to not tell the neighbor about gas bbq

[thecatsarecrazy]

On Sunday I cooked a few sausages on a gas bbq. It wasn't on long. Was just one pack of sausages to have for lunch as it was a nice day. I have never noticed a lingering smell when I have used a gas one so didn't pay much thought.
My neighbor though shouted out while my 3 year old was in the garden -
A fucking bbq? would have been nice if you had said something, your fucking selfish! now my fucking washing stinks!
I've had no issues with her before shes always been chatty when passing outside. Lived here 3 years and both moved in at the same time. She smokes cannabis outside several times a day and I've never said anything but I find that stink more offensive.

If she says anything again maybe point out that her cannabis makes YOUR washing smell!

Ignore her

Oi oi hash head! Give me a heads up next time you have a sneaky joint!

Tell her to go fuck. Seriously.

I have PMT issues thik week😡

She was completely unreasonable with the way she spoke.

However, it is quite selfish not to warn neighbours of any BBQ’s if they have washing out.

I think it’s good neighbour etiquette to let them know.

She was rude. But round here neighbours warn each other of lunchtime bbqs if washing is out.

Why would you mention a gas bbq? They don’t smell like charcoal bbqs so what she was smelling was food, and unless you’re bbq is right next to her washing then she’s talking bollocks.

But yes, next time she smokes outdoors shout back to her.

You can smell gas bbq's and get smoke off them. Mh neighbour has one and I can smell smoke upstairs in bedrooms when she does it. Not as much as a normal one, but it still smokes, and sausages would need a good 20 mins at least? Think I'd have not done it if washing out next door to be honest, but her response was rude.

You've got every right to have a BBQ in your own garden - a gas one would smoke a lot less than a charcoal one so shouldn't have any effect on her washing - I do normally give my neighbours a heads up it they have washing out and we're planning on a charcoal BBQ but I wouldn't not have the BBQ.

YABU if she already had her washing out. That's just common courtesy.

But the swearing is also rude.

Our neighbours always tell us when they're putting their bbq on if they're using the bbq. It's just good manners.

If be tempted to use her words back at her. Next time she's smoking a joint outside, shout, "Fucking cannabis? Would have been nice if you had said something, you're fucking selfish! Now my fucking washing stinks!"

See how she responds to that.

Gas bbq's do still smoke, not as much as a charcoal one but they do.

She has completely invalidated any point she might have had by speaking to you in that way. How dare she. Tell her to get fucked.

She was rude, understandably irked, due to your discourteous behaviour.

Ignore her, rude sod

I’d be having bbq 3 times a day for the next 3 months and reporting her drug use.
You do not need permission for a bbq.

Oi oi hash head! Give me a heads up next time you have a sneaky joint!

This made me chuckle.

I’ve never known anyone warn their neighbours when having a bbq. Honestly mumsnet is like a parallel universe sometimes, where you can’t paint your side of the fence without asking and need to go knock on all your neighbours doors if you’re having a bbq. I assume disturbing them as they are working out how to make their chicken last a week and how to clean the loo without a loo brush,,,🤣

You're not unreasonable, she is and foul mouthed with it. The smell of food cooking probably made her hungry and jealous.

Shout back something like "Yeah, sometimes I'm a cunt when I've not had a shag in a long time too".

Sausages cooking on a BBQ make smoke with the fat dripping on to the flame whether it is gas or charcoal .

Gas doesn't cause the initial short smoke that charcoal does, but the cooking creates the same amount.

Sounds like she was having a bad day. Interruption to cannabis supply, maybe.

I would ask a neighbour to stop smoking near my fence and windows if I could smell the smoke.

My neighbours light barbeques quite frequently when we have infrequent warm sunny days.
I cannot picture a universe whereby I then swear at them over the fence.