DP (40) and I (31) have been together for a relatively short period of time (6 months) however over the strictest part of the lockdown period I lived with him and due to the change in routine and all of the hectic goings on, I forgot to take a couple of my contraceptive pills here and there. I should point out that I feel absolutely mortified about this and I’m completely aware that it’s highly irresponsible. AF was due yesterday and I’m usually like clockwork but no sign. I’ve also noticed a couple of other strange symptoms which could indicate early pregnancy however I’m conscious that I could be overly paranoid.
DP and I have discussed children and both of us would like to have them at some point in the future. Neither of us have any DC from previous relationships but DP is particularly keen to settle down and have children in the near future due to his age. Whilst we are both financially in good positions and are home owners, we don’t live together currently and I’m conscious we are in the very very early stages of our relationship. Due to this, I’d be inclined to terminate the pregnancy if the test were to be positive.
Having never been through this before I’d really like DP’s support with all of this (including the test), but don’t know how I should approach things or whether it’d be wrong of me to get him involved and cause unnecessary upset or worry when my mind is pretty much made up i.e. do I tell him I believe I could be pregnant and let him know I’ll be taking a test? Do I take a test without telling him and then discuss the result or, do I simply save his feelings and not tell him at all and go ahead with the termination?
Any advice would be appreciated