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104 replies

lolastheme9 · 30/07/2020 11:52

Because it isn't really something I talk about in real life, but am reflecting and feeling proud of myself today. 30 years old, 2 young children, was severely depressed for years. Kids were running feral, house was a tip, I couldn't drag myself out of bed. Bailiffs turning up at the door because I didn't pay my bills and I had no motivation to sort it. All 3 of us living off crap food. Fast forward to now, I love spending quality time with my children, I have learnt how to keep an organised home. I adore our cosy flat. I get up every morning and put a home cooked meal in the slow cooker for us. I don't have a lot of money, but that is because I am repaying my debts. I no longer have the worry of bailiffs turning up to take our things. I'm even starting driving lessons next month. I know most of these are just basic to most people, but to me, after my life being such a mess, they seem a massive achievement. This morning I was feeling a little down about being single at 30, and I think it is helpful to look back at how much things have changed for me over the past couple of years. Good things take time. For anyone currently suffering with depression, I hope this post helps you ❤

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Annasgirl · 30/07/2020 16:48

Hi OP, just to echo all the well done comments.

Also, you are Never being unreasonable to give yourself a shout out - we don't do it enough for ourselves. You are amazing and by reminding yourself of this every day you will go on to achieve even more.

I am sure your DC are really proud of you.

Greenpestopasta · 30/07/2020 16:52

Bloody well done. I know a bit about what that feels like. What you have achieved is huge. Many people are never able to. You should feel extremely proud of yourself

Igmum · 30/07/2020 16:53

Well done OP, you are wonderful ❤️

areyoubeingserviced · 30/07/2020 16:55

You’ve really cheered me up today Op.
Such a lovely post.
Well done

SingingSands · 30/07/2020 16:58

Well done OP, this is a lovely post to read. Thanks

Cryalot2 · 30/07/2020 17:03

Very well done op Flowers. You have every right to be proud of yourself. Good wishes

PeppaPigMakesMeGrrrrr · 30/07/2020 17:03

Well done OP. What a lovely thread! Flowers

jajabanks · 30/07/2020 17:06

That's fan bloody tastic . Well done for working so hard to achieve your new norm. So happy for you x 😊

LockdownLump · 30/07/2020 17:06

Brilliant OP. You should be so proud of what you have achieved. It's not easy lifting yourself out of a situation like that but you've bloody done it!!! Massive kudos 💐

Wfhwith3yearold · 30/07/2020 17:08

Well done. FlowersCake

Chocolateandamaretto · 30/07/2020 17:08

OP you are brilliant. Bought a little tear to my eye reading your post, well done you xx

lolastheme9 · 30/07/2020 18:27

Thanks again everyone. I'm really glad I posted this ❤

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AvoidingTheWineAisle · 30/07/2020 18:32

I love hearing about women with their shit together, especially when they’ve seen hard times. Really, really bloody well done! You should be extremely proud of yourself Flowers

cakeandchampagne · 30/07/2020 18:32

Flowers Well done!

PaperMonster · 30/07/2020 18:33

Well done xxxx

Sunnysidegold · 30/07/2020 18:50

This has made my day op! So lovely to hear that you are doing well and come so far. You should feel very proud of yourself.

follygirl · 30/07/2020 18:53

Well done OP, you should be rightly proud of yourself. Your kids are lucky to have you.

CiderGlider · 30/07/2020 19:07

This is just lovely to read. Well done OP!

Twatalert · 30/07/2020 19:09

That's fantastic OP and no small achievement. It seems you have turned your life around. That is not easy if you were depressed.

May I share... just these past few days how I have worked all my adult life to undo damage from my childhood. Never ending mental health issues. But I get there. One step at a time and have made huge progress over the years. I see it as unlikely I will slip back into depression because of all the behavioural and lifestyle changes I have made.

Well done to everyone for pulling through.

lolastheme9 · 30/07/2020 20:44

@Twatalert

That's fantastic OP and no small achievement. It seems you have turned your life around. That is not easy if you were depressed.

May I share... just these past few days how I have worked all my adult life to undo damage from my childhood. Never ending mental health issues. But I get there. One step at a time and have made huge progress over the years. I see it as unlikely I will slip back into depression because of all the behavioural and lifestyle changes I have made.

Well done to everyone for pulling through.

Thank you everyone

I too was damaged from my childhood. Well done for getting to the other end ❤

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JRUIN · 30/07/2020 20:47

Op you are truly inspirational. Well done girl! Smile

Disabrie22 · 30/07/2020 20:48

Well done OP - you really should be proud of yourself xxx

evilharpy · 30/07/2020 20:56

Good for you OP. You sound like a great role model to your children. Be very proud of what you have achieved Flowers

Lacey2019 · 30/07/2020 20:59

Well done you xxx

Millie2013 · 30/07/2020 21:04

You’re an inspiration, OP and I’m sure you’ve encouraged a lot of people with your story. Keep on going Flowers