Facebook unfriending

[Coronakid]

Im part of a FB group of about 40. Most of us met over the years but as our link was to do with our children as they’ve grown not so much. I have about 6 I’m very close to and pre-Covid saw often. A member in the group but not part of the 6 deleted me. I did ask her why and she just gave a reason about trimming her friends list. Fine her choice I didn’t think it would make a big difference to my life. However, ever since anytime anything about my life comes up she’s wanting to know the details. Examples are: Asking what my new kittens called, asking what’s happened to my mum etc. I just want to say ‘why un friend me if you’re so interested in my life. So am I being unreasonable to consideration blocking her?

Can't believe you felt the need to ask why she had unfriended you in the first place, cringe 🤦🏼‍♀️

Do whatever you like... block her / don't block her / be an adult / continue acting and thinking like a teenager

Why is it a problem that she's interested in you, while not being a Facebook friend?

In life, most friendships are maintained by taking an interest in you outside of the Facebook news feed. That's what she's doing.

Maybe she just wants to be a "normal friend"?

I’d reply to her questions with “it’s on Facebook”.

Her: “unfriended you so I can’t see”

“Well that was silly”

Do you see her in person? If not don’t engage discussing your life with someone who just may want to be nosey.

I would not engage with her at all. If she asks questions about you just leave them hanging. There are 39 other people in the group!

I have been deleted too and occasionally I notice, but I wouldn't ask them why!! Even though one stupid cow woman believed gossip about me that wasn't true and then deleted me. Honestly I just cringe for HER, acting on uncorroborated gossip. I blocked her.

There is no need for drama here- just block her.
You are way overthinking this

Could I cope with that level of intrusive questioning? Sharing my kittens' names when I'm a non-person on Facebook??
Isn't it what used to be called making conversation?

@FATEdestiny

Why is it a problem that she's interested in you, while not being a Facebook friend?

In life, most friendships are maintained by taking an interest in you outside of the Facebook news feed. That's what she's doing.

Maybe she just wants to be a "normal friend"?

That’s the thing our only link now is through a Facebook group We’re unlikely to see each other in real life so never going to have a ‘normal’ friendship.

That would annoy me! Decided to trim her friends list down, but still wants to know everything that you're doing? She should have stayed friends with you then!
I've unfriended several people, and would never dream of the looking at their FB page and asking questions about things!
Change your privacy settings so she can't see what you're putting

That's really strange. Are these PMs she's sending you?

I have friends I really like in real life but not on fb. I got over it by getting rid of fb

How is she finding out information about you? Is she still looking on your FB page, even though she has unfriended you? Or are others in the group telling her? I think I would change my settings so that she can't see anything you post.

I can’t believe a grown adult asked someone why they unfriended them on social media.

In what context is she asking you question? In general chat in the fb group or messaging you directly?

If just in group chat then let it go. If she’s messaging you directly to ask then it’s a bit weird

Silentfrog I had to hide one of my best friends because she comes across as a bossy Head Girl on FB and it drove me crazy. I love her in real life though, where she’s very chilled. It’s bizarre her online persona is so different to her actual personality.

Is she private messaging you questions or asking in the group chat?

If the former, she's the weird one.

If the latter, you're the weird one being offended by her making conversation.

Yes block she sounds weird to unfriend then ask those things .

So she's unfriended you, the only way you really keep in touch, so you can't stay caught up in her life and actively chases you to stay caught up in hers. Again, whilst not sharing hers.

No thanks.

Tell her you'll accept a re-friending request or just ignore her.

Do you really have no idea why you were unfriended?

There's no clues in what or how often you post?

I rarely unfriend people, but I am pretty liberal with the unfollow button when people post every little detail of their lives or loads of political or societal commentary that I don't agree with but don't want to enter into a debate about or a ton of memes on a daily basis. There are probably other reasons, but those are the most common.

But just because I've unfollowed them doesn't mean I'm not interested in them or their lives, I just don't want my newsfeed dominated by them.

I seem to be livingin some kind of parallel universe....since when did it become somehow rude to ask people questions about their lives? to make polite conversation and show an interest in them? do you have to be friends on Facebook with someone before you can ask them about what's going on for them? Are people really living their lives through Facebook in this way? Or am I missing something?

I think you should just say you are welcome to friend me again posters are giving you a hard time but if you have invested in an online friendship and have been .deleted them of course it's going to hurt your feelings just don't engage with her.

The op hasn't been unfollwed. But deleted yet this person is asking about her goings on why unfriend somebody if you are asking about kittens and mums ?

I've unfollowed most friends because the sheer volume of posts was overwhelming, or because I was sick of their ' perfect life I am soooo happy' posts, or having their politics rammed down my throat. SM interactions are very different from real life ones and I prefer real life ones. Maybe she is like that. I can't imagine stopping being real life friends with someone because they weren't facebook friends. Your choice though.

I seem to be livingin some kind of parallel universe....since when did it become somehow rude to ask people questions about their lives? to make polite conversation and show an interest in them? do you have to be friends on Facebook with someone before you can ask them about what's going on for them? Are people really living their lives through Facebook in this way? Or am I missing something?

This!

I know she hasn't been unfollowed, that wasn't the point of my post. People do unfriend for similar reasons that I unfollow.

@FATEdestiny

Why is it a problem that she's interested in you, while not being a Facebook friend?

In life, most friendships are maintained by taking an interest in you outside of the Facebook news feed. That's what she's doing.

Maybe she just wants to be a "normal friend"?

This. She might have had good reason to trim her Facebook profile. All this "Oh I won't tell you these details as it's on Facebook already" is ridiculous. Just talk to her like a normal person. It's what we did before social media