To ask how do you know which things are 'tacky/common'?

[TheHydrangeas]

On here I sometimes see certain items, behaviours, homeware, fashion, makeup, etc classed as "tacky" or "common". Sometimes I can understand it, but other times it is things that seem pretty innocuous. Despite this you see this kind of unanimous belief that those things are "common". However I can't really find an underlying pattern to what is deemed to be tacky/common and what is not. Is there any kind of theme or pattern to this? One example is I remember reading a thread where a pretty popular brand of scented candles were classed as tacky.

I also want to say that I am not trying to portray other users negatively as judgemental or anything, we are all entitled to our opinions. I am just interested from a broader point of view - how do certain things become tacky or common?

Oh, my MIL always has the best taste. Everything is very good taste and refined. Nice big Victorian house, old furniture. Everything is comfortable and expensive but not showy. It’s the same with her clothes, and choice of holidays. I’m from a very deprived area, and a bit uncouth and loud ,possibly not the choice she would have made for her son to marry, but she has never shown it, and has always made me feel very welcome

This thread has been v amusing. I have realised I am very common sitting here in my leggings in my new build house (no Yankee candles but I have some from Wilko and Primark which I suspect is worse!)

Yes, Mr Rooney, spotted at Asda petrol station in Derby last month, I’m referring to you

Yes but which Asda as one is more common than the other

I've put together a handy check list of things that are common. If you tick more than 3 or know someone who can tick more than 3 then you must be tacky

Going to the supermarket.
Paying your cleaning lady in cash.
Wearing a black tailored jacket before 6pm.
Watching Netflix.
Ocado deliveries.
Visiting Florida.
Watching TV before 8pm.
Receiving a Valentine’s card.
Knowing who Bet Lynch is.
Making love to your cousin.
Living in the same street as someone who hosts a BBQ.
Knowing someone who was on the Weakest Link.
Reading a book on a kindle.
Drinking champagne in a hotel bar.
Going for afternoon tea before 2pm.
Owning a Jane McDonald CD.
Making your own sourdough after February 2020.
Having a toilet brush.
Putting your holiday home on AirB&B.
Charging friends for using your holiday home.
Offering to do the washing up when you go to a friends house for dinner.
Sleeping with the hosts husband after dinner.
Going on a hen weekend.
Going fishing.
Riding a horse that you don’t own.
Being vegan.
Seeing your sister on Jeramy Kyle. Especially if it turned out her husband wasn’t the father.
Using a credit card that doesn’t have an annual fee.
Following a QVC presenter on Twitter.
Disclosing which laundry detergent you use during casual conversation.
Having never been invented to dinner at your husbands bosses house. Only acceptable if you husband is the boss.
Wearing trainers that look like Converse.
Wearing Converse trainers.
Forgetting to put a belt on.
Drinking coffee from a mug in your own garden.
Burning a Yankee Candle on an Ikea table while you watch Sky TV.
Being upset that Argos catalogue is no longer in print.
Not inviting your husbands staff over for dinner with their partners. Only acceptable if your husbands isn’t the boss. And if he’s not the boss then you must be common.

Making love to your cousin

Don’t let the royal family know how common you think they are, they’ve bumped people off before you know

@PoppySeedSaid

Dammit! I nearly reached the bottom of the list without ticking 3, until I got to 'Being upset that the Argos catalogue is no longer in print' ( I loved that thing!!)

Of course, it could have been 3 anyway, but I don't pay any attention to my neighbours so I have no idea if they host barbecues or not.

Just to check - 'Sleeping with the hosts husband after dinner.' so, BEFORE dinner is OK?

@Notverybright

Making love to your cousin

Don’t let the royal family know how common you think they are, they’ve bumped people off before you know

If I go missing I'd like to have it on the record that I've never been to a Pizza Express in Woking.

Just to check - 'Sleeping with the hosts husband after dinner.' so, BEFORE dinner is OK

Only if you are quick and don't keep the other guests waiting

@PoppySeedSaid

Your imagination and wit is a delight to the senses! Keep them coming as much appreciated!

@PoppySeedSaid

I've put together a handy check list of things that are common. If you tick more than 3 or know someone who can tick more than 3 then you must be tacky

Going to the supermarket.
Paying your cleaning lady in cash.
Wearing a black tailored jacket before 6pm.
Watching Netflix.
Ocado deliveries.
Visiting Florida.
Watching TV before 8pm.
Receiving a Valentine’s card.
Knowing who Bet Lynch is.
Making love to your cousin.
Living in the same street as someone who hosts a BBQ.
Knowing someone who was on the Weakest Link.
Reading a book on a kindle.
Drinking champagne in a hotel bar.
Going for afternoon tea before 2pm.
Owning a Jane McDonald CD.
Making your own sourdough after February 2020.
Having a toilet brush.
Putting your holiday home on AirB&B.
Charging friends for using your holiday home.
Offering to do the washing up when you go to a friends house for dinner.
Sleeping with the hosts husband after dinner.
Going on a hen weekend.
Going fishing.
Riding a horse that you don’t own.
Being vegan.
Seeing your sister on Jeramy Kyle. Especially if it turned out her husband wasn’t the father.
Using a credit card that doesn’t have an annual fee.
Following a QVC presenter on Twitter.
Disclosing which laundry detergent you use during casual conversation.
Having never been invented to dinner at your husbands bosses house. Only acceptable if you husband is the boss.
Wearing trainers that look like Converse.
Wearing Converse trainers.
Forgetting to put a belt on.
Drinking coffee from a mug in your own garden.
Burning a Yankee Candle on an Ikea table while you watch Sky TV.
Being upset that Argos catalogue is no longer in print.
Not inviting your husbands staff over for dinner with their partners. Only acceptable if your husbands isn’t the boss. And if he’s not the boss then you must be common.

Can I just check out a few specific points, please? I think I’m probably OK but - Is the char using a lavatory brush acceptable? Obviously we couldn’t have T brushes because we don’t have any Ts. Can we invite staff in cohorts? Our terrace would struggle to accommodate 5.5k for drinks (before considering partners). Is supper acceptable or must or be a full dinner? I just feel some of the juniors may feel uncomfortable brining their partners for five courses and then there’s the dilemma of fish knives - do we or don’t we? I’d not want to embarrass people who were uncertain about managing Dover Sole. Is all fishing excluded? We usually have a week on a friend’s estate, near Skibbereen each year and generally get a couple of days fly in - is that infra-dig these days? Pity, it makes the most wonderful Wellington. Does a tailored work jacket count as shabby? I’m afraid I do wear one over a dress for formal work occasions. How worrisome.

@PoppySeedSaid

I've put together a handy check list of things that are common. If you tick more than 3 or know someone who can tick more than 3 then you must be tacky

Going to the supermarket.
Paying your cleaning lady in cash.
Wearing a black tailored jacket before 6pm.
Watching Netflix.
Ocado deliveries.
Visiting Florida.
Watching TV before 8pm.
Receiving a Valentine’s card.
Knowing who Bet Lynch is.
Making love to your cousin.
Living in the same street as someone who hosts a BBQ.
Knowing someone who was on the Weakest Link.
Reading a book on a kindle.
Drinking champagne in a hotel bar.
Going for afternoon tea before 2pm.
Owning a Jane McDonald CD.
Making your own sourdough after February 2020.
Having a toilet brush.
Putting your holiday home on AirB&B.
Charging friends for using your holiday home.
Offering to do the washing up when you go to a friends house for dinner.
Sleeping with the hosts husband after dinner.
Going on a hen weekend.
Going fishing.
Riding a horse that you don’t own.
Being vegan.
Seeing your sister on Jeramy Kyle. Especially if it turned out her husband wasn’t the father.
Using a credit card that doesn’t have an annual fee.
Following a QVC presenter on Twitter.
Disclosing which laundry detergent you use during casual conversation.
Having never been invented to dinner at your husbands bosses house. Only acceptable if you husband is the boss.
Wearing trainers that look like Converse.
Wearing Converse trainers.
Forgetting to put a belt on.
Drinking coffee from a mug in your own garden.
Burning a Yankee Candle on an Ikea table while you watch Sky TV.
Being upset that Argos catalogue is no longer in print.
Not inviting your husbands staff over for dinner with their partners. Only acceptable if your husbands isn’t the boss. And if he’s not the boss then you must be common.

How do you get a credit card that doesnt have an annual fee!

It seems I am common as muck

@BeChuille

How do you get a credit card that doesnt have an annual fee!

How do you get one that does?

What do posh folk pay the cleaner with???
Butter vouchers?
Diamonds?

That list is a thing of beauty 😊😊

Mirrored furniture- everyone has it! I don’t get that look at all. Those deep pile grey carpets, everything crushed silver velvet - head board, cushions. Sequins on a cushion.

Surely the cleaner is so delighted at the privilege of cleaning for the posh they refuse any sort of payment?

@0503237m loads of these accounts on insta. Competitively hoovering lines into their grey carpets like it's an Olympic sport 😂

@BeChuille

How do you get a credit card that doesnt have an annual fee!

Plenty don't charge if you spend enough each year

Plenty don't charge if you spend enough each year

Plenty don’t charge full stop. I thought the only ones that charged annual fees were the ones with free travel insurance etc (which is always shit coverage and not worth having). Oh, and Amex cards, which are definitely tacky.

Credit cards with no annual fees:

www.nationwide.co.uk/products/credit-cards/member-credit-card/features-and-benefits

www.sainsburysbank.co.uk/credit-cards/credit-card-low-balance-transfer-fee

www.johnlewisfinance.com/partnership-card.html

Margotshypotheticaldog I imagine they have their housekeeper or PA pay them, and never need grubby their hands with that sort of thing

Steven Gerrard has a very grey house. Actually, a lot of footballers have houses that look like that. They're so immaculate and perfect and don't look lived in at all. Do WAGs or servants spend the whole day cleaning the place?

My friend has a black Amex and I cringe when she flashes it about, lots of places don’t take it anyway so I graciously pay on my co op cash card

[quote ChristmasCarcass]Plenty don't charge if you spend enough each year

Plenty don’t charge full stop. I thought the only ones that charged annual fees were the ones with free travel insurance etc (which is always shit coverage and not worth having). Oh, and Amex cards, which are definitely tacky.

Credit cards with no annual fees:

www.nationwide.co.uk/products/credit-cards/member-credit-card/features-and-benefits

www.sainsburysbank.co.uk/credit-cards/credit-card-low-balance-transfer-fee

www.johnlewisfinance.com/partnership-card.html[/quote]
Platinum Cashback Everyday Credit Card Amex, no annual fee and we get a nice little cash back reward every year, definitely worth it! If free money is tacky, I'll take tacky.