To think the drunk mind speaks the sober truth?

[Ginnyrellas]

Genuinely, who thinks when they’ve had one two many shandy’s they are their most honest selves? Not absolutely black out offensive drunk obviously. But I feel like I have these most amazing ideas about my future when I’ve had a few Gins and then I get up in the morning and I’m like, there’s no way on this planet I can do that!

Not sure really, because alcohol can really change you.

I had a friend, usually lovely, normal, kind, thoughtful but alcohol made her violent! It was completely out of character. She completely avoids it now.

I also start getting really sociable, texting old flames, friends etc after a few. But I'm definitely not more honest because I made up a ton of stuff trying to impress my ex, thinking ha it doesn't matter because i'll never see him again. Bit pathetic really!

I definitely become more honest when I'm drunk. They do say your more honest when you're drunk

I definitely become more honest when I'm drunk. They do say your more honest when you're drunk

No you are not honest when you are drunk. You are rude and obnoxious and unaware of other people's feelings

I’m definitely less boring when I’ve had a drink. Convince myself I’m going to sell up everything and go travelling every time. Wake up and feel horrified at the sheer thought of such spontaneously

A little drink definitely brings people’s guard down which is no bad thing. A lot of drink can turn some v nasty though - maybe their true self? I’m sure they’d hope not but who knows

Like I said not black out drunk! Nice drunk!
Just a little bit of a tingle drunk!

What about PMT talk? When hidden resentments come into the open?

Sometimes.
But equally people chat total shit after a few drinks too, with no hidden truth! I know I have!

I believe that alcohol doesn't change a person, it brings out what's really inside - what's being masked/hidden/kept in for fear of judgement, punishment or by trying to follow social norms and rules. Your inhibition is lowered and your full self emerges.

@Carly767 oooooh yeah I feel that! My poor husband has been on the receiving end of them many a time!

Definitely not. I have told complete lies when drunk and I don’t lie in real life. I also fancy people I definitely do not fancy when I am sober. I am not good with alcohol really, and also try to avoid it after years of bad situations but I really don’t think it brings out the real me or a more truthful version. It turns me into someone completely different!

My Dh says I get very honest about drink number 3, but it manifests in many ways. Sometimes I say something I’ve been sitting on a while. Sometimes I admit my best friend is a bit of a shit (won’t hear a word said about her sober). Most of the time it takes the form of admitting a crush on Tim Roth and wishing corkscrew perms were still in fashion. He calls it my honesty cannon because it is indiscriminate but effective.
Honestly though I do mostly stop at 2 now because i have spoken truth about secrets I was holding (about a woman being abused in both cases) and there’s been fall out.

I feel like I have these most amazing ideas about my future when I’ve had a few Gins and then I get up in the morning and I’m like, there’s no way on this planet I can do that!

What kind of ideas?

It sounds to me like it's stuff you want to do but your confidence is holding you back (which might explain why you feel you could do them when tipsy).

I almost never tell the truth when I'm drunk. I'm very argumentative and will say whatever will get a reaction/start an argument. I once told my best friend that I would call her Flora from now on, since she spreads so easily (the shame!). I don't get drunk any more and this is a major reason why.

@LonginesPrime I currently work for a company that deals with areospace and defence ( I quit my job as a retail manager for this job) But I’m only a cleaner, but I know Im intelligent and I’m so interested and willing to learn. But my daughters only 8 years old which means I can’t meet the hours. But my foots in the door.

I’ve pondered this myself but I don’t think so. I know when I’ve been wasted I’ve said things that looking back I thought WTFFFF I don’t really believe that at all! And it was nothing dark or that I would benefit from being in denial about so no reason why I’d lie to myself when sober.
People do stupid shit when drunk. I also don’t believe that people secretly enjoy eating greasy kebabs out of the gutter or wearing traffic cones on their head either! Both things that no one would enjoy doing when sober or secretly have a desire to do.

@DontDribbleOnTheCarpet

Yeah exactly! I don’t drink now either for the same reason, I do dumb stuff that’s completely out of character when drunk and it’s really quite scary.

Not at all, could not be further from the truth

(Worked in a rehab)

Anything I splurge out when drunk tends to be quite honest. I suppose it can also intensify feelings though so a drunken I love you/I hate you isn’t necessarily to be trusted.

No I don’t think so

Alcohol changes your perceptions, I think how you are feeling in general it will heighten that feeling

People might say something that they want to say but probably wouldn’t when sober as they know it would be hurtful or cause an issue

In Vino Veritas as people used to say.

Yep the drinkier I get the more cleverier I become.

That sounds really exciting, OP - have you looked into it properly and checked whether there's any way you could make it work, or have you decided not to check it out because you've already talked yourself out of it?

It sounds like you've taken a big leap of faith already career-wise to follow your passion, so I would pursue this avenue a bit more before giving up entirely!

What do you tell your DD when she has dreams about the future? Do you crush her spirits and tell her to be more realistic, or do you tell her she can do anything she puts her mind to? What kind of an example is it setting to her if you give up on your own dreams before you've started?

I just talk and talk and talk when I’ve had a few sherbets. Mostly bollocks so my DP says