Please help me process this. I’m going through a really rough time and can’t seem to shake the anger I feel towards my sister and niece.
Well before lockdown my sister invited the whole family down. Just to note my sisters eldest daughter has always been a bit difficult and spoilt. She’s 20 years old so not exactly a child anymore. Well she started her usual antics of later into the evening having a go at everyone and being very bratty. We all think she’s very disrespectful and entitled.
My sister knew me and husband were having issues in our marriage but she let her daughter spoil the whole evening and not once call her out on her behaviour or try to intervene considering we were guests in her house. Even after the event there was zero apology. It’s always been like this as she’s the eldest sister so when we were all growing up she would do nasty things and lash out all the time and never apologise and make us think we’re the problem not her. (Even when I was 10 years old and she was 21 she split my lip and made into my fault that I was being naughty so she hit me. I clearly remember my mum telling me to tell school I fell off my bike)
My other sister is more confident and outspoken so deals with any crap there and then but I’m more quiet and reserved so don’t like to cause further scenes. I really wish I had said something to her then and there instead of sitting there taking the abuse and now stewing about it.
Any advice? We’re waiting for couples counselling and I know husband will bring up how dysfunctional that sister and side of the family is and any other issues will be swept under the mat.
I’m angry with my sister as every single family occasion is disrupted by her daughter.
My mother starts every occasion by ringing us a week before pleading with us to ignore anything and just try to diffuse any situations. I don’t know why she doesn’t go to the source of the problem and deal with it.
Please be kind and not usual nastiness of mumsnet aibu. I feel down already.