to again. I think I was supposed to go running back begging for forgiveness for this awful slight. I didn't.Hmm

Malin52 · 04/08/2020 21:58

A friend at university fell out with me because I sliced the ends off the mushroom stalks and binned them when I was helping her to make a mushroom risotto.

She declared she didn't have the money for me to be wasting food and I was showing my 'privilege'. My privilege was I got a full grant to go to university (1990s, both parents made redundant from their blue collar jobs) and she had to rely on her accountant father for money. Me, Northern comprehensive, her, expensive boarding school.

She didn't speak to me for the remaining 2 years and 6 months of university and anyone speaking to me when they were friends with her would be similarly ousted.

TheId · 04/08/2020 21:59

I just thought of an even sillier one

I once fell out slightly with another friend (still friends but it was tense for a while) over a bit of Tupperware. She made a meal for me and brought it over in this plastic Tupperware type box. When she asked for it back I'd lost the lid. Apparently this was a mortal sin. It must have cost all of 1.99. I bought her another one but apparently it wasn't the same.

I think people just have a different attitude to stuff than I do. I have no particular expectation of getting back Tupperware boxes, biros, baby clothes or paperback books but it seems like a lot of people get very upset about such matters.

HeyMicky · 04/08/2020 22:02

I suggested we meet midway between our houses for a picnic instead of at the park right near her house, which would have meant a 90min drive for me Confused

PainintheholeSIL · 04/08/2020 22:02

My husband fell out with me a couple of weeks ago because he booked the kettle to wash the dishes and I said I'm sure we have hot water and turned in the tap to check. He was livid. I was Hmm

Boireannachlaidir · 04/08/2020 22:09

Because I wasn't willing to meet their early on ridiculous bridezilla demands and clearly hadn't channelled enough energy and thought in how to properly cater to their every whim for the whole year and a half leading up to the wedding. They demoted me in the wedding duty "hierarchy".

WiddlinDiddlin · 04/08/2020 22:21

Hmm...

She asked me if she could date a guy I was very close friends with (She also incorrectly assumed I fancied him).

I said no, because I knew the attraction was not him but a/ taking something from me and b/ she didn't really view him as a 'real man' (rebound relationship from a 'real man' who treated her like crap).

She ignored me (well, why ask), went out with him, treated him like shit, made him feel awful then dumped him (which is why I'd said no)...

He and I are still friends 20+ years later, she and I haven't spoken since that night.

From a similar era, friend and I used to do lots of stuff together, each others houses once a week... then she got a boyfriend. Fine, I had one, not an issue..

However she worked full time and he lived a good hour away, she was busier than I, so I said 'well, you call me when you are free, cos I am almost always free'... after I got sick of being dumped for him...

She didn't call.

I er... posted on an internet forum we both use, advertising for a new sidekick, which I thought was funny.

She didn't. We talk now, but it ain't the same!

Scoobydoobywho · 04/08/2020 22:24

Her husband told her that I was willing to sleep with him if he wanted to, this was news to me.

NoemiaElara · 04/08/2020 22:28

I didn't wish her 2 year old daughter happy birthday the day my dad died of cancer. I was a day late. She didn't even give me chance to explain that I had spent the day at the nursing home with his dead body so her child wasn't really top of my priorities.

Pomegranatepompom · 04/08/2020 22:29

A friend was online dating, she found out where a man she'd been chatting to was going for drinks and wanted to go along to the bar and pretend to recognise him. He hadn't invited her, I felt was a bit stalker ish and refused to go. Apparently I was a negative influence !

thefairyfellersmasterstroke · 04/08/2020 22:37

A relative hasn't spoken to me in 25 years because I didn't send her a wedding invitation, even though she had already told me she couldn't be there as she would be abroad at the time.

It was news to me that you still had to invite people who had already declined!

LavaLamp5566 · 04/08/2020 22:41

I fell out with someone I barely know because she dated my OH back in secondary school and she's "hurt that I could do that to someone I went to school with"

Had to laugh really, she was in the year above me and I only knew her because she was friends with my cousin who I only saw twice a month every other month

Purpleorange1 · 04/08/2020 22:44

My sibling stopped talking to me 4 years ago because my husband took me and the kids on holiday abroad twice that year! It was the first time in 13 years that we had a holiday abroad.

The same sibling accused me of trying ruin their marriage 16yrs ago. Only remembered that after my holidays😂 they hated me that much that they happily took all the expensive gifts I would buy them and their family.
I have zero contact and prefer it that way,jealous fuckers