Ok so brief backstory..FIL (now deceased) was an alcoholic. Generally not violent, but was on occasion which was witness by DH as a child. He was more of a water as DH puts it. MIL kicked him out, but he’d get drunk and turn up at DH school etc. SIL seems to remember this as her dad turning up at school, making her laugh. DH vividly remembers him being drunk, wearing urine soaked trousers and DH got bullied and laughed at due to this. SIL stayed in sporadic contact with her dad (although she would often complain about him being drunk, or unkind), DH refused all contact from age 7.
Anyway, FIL died. OH wasn’t particularly bothered. He hadn’t seen him in 20 years. SIL was devastated. Fair enough - it’s not up to us to judge her grief.
Anyway, today she brings me and OH round a picture. It’s an A1 canvass, which is basically my three sons, merged onto a picture of her daughter and dog, with a massive picture of FIL with wings (in angel form) behind them, basically embracing them. It’s fucking monstrous.
DH has said he doesn’t want it, she’s calling us ungrateful and has called DH all sorts of names. I said perhaps we accept it, and store it under the stairs and just put it out when they come round (monthly) DH is adamant we’re not having it, SIL knows he had no relationship with FIL so even if the canvas wasn’t disgusting, he wouldn’t want it anyway. I mean..we’re not unreasonable surely?