I cannot stand loud people

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Kind of lighthearted kind of not. I have extreme misophonia.

Door slammers, drawer bangers, high pitched laughs that pierce right through you from your eyeballs to your toes, people who dig their heels into the floor like it's quicksand making the whole room vibrate, crisp crunchers, apple biters, tea slurpers, loud chewers, throat clearers, tutters, booming voices that echo through the walls.

People should come with a remote control... just shut the fuck up! 😫

I don't like the youtube videos or some cartoons my dc watch, where they're just screaming from the TV. Shaun the sheep is a nice, gentle one though.

Have you been diagnosed with misophonia?

But why are some families so bloody loud? We were at a beauty spot a few years ago. Quite a few families picnicking I was not aware of any other family. Then LOUD family arrives. Everything top volume. All of them - yelling and shouting every interaction at top shouting volume. Us and most of the other normal families left as it wasn’t pleasant, No excuse for it. Their poor neighbours.

Are you self-diagnosing misophonia? There seems to be a lot of this on Mumsnet.

One of my children is loud. It is a feature of his dyspraxia.
Nice to k ow he is being judged constantly by people who k ow sod all about him.

The OP isn't judging him. She has a condition that makes noise difficult to cope with, in the same way that your son has a condition that makes him noisy.

I don't have that condition (as far as I know). I don't like noisy people. Neither do I like dogs.
I'm not judging noisy people, nor dog lovers.

Get over yourself!

People who do that really insolent chewing/smacking gum with gob wide open thing can absolutely get to shite. I literally makes me want to stab them.

I was on a secondment in a bank as a junior lawyer and the girl I was replacing explained the boss would only communicate via email I was not to go into his office. She was an extremely loud Australian. After a few days the boss asked why I did this so I explained the handover instructions. He laughed and said he had made up that rule as he couldn’t bear my predecessors bellowing voice and I was welcome to come in for daily briefing. I was offered a job there in the end and she wasn’t so loudness can career limiting!

I agree, I hate those sounds with a passion and my neighbours make them constantly through our paper thin walls. My hearing is so sensitive which makes it worse, I can hear a fly fart 1000 miles away.

I do sympathise with this up to a point. There are certain sorts of noise which I struggle with: two that stand out are noisy eaters and loud tv noises late at night.

But I do also think the reality of the world is that we have to live together in reasonably close quarters and it’s incumbent on you, as the one with the sensitivity, to deal with it.

It’s not really on to expect people to have to curb fairly basic and innocuous aspects of behaviour because they trigger your neuroses.

Being irritated by noisy drunks on a train; fine. Getting in a state because someone is eating an apple: you need to get help with this. This is really not their problem.

Misophonia is not a medical condition

I feel for you OP. DH is loud. His whole family is incredibly loud. I know DH has no idea how noisy he is. Or maybe it’s me being too sensitive.

Same OP. Same.

I'm actually glad I'm WFH at the moment. The rage I feel from hearing some people at work eating, drinking, talking etc is unreal.

I sympathise with the op - and I think tolerance of "other people" is going to be an issue in the coming months. Everyone is slightly on edge and if you have been in a bubble and spending more time at home the transition to the outside world is going to be painful at times.

Ironically because I wear hearing aids I do sometimes wince at noises because amplified sound can be painful. My son is autistic and finds noise and people difficult so wears ear defenders sometimes.

I have every sympathy for children and adults who have a disability that means they make noise. My dd is autistic and has ADHD, she can be a bit noisy, clumsy and impetuous, which quiet, controlled and tightly wound Ds is not fond of! They both have a right to exist and be themselves but tolerance of each other and kindness is essential. They are very kind and considerate people unfortunately when we are out not everyone is.

Loud eating noises make me gag.
Loud "look at me" types give me a headache (genuinely)
I actively avoid young families and have left restaurants due to being sat next to unruly kids.
If there is a reason for it (Disabilities) I can deal with it, but will eat up and leave faster.
The NT have no excuse. No one cares to hear you chew or listen to you holding court thanks.

I hate excessive loud voice too. I used to meet DH from his office when he worked in the South. We would have a couple in the bar before going for dinner. There were often groups from nearby offices in the bar, without fail there was always one loudmouth who seemed to think everyone should hear their opinion. Wasn't always men either

www.nhs.uk/conditions/hyperacusis/

My daughter has this. It's very real and quite debilitating.

Eating in restaurants or going to shops are extremely difficult and often impossible for her to do.

Even just the regular noises of a family household can invoke extreme anxiety in her. It's sensory driven, she can't help it.

Noise cancelling ear phones and special ear plugs made by the audiology dept have helped a tiny bit. Also look into the 'safe and sound' programme OP.

Those of you on this thread who have taken the piss can fuck right off. Twats.

Sudden, loud noises make me feel like I have experienced an electric shock - it's physically painful and quite upsetting. I have had several bouts of labrynthitis, so I think this may be a physical thing rather than a phobia of any kind. Eating, slurping, cutlery noises etc don't really bother me.

One of my children is loud. It is a feature of his dyspraxia. He can’t help it. He drives me insane with it but it is also one of the things that makes him the lovely, unique person he is. Nice to k ow he is being judged constantly by people who k ow sod all about him.

My son has dyspraxia and has an incredibly loud voice too. In fact, in hindsight it was the first sign we noticed, but we assumed he was unable to modulate his volume due to being a toddler. Now he's much older, he is at least aware that he has an issue and does try to be quieter when possible. But even when he tries to whisper, he just cannot do it properly! Instead he sounds like an actor doing a faux whisper to the audience, on stage at the Albert Hall "I AM WHISPERING" He does try not to bang doors and drawers, slam things down and run up and down stairs like an elephant, but he is just LOUD. I have had to bite my tongue a lot over the years, I'm absolutely sure he's annoyed the hell out of various fellow passengers, his teachers etc. He's very self conscious about it and that makes him even clumsier and louder, if anything.

Fully agree with OP. I can't do with "loud" environments whether it's because of people, equipment, etc. People in particular annoy me because most times they don't have to be so loud. Equipment, etc., can't be helped so I think we have to accept it. But I could happily strangle people being noisy for no real reason. You can eat quietly, you can talk quietly, you can move around quietly, but some people (thankfully a minority) just can't be bothered to make the effort. It's just lack of consideration for others and selfishness.

When my mother yawns she goes "ahhhrrreerrr ah ah ahhhh...."

It makes me feel stabby...

Unnecessary noise! I feel you.

My neighbours are extremely loud. Door slamming, shout rather than talk. Tv is up full whack & left on when they go out, ridiculously loud & ott sneezing, coughing like a Staffy dog!
Whistling as well drives me crazy too.

I like quiet & calm. I need an island with no noisy neighbours 🤣

Misophonia is a neurological condition and it's very debilitating. I have it too OP and it's awful.

Go on a silent meditation retreat, it is bliss! People walk mindfully and pay attention to even closing doors quietly. It is heaven. The world is way too noisy!