Neighbour delivers my mail

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AIBU to think if you had an ongoing dispute or you had fallen out with your next door neighbor (none mail related) that you wouldn't want his person delivering your mail each day and also having to open your door quite often to sign for your mail (outside of coronavirus).

YANBU, but we need more information. Are you in the UK? Why is neighbour signing for neighbour's mail? That's just asking for trouble.

Your argument with them shouldn't make them loose their job.

Ask if you can collect all your post from the sorting office.

Oh are they your postman/woman?

I'm afraif you can't expect Royal Mail to sort a different postman/woman just for you.

Is he your postie?

As in they are your post man/woman?

Unless you fell out with them over post YABU. Do you think they would withhold delivery to you? That's a very serious offence.

is your next door neighbour your actual royal-mail-employed postal delivery worker? or are royal mail delivering your post to the wrong address?

If the neighbour was a firefighter would you have an issue with them putting your house out if it went up in flames? You sound very childish, sorry

Actually some people would. There was a thread here not too long ago about a postman continuously messing with someone's posts over a silly issue once and she's had to make a formal complaint.

I wouldn't put it past vindictive people to take advantage of their power (in this case, postie duties). Not saying this one is doing so (still don't know the details anyway) but it is definitely possible. A postie is a fallible human afterall.

If your neighbour is your postman then no, you can't ask for someone else to deliver. Maybe you can arrange to pick it up at the sorting office?

I did the think Royal Mail allowed this, except in very isolated areas (eg islands of Scotland where one person delivers all the mail on the island).

This person is my postie. Unfortunately I have to sign for parcels a few times each week as I'm self employed (which isn't a problem at the moment because of coronavirus). This is a long standing disagreement turned into a verbal argument (sorry trying to keep this brief as it's already quite outing).

What is the alternative OP? Surely yiure ot really suggesting the neighbour should lose or change their job?

I dont think you're unreasonable to find it uncomfortable but you would be unreasonable to try and change it, unless he's done something actually wrong with the mail.

Can the dispute really not be resolved? That would be best all round.

Well if they have behaved professionally in those situations, I don’t think it is reasonable to involve their employer or expect them to change their working route.

If your neighbour worked in the local shop, would you expect them to be sent out the back so you don’t have to see them?

I can see how this is an uncomfortable situation but there's nothing you can do.

However if you think/know your posts are being messed with, you can keep a record (film, photo evidence,etc) of the posts/packages and make a formal complaint citing the issues as well.

As I saw on the thread I mentioned, the OP was advised to send posts (of different sizes) to herself to determine if posts were being tampered with and keep a record of before and after...something like that.

YABU. My mother used to do the post round in our street. She had a falling out with the neighbour two doors down (long story, she got my dad arrested after her son in law smashed a bottle into his head). She then began accusing my mother of steaming open her mail and tampering with her deliveries.
My mother had been on this walk for over 10 years and had never had anything but praise from everyone she interacted with.

Honestly, postie's don't want to mess with your mail. It's not worth their job. They are just doing their work. If you wanted to avoid a shop assistant in a store, you would shop somewhere else. If you want to avoid your postal worker, request to pick up all your mail or move.

I can see it's uncomfortable, but what solution do you suggest?

YABU

your postie can't change job just because you had an argument . It's more of an issue for them than it is for you anyway.

Be careful, you being completely unreasonable about it will make you sound unreasonable about the entire argument.

Yabu. Unless they become unprofessional then keep work and personal life separate.

If you’re bothered then set up a PO Box that you can collect from.

I can see it's awkward, but short of moving house, I don't think you can do anything about it

It's probably awkward for the neighbour too, especially if they might worry that you could make a false allegation against them eg intercepting your mail

There's no reason for you to think they would act in an inappropriate manor at work is there? Most adults can keep their work and personal life issues separately even if the two cross over.

Yanbu not to want them to, but unless the situation has got to a stage where one of you feels afraid of the other, ywbu to expect them to be reassigned to a different area solely due to your falling out with them. Disagreements happen in life.

If you're expecting Royal Mail to give you your own postie, that is probably the most entitled thing I've ever read on here!

Pay for and use a POBox if you don't like using the royal mail postie.

As long as they are acting in a professional way when they deliver your mail I am not sure what the issue would be. Either suck it up or arrange to go collect your mail at the depot.