Husband messaging another woman.

[candylion223]

About a year and a half/two years ago I saw that my husband was messaging another woman. They knew each other as teenagers and she now lives in another country. The messages weren't sexual or anything, but I told my husband I didn't like it and I think he found it funny. Anyway, I forgot about it and assumed they had stopped. Our marriage has been a bit rocky this last year and I just had a look on his phone and they've never stopped messaging each other. They message on both WhatsApp and messenger and send roughly 10-30 messages to each other a day. It's mostly memes and stupid shit, but I get the distinct impression she wants more.
So, my question is, if this was your husband, Would you be annoyed, or would you just let it go because nothing sexual is said?
YABU - shouldn't be annoyed
YANBU - should be annoyed

BTW, I'm more than prepared to be told I'm overreacting.

As many other posters have said, it's not the content of the messages that's concerning, it's the frequency of them.

It's the fact that if he sees something funny, or has something to share, his FIRST thought is to share it with HER, and not you

That's how I would be phrasing it to him. Does he think so little of you that he doesn't want to 'share' things with you ??

He's either incredibly stupid and selfish ( and laughing at your concerns when you raise them is NOT a great sign, is it ?), trying to recapture his youth by being in touch with a childhood 'friend' or he's got half a foot out the door already.................

It's up to you whether you'll put up with being sidelined by an old 'friend', or whether your 'D'H will take your worries seriously.