To ask what is the most ridiculous reason someone has fallen out with you?

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Need a bit of solidarity right now!

Uni friend lived close to me and we used to meet at the bus stop and take the same bus in the morning. One day she was late so I got on the bus without her - didn't want to be late for my lecture. She refused to speak to me ever since.

My flatmate at uni sent me a ranty email telling me to stop spreading lies about her being in a relationship with someone - keep in mind I was in hospital having an operation at the time. Except that was the first time I had even heard about that relationship (and the rumours turned out to be true).

Fucking hell, Katherine's tale just went in a direction I did not expect.

My neighbour.

They started a big renovation on their house, and then just swanned off overseas to avoid the chaos, and left their dog at home. Then I saw a note in my postbox TELLING me to feed pooch 2 x per day and times.

The renovation finished and they finally came home and didn't even have the decency to say thanks for looking after their dog, for a month!

A few months later I get a panicked message from him, they were away (again) and had forgotten to pay their electricity account, and they were disconnected. He was going to sort it out when he got back, but in the meantime could I go and get all his meat out of the double door freezer and keep in mine so it doesn't go off. And could I please do an itinery of what they had in there so they know what is theirs when they get back. I replied, no sorry my electricity is off too (it just so happened it was at the time as we had a short power cut). They blocked me everywhere and even on Facebook . Years later I will do the odd and forced wave, but he still hasnt actually spoken to me unless its hey is your water off type of convo.

Cheeky bastard. I have never been so happy to be blocked by someone.

Biancadelrioisback I have similar, I was asked to donate eggs for a fairly new friend, who in hindsight only got to know me in order to make request. I said no, straight away and he (asking on behalf of him and his partner ) was aghast I said no so quickly. I said I didn't need time to think, I knew absolutely straight away what my answer was. Didn't wait to hear why etc, he just went straight to being appalled and I quote "disgusted" with me and he never spoke to me again, which was a bit awkward as we worked on same team at work. He actually asked me over lunch in staff canteen . He was working his notice already though, which helped. I didn't go to the leaving party.

I also had a friend fall out with me in school because I got a boyfriend and they were jealous! They then proceeded to go around telling everyone what a user I was! Nuts!

I also once declined an invite to a friend's birthday party because I unfortunately had no way of getting there (didn't drive) and they already had too many people going in their car (despite all of them being able to drive). Never spoke to me again.

That I didn't tell a friend (another school parent) that I had gone from 4 to 5 days at work. The main objection seemed to be that I had told a mutual friend, but only because it came up in conversation.

I still can't get my head around it, it was a rushed decision caused by DH's ill health at the time and making announcements was not really on my radar.

I was round a mum friend's house having coffee and we were talking about hand-me-downs (she'd just had her 2nd boy, I had a girl). She said that she never dressed the second one in the first one's clothes, she threw them all in the bin as soon as they were outgrown and was buying everything new for the 2nd baby. Oh, I said, why not donate the stuff to the charity shop in the high street instead of chucking it all out. I mentioned that I'd found a few nice clothes in there and at car boot sales for my dd.

The look of sheer horror on her face was quite something, and she clearly though it was disgusting to dress my dd in second-hand clothes.

She never spoke to me again.

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Biancadelrioisback I have similar, I was asked to donate eggs for a fairly new friend, who in hindsight only got to know me in order to make request. I said no, straight away and he (asking on behalf of him and his partner ) was aghast I said no so quickly. I said I didn't need time to think, I knew absolutely straight away what my answer was. Didn't wait to hear why etc, he just went straight to being appalled and I quote "disgusted" with me and he never spoke to me again, which was a bit awkward as we worked on same team at work. He actually asked me over lunch in staff canteen . He was working his notice already though, which helped. I didn't go to the leaving party.

Donate eggs as in... for an Easter raffle? Or to create children that you are a biological mother to?!

When I was a teenager a friend asked me if I thought she would be good in bed (neither of us were even having sex) I said I had no idea and she went mental. It was all so weird. 😂

Same girl also fell out with me because I got up and had a shower when she was staying at mine while she was still asleep one morning. I was only gone 5 minutes.

Highly strung is an understatement. Odd girl.

Because I was sick on his 30th birthday and didn't go to his birthday party. Blatantly ignored me for 2 years and then one day seemed to snap out of it.

I can’t be sure of the reason but I think it’s this. A friend had a DD about 8yrw older than mine. She started giving me her outgrown clothes. Every time I saw her she’d have a box. She even gave me roller blades and a helmet etc... the last time I saw her she mentioned that she had stuff for me, I politely said I’m sorry I can’t take anymore as I don’t want to store this stuff for 6 years until it fits. Perhaps there was a friend with a DD closer in age to pass then too. Didn’t hear from her again.

I wrote a play and a woman from my writer's group came. The play was in the back of a pub at 9:30pm and had warnings on the flyers that it was for adults only (swearing and sexual references). She brought her 10 year old SEN child with her and her husband without asking me if it was child friendly and I had no idea. She hasn't spoken to me since and her husband looked as though he was going to punch me afterwards, before they stormed out.

@newjez #suchfun xoxoxoxooxoxoxxoxoxoxoxo

MindGrapes the creating children type of eggs. It was so weird, I had actually got on well with him up until that point.

It gets weirder - DH worked for the same company and had been sitting at lunch with us for a while before leaving friend and I to finish pudding.

Then wham! I did know he and wife had fertility issues but didnt see that coming. The whole situation was ridiculous.

I was out with a group of friends when we were 17. One had an 18 year old boyfriend, who offered to buy alcohol for everyone at the bar. Most people - his girlfriend included - told him their order and returned to their conversation. I offered to help him carry the drinks back; seeing as there were lots and nobody else had offered. "Friend" interpreted this as me trying to steal her boyfriend

Chap I was in a long-term dating relationship with abruptly cut off all contact with me because he overheard me explaining to my kids that I wouldn't need his help with some DIY as I'd already booked a tradesperson to do the work.

Friend sent me a message out of the blue asking me to repay her the £3.25 I'd borrowed as "it was starting to get awkward". I couldn't remember borrowing it and it was the first time she'd mentioned it, but I thought 'ah must be my mistake'. I messaged her back to say I would be away for a couple of weeks so either I could give it to her when I next saw her or I could I transfer it to her. She said she wasn't prepared to give me her bank details so I'd have to post her a cheque. So I posted her a cheque. For £3.25. Which she then didn't cash.

My big sister because she met a guy online, a drug addict, she met him a few times and wanted to marry him. She has three kids and is in her 40s. One of her kids had just got over leukaemia- and our whole family objected to the marriage and even the guys family objected saying he needs rehab, not another relationship! Her friends too told her they do not support her! We were sure she’s suffering from stress and exhaustion!

It was her first time dating. Ever. Her first marriage was at 18 to her childhood sweetheart she had met at school. She had got divorced during her daughter’s leukaemia and really hadn’t even got over her ex. The guy she met online had two failed marriages and without dating him at all (she lives in Liverpool he lives in London round his sister’s house since he was thrown out by his wife - and he couldn’t afford to travel back and forth he said!) she got engaged to him.

She said she was tired of being the good girl and wants to make a few mistakes! It’s love!

I didn’t go to the wedding. No one did. Her friends did not attend either. She had to pay for his train fair there! She threw him out the day after the wedding. They made up again after a few weeks. I met him once after the wedding when she came round to meet the family. She stopped talking to me (we used to talk all the time) because (she told people afterwards... he was taking money from her for drugs and she didn’t want to lie to me.)

He died of a drug overdose I heard about seven months after the wedding.

In my life I always had her back even when she didn’t have mine. I had to get some distance from her drama at the time because I had just turned a corner in my life and got pregnant and wanted to concentrate on my health and making positive changes, I have my own business, was designing a website. There’s only so much you can try and help without that drama affecting you negatively.

We still don’t talk. Now she doesn’t talk to anyone in the family since his death.

I wish her well.

Because I wouldn't break lockdown rules...& she did multiple times since the start so took my declining an invitation (which broke restrictions) with a sneery retort that I am a goody-two-shoes & judgy. I haven't heard from her since. I just said thanks, but no...I didn't say anything about non compliance ..in fact she started by saying ' you prob won't come ...'. By the way, I'm not judgy...unprompted she's been sneery about lots of things incl people who are compliant & banging on about people's intolerance & how birthday celebrations are important (and such like!). I merely said in general terms that I was happy to comply as the sooner the spread stops, the better as I have immediate family that I haven't seen in over a year. Each to their own I say, but I'd rather not see yet another wave.

My bestfriend had a scan and they found a mass and thought it could be cancerous. Our other twat friend did not want to hear about it and decided to change the conversation by saying " this is just too much I can't hear this. It's so sad. Tell me something nice about myself to boost me"
She then proceeded to fall out with us for weeks because we wouldn't tell her something nice about herself and we were unsupportive of her
She pops up and suggested we end the friendship and I said great idea goodbye. (not what she expected I would say apparently)

Bloody hell @KatherineofTarragon the level of vitriol towards that woman and the enjoyment you have gotten out of her struggling is cringe inducing. It reflects on you incredibly badly, you sound like a bully.

It can't be healthy to hold onto such anger and be keen to have it out with someone after that long, especially someone who has clearly struggled ever since.

Had shared lots with this friend - she picked me up when I was at a really low point and was really good to me. I paid her back by dog sitting, horse sitting, feeding her kids (and her) on many evenings when she couldn't be bothered to cook, ironing, taking holiday to help her move house including cleaning her kitchen (and oven!) til it was spotless. Then she had an affair, husband moved out and she used me to dogsit whilst she was off shagging this other bloke. I said "no" one time as it was winter and our cats were getting too old to live outside (which they had to when the dog came visiting as it attacked them). She stormed round to my house and let fly using every curse word under the sun and rounded off with ranting about my son (who was going through some MH issues at the time) and telling me I should get my house in order before refusing to help her.

Later found out that not only did she bad mouth me at every opportunity but she had used me as a cover for more than one extra marital fling - saw her in Aldi a couple of years later and she blanked me totally. Not sorry to not have her as a friend any more

I walked into a new job to find that someone I had worked very closely with twenty years before was going to be one of my main contacts. Hadn’t given him a second thought in the intervening years but we’d worked together day in, day out for a good year, had lunch together, been on nights out etc, and I’d thought he was a nice guy, so I was pleased to see him. However the new people I had to work with were inexplicably hostile and I couldn’t work out where I was going wrong, so I asked him for some clues. He didn’t really tell me anything useful, and I found out much later he had been bad-mouthing me to anyone who would listen and then told them all I’d burst into floods of tears in front of him- I certainly had not- and begged for help. No idea what his issue with me was, but he clearly had one that he’d been nursing for two decades. Bizarre.

A friend fixed me up with another friend of hers on a blind date and we got on well. When I told her we were going for a second date she went ballistic as she fancied him herself.

Because I wouldn't lend her £1000 to go on holiday.

Because I couldn't commit to going to her wedding in the Caribbean, 6 weeks after my baby was due.