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To ask what is the most ridiculous reason someone has fallen out with you?

735 replies

Rainbowb · 04/08/2020 07:13

Need a bit of solidarity right now!

OP posts:
wingsanddreams · 05/08/2020 19:32

Many years ago I moved to another country. My tenancy contract was not completed so I gave the rental money in local currency to my friend and asked her to bank transfer it to my landlord so she could obtain a transaction record for me. However my friend, who was a single lady, decided to meet up with the landlord, who was a millionaire, and handed over cash in person. She then told me the next day her motorbike was stolen because she rode it across the whole city to meet the landlord and parked it somewhere she wasn't familiar with. So I asked her how much it would cost to buy a new motorbike and paid her the cost. Back then I couldn't understand why she had to meet my landlord who was a total stranger to her, even though I specifically asked her to do a bank transfer. Many years later I suddenly realised why. We never spoke again after she got her new motorbike money from me.

withadivinebeatlesbaseline · 05/08/2020 19:32

@Happynow001

The 3 of us have all been blocked and not heard from her for 7 years now. Result!
Grin I guess so! Looking back now I don’t know why we tolerated her awful behaviour for so many years
ticktackted · 05/08/2020 19:37

For getting divorced from a lying ex. The friend who hasn't spoken to me since is herself divorced... I'm baffled tbh. 10+ years friendship gone, and she's not particularly close to my ex! Seems she was surprised, maybe didn't like that I hadn't given her all the live gossip? Another friend got incredibly dramatic with me for "not being interested enough" in her and her baby when I was working 50 hour weeks and making a huge effort to stay in touch, but I think hormones were involved there!

TAKESNOSHITSHIRLEY · 05/08/2020 19:39

we follow a "alternative"lifestyle to 99% of society

we do gentle/hippy parenting and also home educate(HE) as i dont think your children's education should be dictated by the government

i also dont believe that children should be in a school/daycare facilities as they should be with a parent in a home setting
and a parent should be with the child up till 5 at least or never leave them

i especially dont believe in special school for disabled kids as i think its glorified day care

many,many people dont agree but its my opinion and how we live our life,you live yours and as long as neither judge so be it

in 16 years(oldest nearly 16,youngest 9)neither have ever been left with anyone but their parent

our HE circle follows or believes the same principles as us so we have found our "people" so to say and the only people we mix with are either HE or disabled

years ago i made a new friend with in our disabled group we attend(both boys have numerous disabilities each)

got on great from first meeting, weeks later we were all talking about special school and being a disabilities "veteran"(her words)i was asked my views

so she was told all of above,she instantly left and blocked me on all social media and never attended a session again

ive also had a fair few run ins over the years about people opinions and judgment on our lifestyle and us being weird but we are all very happy living this way and the boys have loads and loads of like minded friends

cologne4711 · 05/08/2020 19:45

Because I had a baby. That's literally it. Had been friends for 14 years, found out that I was pregnant and has not spoken to me since. At first I thought it was a joke, but no

Not me but this happened to DH too. Had a friend he thought was a good friend, even while I was pregnant all was ok. Once ds arrived, we never heard from him again although DH did come across him at an event about 10 years ago and he was merely civil. Completely weird. All I can think was he wanted a child and was insanely jealous. But you would have thought he would have got over it eventually and he had lots of other friends with kids.

whitechocolatespaceegg · 05/08/2020 19:46

I invited a friend to my wedding. After she received the invite she sent me a text thanking us for the invite and saying how beautiful the venue looked. She never RSVPed and I never heard from her again.!

cologne4711 · 05/08/2020 19:49

I fell out with a friend because at the time her home country was not in the EU and the UK required her to get a visa to visit. She could have taken German nationality because she lived there and had done since being a small child (and had a German husband), but wanted to vote in her home country. I guess now she has dual nationality but at the time you couldn't. Anyway it was all our (DH and me) fault that the UK government had decided to require visas. Anyway swings and roundabouts, now her country is in the EU and the UK isn't.

bustybetty · 05/08/2020 19:55

At the peak of the after Brexit vote a dance friend called me a racist on social media for voting leave...I think there was a lot of remainers on FB, in fact the majority of the people I know were banging on about it. Oh how things have changed!

StCharlotte · 05/08/2020 19:55

Two elderly sisters I know didn't speak for a few months after they voted for different Milkiband brothers in the Labour leadership vote.

bustybetty · 05/08/2020 19:56

Oh and my sister in law (I don't like acronyms!) fell out with me because I had a 2nd baby and it was a girl!

StCharlotte · 05/08/2020 19:56

MILLIBAND! 🙄

CableknitSweaters · 05/08/2020 19:58

A friend’s friend was selling toddler clothes, she asked via text if I wanted them. I said thank you for thinking of me but no thanks as I had plenty.

A few days later she texts me asking for £20 for these clothes she’d bought from her friend and when would I be in so she could drop them off and collect the £20. I said I didn’t ask for them. She started ranting about what was she going to do with them now etc then blocked me from everything and we haven’t spoken since.

None of our mutual friends have spoken to me since “I screwed her over and cost her £20” I was never given a chance to tell my side or show the proof that I said I didn’t want the toddler clothes.

I was a single mum and didn’t have money to spare buying things I didn’t need.

mill3003 · 05/08/2020 20:01

Yes, been using them for years & my hair's loads smoother

itsaratrap · 05/08/2020 20:02

Told them I didn’t think it was fair that their Beagle should be vegetarian because they and their son were.

DreamTheMoors · 05/08/2020 20:05

@mdh2020

My older sister fell out with me years ago. We have no contact. As far as I can understand the situation she objects to my very existence.
@mdh2020

Same here. Evidently she’s been furious my entire life that I was born.
Fuck off then. I’m not losing sleep over it any more.

CarolEffingBaskin · 05/08/2020 20:06

I told them that I believe in women’s rights and biological sex. That wasn’t the clincher though, no. The clincher was that I said that telling women to ‘choke on cock’ was male violence. Silly me.

Greenpolkadot · 05/08/2020 20:11

A friend never spoke to me for years after I told her that I had a driving lesson so couldn't meet her on the day she wanted me to

tiredanddangerous · 05/08/2020 20:16

Because I said I couldn't come back from my honeymoon two days early to go on her hen weekend. I was uninvited from the wedding.

Darkstarrheart · 05/08/2020 20:18

My ex-husband and I fell out over the phone (he was in the USA I was in the UK) and didn't speak for over a week when we argued about what we would do in the event of our being attacked by a bear!

L8Bloomer · 05/08/2020 20:22

This guy I used to work with, previous job. We got on very well, gang of us all in our mid forties and we had a laugh. My boss told me to check on organisation's facebook page. I did that. I made him co-administrator of the organisation's facebook page. It was no less his responsibility than mine and my boss had told me to add him. He literally never spoke to me again. A whole troop of us when off to do advanced excel a few days later and I remember him saying ''good luck Derek, Good luck Dina, Good luck david, then he stared coldly at me'' Confused

Weird. I kept thinking he was going to say ''gotcha!'' but no.

mamakoukla · 05/08/2020 20:25

Recent one.... masks mandated where we live and if it helps and causes no harm - why not? Got spoken at that Covid is an invented Frankenstein and it’s all an over reaction. Got told off for being selfish for not going into an indoor restaurant and taking jobs away from people. Not invited to discuss. We rarely eat out and if anything have ordered more take away than normal. I just felt steamrollered and quite sad. Want to call but also feel i can’t take much more of that

L8Bloomer · 05/08/2020 20:25

Those of you not speaking to your sisters and your sisters not speaking to you, do you ever feel like going to a mediator?

My mother isn't speaking to me atm and I always back down. It's always always always me, so setting my ego aside is usually the resolution but if i do that every time, she never learns anything, but I don't think she'll have the insight on her own.

momtoboys · 05/08/2020 20:25

@mdh2020 - I didn't think it could possibly happen but your post actually made me laugh! Thank you!

Maria1921 · 05/08/2020 20:28

When we were 55 my best friend of 15 years' standing dumped me unexpectedly. I'm still deeply upset about it. She wrote me a long letter and put it in the post (though we have email and messenger). Her reason was as follows.

She was angry because after 40 years of my struggling with my excess weight, I was finally diagnosed by my NHS family doctor and an endoctrine specialist as having a hormonal disorder unrelated to eating or exercise.

When I found out I went through a roller coaster of emotions: aghast. amazed, shocked and relieved. Naturally I emailed her all about it, and then afterwards, over about 7 to 10 days, I emailed her (and other close friends and a few family members) about 5 or 6 emails containing links to websites about my condition, and also a link to an online petition asking for more awareness of the condition.

Two weeks after I got my diagnosis, she wrote in her letter that I had "bored" her with my news. She said she didn't believe it is a real condition, or if it is then I don't have it. She said my posts and emails about the condition had "driven her away" and now she needed a "complete break" from me. She told me not to contact her by any means.

I replied with a letter containing proof that the condition exists and a photocopy of my written NHS diagnosis. She returned my letter to me, the envelope unopened with a brief note saying she wasn't interested in anything I had to say "because you will only be trying to convince me that you really do have it."

That was 4 years ago and she has still not contacted me.

oohyoudevilyou · 05/08/2020 20:40

I wouldn't let her borrow my wedding and engagement rings for a big do she was going to (mine are white gold and matched her other jewellery, her own are yellow). They have obvious sentimental value and I'm really not happy being apart from them. She was furious, even though I offered to buy her a fake set from M&S and after giving me both barrels on my failings as a friend never spoke to me again. Looking back on the friendship, it was worth it Grin