3 year old and coffee

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AIBU to be cross that DM has given my just turned 3 DD a cup of coffee and chocolate cake for lunch whilst I waited in the car for DS to wake up?

Was it an actual cup of coffee or a frappe, baby chino etc.

An actual small cup of coffee, full strength made from the coffee machine and only a dash of milk.

Wtf? Not ok!

Are you sure she isn't joking?

Is your mum pranking you? If not I'd actually be a bit worried about her mental health if she has done this as no person in their right mind is likely to have done this. Although I can't imagine a 3 year old happily drinking a cup of coffee, it's definitely an acquired taste!

From a shop or your house?

Milky decaf; fine.

An actual small cup of coffee, full strength made from the coffee machine and only a dash of milk plus chocolate cake?

"Bye Mum, have a nice afternoon!" And off you pop.

Why the hell would anyone do that?! What's wrong with a cup of milk? Nutter.

That's truly bizarre!

My grandparents used to give us milky coffee when we were tiny however it was very weak, now a days I don't think they would have done it.

Why would a 3 year old drink a strong cup of coffee ?? 🤔

Surely your 3yo would just spit it out? Unusual to like that taste at 3 id have thought. I reckon your mums winding you up

Surely they didn’t drink it? Was it full of sugar!

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An actual small cup of coffee, full strength made from the coffee machine and only a dash of milk.

Tbh I'm more impressed your kid managed to drink it!

Surely a child would spit it out? Maybe it's like when I was 6 and proudly told my mum that my GPs had let me have a glass of wine with my dinner - it was Ribena and lemonade.

My 4 year old loves the taste of coffee so dont agree they would spit it out. I often have decaf and he will happily have sips of that black. Definitely not good for your mum to give it though.

Does she understand that caffeine is an actual drug with measurable affects on the body, and that coffee is a stimulant delivery system not a fucking food? She's an idiot. Choc cake not great but not the worst but coffee AND cake, never looking after her again not even for five minutes unless she's suitably repentant and knows what a fucking lunatic thing she just did.

I give our two year old coffee. Obviously with the coffee and milk proportions reversed. She asks for a little splash of it in her morning milk sometimes. No apparent harm. I'm sure mumsnet will tell me I'm killing her though.

She wasn't joking...she wouldn't have told me. I only found out because DS has woken up so I went in and found DD drinking it.

Sniffed it proper coffee. DM claims it was only a little bit from her cup but the rim of foam around the edge suggests otherwise.

We have a rocky relationship and have previously fell out about her behaviours with DD and I refused to allow her unsupervised access, I'm trying very hard to get along but things like this make it very difficult.

Why on earth would you give a child coffee?!

Fucking hell 😂

She's mental.

"an actual drug with measurable affects on the body, and that coffee is a stimulant delivery system not a fucking food? She's an idiot."

Slight overreaction It's a cuppa not a crack pipe

Out of curiosity, did your child like it?!

Yikes, I'd be cross - does DD normally nap in the afternoon (most just turned 3 year olds do)?

It won't harm her just this once, but will make her behaviour difficult to deal with this afternoon I'd imagine, and obviously if given regularly caffeine can be harmful to children, especially in terms of growth.

Chocolate cake for lunch - unless it's her birthday and pre-agreed then YANBU at all, that's ridiculous.

My kids (similar ages to yours) came back from my in-laws having had coffee most days. I ignored it but, equally, told the kids that they couldn't have it at home, which caused quite a bit of grumbling.

I had more of an issue when we were all together and the kids asked if they could order coffees and we said no. My father-in-law overruled our wishes and told the kids they could order whatever they liked. At that point, it was a bit awkward as I put my foot down.

I don't think the odd coffee is the end of the world, but equally I find it slightly bizarre to actively encourage young kids to drink it, when there's more age appropriate drinks.

Slight overreaction grin It's a cuppa not a crack pipe

Yes, some people need to cool the jets.