Spelling Name Incorrectly

[OdaMaeBrown]

A colleague keeps spelling my name incorrectly. Think Ann/Anne Sara/Sarah Hanna/Hannah. I've politely pointed it out to her and she's just emailed again with the incorrect spelling.

Do I just leave it or do I correct her? It's not the end of the world but I do find it rude and annoying.

Her name is Mary so I can't really do it back!

My husband has this. It really annoys him too. He tried to ignore it, but now does it back.

If her name is Mary, I would see how many different variants of Mary I could manage before she complains/notices:
Mari, Maree, Marey, Marie, Mhary, Mahry etc.

Call her Marie!

I know it's petty but just spell my fucking name right.

Yeah, call her Marie.

I have a name that has at least 6 standard spellings, and God knows how many non-standard ones. I really don’t care if it’s spelled wrong. It’s still my name. Any abbreviations of it, however...

They’ve probably just got the wrong spelling stuck in their head. I doubt very much they mean to be rude.

I’d just point it out every single time, eventually they will remember.

I get this lot and am always tempted to send this or just repeatedly misspell their name (I never do, I'm a chicken)

My name is one of the examples given. I’m ok with people not knowing me or not knowing me well getting it wrong but yes it does grate when people consistently gets it wrong.

I worked with one colleague who had 10+ years of emails, reports, signatures etc and still kept getting it wrong! In fact she had another of your examples, should have done it back!

My name is spelt wrong (thank you mum) so i don’t care when people initially use the “right” spelling Unyil i correct them.

However, i do care when i work for businesses that use a [email protected] email address. You have literally just had to type my name once. Why are you getting it wrong in the body of the email? Grrrr.

Start calling her Marry. Sometimes I get called totally the wrong names in emails. Life’s too short to care

When people do this to me I spell their name incorrectly back.

You have told her - hopefully in email so you have a record - she has ignored you so put random letters her name every single time. She will soon correct you.

I once had a colleague who did this, my name is three letters long, so not tricky! I had corrected him a few times, eventually I sent an email back stating that said person was not known at that address every single time until he started spelling it correctly.

He also refused to use our usual systems, clearly did not like being told what to do.

Is your colleague dyslexic? If so, that could account for the repeated use of incorrect spelling especially if there are lots of possible variations.
My DD has a name that can be spelled and pronounced in different ways and it used to annoy me when she was younger. Doesn't bother me now.

I get this all the time. I have a 3 syllable name and changing the last letter makes a completely different name. I hate it.

Is she a colleague you actually see? T shirt with your name on should do it.

If you find an effective strategy, I’m interested. My family spell my son’s name all different ways.

It’s only been 12 years - I’d hoped they’d have got the hang of it by now.

Does it really annoy you or is it the point of it? I have a tricky name and gets spelt wrong at least twice a day even when they're responding to an email with my name clearly written. I honestly couldn't care less.

DS has this problem, he has the lesser known spelling of a name ( more traditionally used as a surname but still recognised as a first name) and people rarely get it right. I understand that new people wouldn't know, but schools have been rubbish for it. Even the rugby club he's played for can't get it right! It doesn't help that it's a very popular traditional name, so people don't ask how to spell it, they just assume.

I also have a tricky name to spell and also am constantly mistaken for Mr over email. I think it's so rude especially when it's in reply to your email so your name is already there for them to copy.

I think keep correcting them until they get it right is the only way

I don't know why it annoys me so much, but it does. I think more so now as I've pointed it out (in email, in a jokey way blaming my dad for the spelling!).

It also annoys me that I feel like I'm being rude for correcting their mistake.

Call her Maria or Marie. I have a name that can be spelt wrong in the similar to Ann/Anne drives me made, even more so because my work email has my full name in it.

I had this where I used to work. My name is similar to yours OP and all was fine (for 8 years...) until we got a new HoD with the same name with a different spelling. Suddenly everyone started spelling my name the same as hers. It was almost as if they thought as she was the big boss only her version could be correct. Literally everyone spelled my name wrong from that point forward. Odd.

My sil is forever doing this, with mine and DDs name. We both have ie as opposed to y at the end of our names.
What's really frustrating about it is she does this when in contact on fb, where she has to actually click on my name to send me a message.
No idea why she does it, she also misspells my surname to something completely miles away from what it actually is though I think this is some sort of dig about me not taking my dhs name.

@madnessitellyou that's really weird.

I've still not replied. We are all WFH so I won't see her for a while. No Teams calls with her or I'd write the correct spelling in giant letters on the notice board behind me.

Thank you for the solidarity.

I wouldn't feel rude for correcting their mistake. There really is no need for it and I find it really rude and ignorant of people that do it. An old colleague did it to me, I pointed it out many times (think Vikki instead of Vicky) and he kept doing it so I started emailing him back Anddi instead of Andy. Funnily enough he managed to get it right from then onwards.