Not sure why friend is like this, anybody else experienced this ?

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If you said to someone for instance that you were going on holiday (in usual times) they would say 'that's nice/have fun/have a good holiday' etc wouldn't they ?
If I said that to my friend, she'd say 'where are you going ?' and then 'oh right/ok'

Recently had a socially distanced meeting with my new boyfriend's family, and i've finally met a nice guy after a lot of bad luck. Most people would say 'i'm happy for you/that's great' etc. But she said absolutely nothing.

I used to send her my art but don't bother anymore as she never has anything to say, either compliments or feedback. I just sent her a character i'd drawn once and she just said "Don't know who that is."

She doesn't have to like things/care etc. But I just feel like she lacks the social awareness to even say things out of politeness.

She can also be quite dismissive too. I remember when I left my old job and they organised a leaving breakfast for me. It was really kind of them but she just said "Oh well they do that for anyone who's leaving."

When the nurse was so caring when I was giving blood, "Well, it's their job to be nice !"

When I comment on how a new friend of hers is nice "Well, he/she wouldn't be my friend if they weren't !"

I don't always boast about myself or only say good things, i've spent an entire year with her talking about some guy she likes, and I talk about any problems i've had too.

I know she's depressed about being single and not having a family (she's said) but I'm not sure why she's like this, it's just very draining and negative. I've tried to tell her once before but nothing has changed. Any opinions ?

I know she's also got family issues and only sees them yearly, and maybe she's annoyed because I am very close to mine, even though I don't rub that in either.

I’d just say her social skills aren’t fantastic or she doesn’t know what to say.
Doesn’t make her a frenemy. She obviously wants to be friends to stay in contact with you over the years.
It’s not uncommon a lot of people are like this. Maybe find some new supportive friends?

Let her make contact with you, when she does reply to her as she does to you. See what happens

She texts you every day about herself? That’s wearing enough. I wonder if she’s doing what someone earlier into her head mentioned - sending the same text to lots of contacts. Then she can feel busy replying to the ones she wants to and ignoring the others. She’ll reply to you if it’s a slow day because you clearly aren’t a priority to her and she doesn’t consider you to be a friend as you think of her. I’d ignore her and leave all texts unopened for a week or more. Have a look after however many days and see if a) she said anything interesting b) she asked you any questions c) she expressed any concern about you. I’ll bet you anything the only emotion she will show is annoyance that you haven’t replied to her about her.

earlier into her head = earlier in the thread

With regards to why she is waaay nicer to her crush, isn't that quite evident? She wants to impress him so he likes her, most people show themselves in the best light to new people/people they won't to impress. Some people even go to such lengths as inventing a whole different persona to get the guy/girl their like, theres like hundreds of movies out there about it 😂
I am a bit like that, I am polite but reserved with people, but very blunt and matter of fact with people that I am close to. I have lost friends over the years due to it, but the remaining people not only don't mind but actually like it about me. I am the friend they go to if they want to know the truth with no sugarcoating. They do not ask for opinions if they are unsure if they want to hear the truth, and I ve learnt not to offer my opinion unless asked.