In finding “I’m crazy!” people boring & annoying

[Sittinonthefloor]

The type of person who is all loud and “life & soul of the party” often saying “I’m so crazy... I’m mad, me!” talking about themselves all the time and oblivious to others. I’ve recently encountered such a person, who’ll be hard to avoid. Any coping strategies? Or am I just a dull, misery guts?

Eugh, yes. This is all men who wear bow ties (when not at a formal, black tie do).

I went to the wedding of someone like this. They kept telling us how we would love their crazy lot and how it was going to be wild and they were having an after party etc..... it was over by 9!

yanbu. One of my oldest friends is still proclaiming this decades later. "Sugar just makes me sooooo crazy! You bettwr watch out if I've had chocolate!" Her version of "crazy" is becoming extremely loud and "hilarious". In reality, she just becomes annoying, loud, and exhausting.

"And this is me SOBER!"

@MarthasGinYard

Yanbu

Also those who try just that bit too hard to be 'quirky'

Oh me too

I had to stop reading a book recently because the main character was the kind of quirky that would drive me mad in real life. Everything she did wound me up!

In my experience anyone who has to tell you how interesting/exciting/crazy/intelligent/outrageous/nice/fun/friendly/outgoing they are, really are not who they claim to be.

I find these people usually work in finance. I've come across a few at work

You are tedious.

They drive me insane. Luckily I don't work with anyone like that, but I've been talked at ( chatted up?) by men like that in my past. I used to stay and uncomfortably listen, but now I'm older I'd just wander off.
Generally I don't spend time with people who irritate me.
YANBU!

It's usually to disguise what boring, uninteresting twats they are. Like the people who have to tell you how smart/hilarious/attractive they are all the time. If you have to point it out it's because you're not what you think you are.

@Sittinonthefloor

The type of person who is all loud and “life & soul of the party” often saying “I’m so crazy... I’m mad, me!” talking about themselves all the time and oblivious to others. I’ve recently encountered such a person, who’ll be hard to avoid. Any coping strategies? Or am I just a dull, misery guts?

I dont think I've ever seen somone actually act like that outside of a bad TV skit

yes my husbands relative has to be loudes tin the room has to start a dance or some sort of group activity

i find them really fake

haha I find it to be the opposite. People who are genuinely dull and boring, who say something like "oh I bought a new tshirt, its BRIGHT BLUE, I know- I'm crazy, I am" yet there's nothing crazy about it whatsoever.

Yep, normally dickheads.

If you have to announce to people what you are then unfortunately only one thing is certain.
You're a dickhead 😂

I don't think I know anyone like this. I did however used to have an acquaintance that described herself to me as 'off the wall' when we first met. I thought I'd misheard. 'You know, off the wall, eccentric!', she said when i asked her to repeat.

Needless to say, she was nothing of the sort.

I'm one of those quirky, eccentric types, except I have never wanted to be. I have spent my life trying to tone down the crazy, trying to blend in and be normal. I think I have the got the hang of it, then someone who is relatively new to my life points out to me that I'm a bit strange.
It's not all fun and games to be honest, but at some point you just have to embrace your true nature.

@MrsToothyBitch

I know the type- tedious. The only type I hate more is a specifically female member of the attention seeker genus. Those who come across as soooooo sweet and wuvable and cutesy-wootsy and sugary. So much so that you know it's an act. They're often annoying and the one I used to know could flip to ice cold bitch around anyone she knew either saw through her act or just wasn't useful/worth charming. I'd still love to smack her simpering chops into the middle of next week. And back again. Hard.

Good user name.

YANBU. There was a fairly popular insta mum who was so "waaaaackyyyyy and I even had dwarves at my wedding" she was just so incredibly try hard that I was embarrassed for her. These people are usually as boring as the rest of us but are trying too hard to be different.

@RedRec This is all men who wear bow ties (when not at a formal, black tie do).

Obviously. Because at a formal black tie do they wear a red/gold/tartan bow tie instead. And on the subject of tartan, they’ll probably also be wearing a kilt despite having a Home Counties accent. Oh, I just described my colleague.

I work with a 'what am I liiiiiiiiike???!!!!' type.

I went for a run and got lost!!!! What am I liiiiiike????!!!

I've just spilt my drink down my top!!!! What am I liiiiiike???!!!

I've got five wardrobes full of clothes!!! What am I liiiiike???!!!

What she's actually like is an unconfident, insecure woman who appears to need continual validation from others but that doesn't stop me wanting tell her to fucking well grow up

Ah I have one of these at work. Middle aged man, jokes and camps it up, laughs so loud the whole office can hear. Look a little closer and you see a bag of anxiety, desperate to be popular.
The loud crazy people tend to also be the sullen moody ones at times. It's like a mild bipolar disorder. I know this because I prefer to casually observe in the office and save meaningful interaction for my friends and family.

That's so funny - I read OP and thought, 'I know someone like that - they are a teacher!' to find subsequent posts about teachers!

My sister is one of these. Dresses in "quirky" unattractive clothes, hideous haircut, and constant "ooh I'm wacky". Actually she is insecure, manipulative and bloody evil. We no longer talk!

I have the tartan bow tie lot slightly differently positioned in my experience.
They sit with the long waxed coat with cape shoulders, German traditional clothing, a particular type of (often leather) fedora. Quite a few in enclaves of law and politics. Luckily the hats can be seen from some distance - avoidance pretty easy when in the wild.

'I've long thought that novelty clothing is a substitute for an actual personality.'
God I love this

We should have more pity for these people. They are just desperate to be loved and are over the top so that they can feign indifference