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Baby with pierced ears

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mrsbeeton999 · 31/07/2020 11:16

School mum friend had baby in April and I’ve just noticed she’s had her ears pierced. Scrolling back through her Facebook they were pierced at beginning of July when piercing was still not open. This is seriously bad isn’t it? I’m a bit judgy about babies with pierced ears anyway so this might be clouding my opinion but having a new babies ears pierced illegally during a pandemic has really annoyed me

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OhTheRoses · 31/07/2020 14:03

I wouldn't do it to a child of mine and none of my contemporaries have done it to theirs. Not one child at their leafy London primary had pierced ears.

It happens more often amongst working class people and people from other cultures.

I can't get that worked up about it tbf as I know almost no grown-ups without pierced ears and dd and her friends were begging for it from about 9/10.

Gobbycop · 31/07/2020 14:11

Pierced ears on a baby looks fucking ridiculous.

Anyone doing it or wanting it done is a moron.

beepbeepsheep · 31/07/2020 14:15

Sound the baby ear piercing klaxon!! Biscuit

LateNightDoubleFeature · 31/07/2020 14:33

It's not something that I would personally do so YANBU, having said that though my mum got my ears pierced as a baby and it did me no harm.

CallarMorvern · 31/07/2020 14:38

*Not one child at their leafy London primary had pierced ears.

It happens more often amongst working class people and people from other cultures.*

Wow. Only the peasants have piercings😆
Pretty much every girl at my DD's very middle class primary had pierced ears by yr6. DD didn't as it took her till yr7 to work up courage.

caramelbun · 31/07/2020 14:50

Not harmful is it? Piercing baby ears is the norm for a lot of cultures, it’s not something to look down your nose at.

jessstan2 · 31/07/2020 14:56

@caramelbun

Not harmful is it? Piercing baby ears is the norm for a lot of cultures, it’s not something to look down your nose at.
Nobody is looking down on people of other cultures. My friends from the Indian sub continent have their baby girls' ears pierced and that is accepted by everyone.
jessstan2 · 31/07/2020 14:57

@CallarMorvern

*Not one child at their leafy London primary had pierced ears.

It happens more often amongst working class people and people from other cultures.*

Wow. Only the peasants have piercings😆
Pretty much every girl at my DD's very middle class primary had pierced ears by yr6. DD didn't as it took her till yr7 to work up courage.

Yr 6 or 7 does not have babies!
Ladyks · 31/07/2020 15:06

Will lead with saying that I would never pierce a baby’s ears or have them pierced personally, but when I begged & begged my parents to let me get mine pierced at age 7, I remember how bad it hurt for at least a week! I wish my parents had pierced my ears when I was young enough not to remember it being done Shock

jessstan2 · 31/07/2020 15:47

@Ladyks

Will lead with saying that I would never pierce a baby’s ears or have them pierced personally, but when I begged & begged my parents to let me get mine pierced at age 7, I remember how bad it hurt for at least a week! I wish my parents had pierced my ears when I was young enough not to remember it being done Shock
It's not that bad surely? I had mine done at 14 and they were OK.
Awkwarddough · 31/07/2020 15:49

I don’t agree with it at all, but at the start of July we were allowed to meet with other people, maybe her sister/aunt/uncle/brother etc. is a piercer and therefore someone in their bubble was trained to do it

CallarMorvern · 31/07/2020 15:51

jessstan2

The quoted poster was talking about children at a leafy London primary school, not babies. RTFT.

lobster12 · 31/07/2020 15:57

Meh it's not something I would get judgey about. As long as the baby is looked after and loved.

I'm English and my mum pierced my ears when I was a baby (she's embarrassed about it now). It's not something I'm bothered about, it's probably good I got them done when I was a baby as I don't remember it.

Having said that I don't like the look of earrings on a baby, I think it looks odd but each to their own.

She might have a friend who does it for a job.

jessstan2 · 31/07/2020 16:05

@CallarMorvern

jessstan2

The quoted poster was talking about children at a leafy London primary school, not babies. RTFT.

I know she was, I read it. She wasn't talking about babies at a leafy London primary school.
zingally · 31/07/2020 16:11

I don't like earrings on babies either. Although I get that it's a cultural thing for many communities.

Still, you're deliberately causing your baby upset for no reason. I think it should be banned until children are old enough to consent.

I was 15 before I was allowed, but I think anything from 10+ is okay.

CallarMorvern · 31/07/2020 16:13

Um, neither was I. Your point is?

LB1982 · 31/07/2020 16:23

I had my ears pierced when I was born. I think it looks darn cute in my baby pics. I have a 9yo dd now and she keeps begging me. I'm anxious about her having the pain and daily turning/cleaning.

I'm glad I had mine done when I did. Really glad! I loved always wearing pretty earrings from a very young age.

TeaStory · 31/07/2020 16:59

@LB1982 you must NOT turn healing piercings!

66redballons · 31/07/2020 17:09

What are you hoping to gain from this ?
@TeaStory... never heard you shouldn’t turn pierced earrings. The opposite in-fact. Where have you got this info ?

PinkConfetti · 31/07/2020 17:09

Having read the comments I'm possibly in the minority as it's only 2 small holes in the ear but it does cause a lot of division.

My husband and I were chatting about this the other day. We have very different views.
So what is the right age?
I'd probably allow my kids to get their ears pierced at 6 or 7 years old. My husband thinks I'm mad!! Grin

JRUIN · 31/07/2020 17:19

My daughter's had their ears pierced at around 12 months old. It's normal in my culture. Judge away.

TeaStory · 31/07/2020 17:19

@66redballons from every professional piercer I know!

Turning the earring only tears the healing skin and damaged the fistula. There is no reason at all to turn a piercing, it only damages and does no good whatsoever.

TeaStory · 31/07/2020 17:21

@66redballons just google it and read what piercing studios and professional piercers say. Not Claire’s or fashion magazines!

Burnthurst187 · 31/07/2020 17:21

I think ears being pierced should only be done when the individual can say whether they want it doing or not, esp as the holes never go

She's not Spanish is she? Friend at work who is Spanish told me they pierce baby's ears in the hospital there 🙄

LB1982 · 31/07/2020 17:26

[quote TeaStory]@LB1982 you must NOT turn healing piercings![/quote]
Thank you Blush That was the advice when I was a teen (and got my second piercing).

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