AIBU to expect my DH to stop using my chargers?

[Rebecca980]

This seems soooo small and silly.

But I keep my two chargers for my iPhone 11 Max (model will become relevant!) And my headphones /kindle in a small box in my bedside table.

My DH CONSTANTLY nips in there to use them - despite his own chargers being wherever he left them in the house. Just mine are - apparently - more convenient at the time.

I’ve now - mainly as a ‘joke’ (but I do actually mean it) - written my initials in nail varnish on them.

The charger for my phone is much faster. And I have a proper system on an evening on charging headphones/kindle and then phone overnight.

It sounds so silly - and our ‘arguments’ over it are jestfull. But he thinks I’m being unreasonable to be annoyed with him rummaging through my drawers and taking my chargers. He thinks I’m also silly to have drawn my initials on them (even though I’ve done this as a ‘half’ joke).

Am I being a bitch? I guess my main argument is that our third bedroom is his office. His chargers are in there and he just can’t be arsed to get them!!!!!!

[Sgtmajormummy]

He needs to create an efficient system for himself.
In the room/s where it’s needed.

Can’t stand faffing when a job needs doing multiple times a week.

[WhoWants2Know]

Yeah, moving another person's charger would be a big no-no in this house. Everyone has their own and every charger has it's place and there's no mucking about.

[Fromage]

I would take his chargers from his office and keep them in the bedside drawer.

[Fromage]

I might also mark them with "use your own chargers you twit"

[HanPanPeg]

YAnbu - my charger is always in the same place and DH is always moving it and using because he can’t be bothered to find his (and pre lockdown would probably take to work and lose). Drives me bananas!

[SteelyPanther]

We have our own chargers here and have written our names on them.
If I were you I’d hide them somewhere else.

[Rosieredapples]

I painted nail varnish all over my ply and the end of the charger so it was easily identifiable as mine when it went walking, which it frequently did with my husband and teens "borrowing it" but never putting it back in its rightful place. It drove me batty that the thing I was careful with and kept in a specific place would go walking and I'd have to roam the house to find it. Nobody owns up to taking it.
I 100% understand your frustration, I've bought extra plugs and cables but they still come back and move mine.
I'm sorry I have no real solution but a plug socket with USB ports in it that we had installed has been very useful as in my experience they generally have a lead but not the plug part that goes into the electric socket.
Good luck

[ThirteenRed]

This would give me the rage & DH knows it. He isn't allowed to remove the one from my work bag nor unplug and remove the one from my bedside. He can use the one at my bedside but he's not allowed to unplug it. As with my work charger I go to use it and it's disappeared into his fucking work bag. Then they get left at his work. Fucking knob jockey!

[JuanNil]

As alternatives to my previous idea...

buy a cheap arse charger from amazon or better yet the pound shop, put it in your bedroom drawer, and put your charger in a little make up bag in your handbag. Play dumb from this point on, let him use that cheap charger until he realises it charges so slowly that he'd rather walk to his office to fix the problem.

move your chargers to his office

tell him to ask The Help to get his charger, which I'm guessing is in the fourth wing of your mansion, otherwise I can't see why he can't be bothered to walk there. If he hasn't hired help, use his card to hire a charger getting person. Ideally one that will also hoover occasionally. Then just chill out and relax in the indoor pool.

[sophiestew]

I agree with PP - I would lock mine away!!

[Suzie6789]

I have this exact issue but with my DS. I have one charger, next to my chair, I’ve sharpied ‘do not remove’ onto it. It sends me into a rage when I sit down to charge my phone and it’s gone. Feckers.

[Ellisandra]

You’ve reminded me I need to buy another charger!

I’m your husband in this scenario - though I try to remember to put them back, and I bought them all in the first place!

But he has fixed points where he always has one (bedroom, work, car) whereas I seem to always be moving mine around. I travel for work and never quite seem to maintain my aim of one in my laptop bag. I also use my phone a lot more - so whereas one charge overnight does him, I’m more likely to move a cable because I’m using it in my son’s room to read from kindle app to him - things like that. As a result, although I don’t lose cables, I’m seen to go through them getting unreliable or breaking altogether.

It annoys me when I borrow his! He’s very nice about it, but I expect he feels like you, OP - and I don’t think you’re unreasonable!

[Brefugee]

As I said, main gripe is he can’t be arsed to enter his office to get his own!!! Then just leaves mine all over the place!

That kept happening to mine. And every bloody time i said: I don't mind people using my chargers just put them back where they belong but apparently nobody could be bothered.
So now they're in my handbag and only i get to use them.

[Chamomileteaplease]

It sounds petty but really he is dismissing your frustration and upset as unimportant.

I would stop "joking" and sit him down one day and tell him how maddening you find it and as your husband who presumably cares about you, would he please stop being so selfish and leave you to enjoy the well managed system you have created for yourself. And could he please sort himself out without as one PP put it, bringing his chaos to your calm.

Look him in the eye!! Make sure he understands how annoying he is being.

If he carries on, well come back for some revenge ideas.

[TimeWastingButFun]

You need lots and LOTS of chargers elsewhere. I bought a few of those little boxes that take 4 USB sockets each, one by each side of our bed and two in the living room, plus a big bunch of leads of different lengths - mine is pink and glittery as a further deterrent.

[TimeWastingButFun]

You need lots and LOTS of chargers elsewhere. I bought a few of those little boxes that take 4 USB sockets each, one by each side of our bed and two in the living room, plus a big bunch of leads of different lengths - mine is pink and glittery as a further deterrent.

[2andahalfpints]

Just wait till you have kids needing chargers too 🤣
Buy more, buy lots, have them everywhere and yours will be left alone

[Brefugee]

OP - you don't need to buy anything or do anything. Just keep telling your DH to buy more, plug them in everywhere and keep insisting he stay the FUCK away from your chargers.

[forrestgreen]

Take your chargers out of the box and hide them in socks.
Probably take a week for him to reset his laziness. Yes it'd drive me bonkers too.
Or get him a box with his name on, put it on top of your box. Find his chargers (only once) and put them in his box. He either replaces them or goes looking.
It's rude using your stuff and not replacing it, so you are the one looking for chargers.

[Sickofbroccoli]

I feel your pain and it’s exactly the kind of petty thing I’d be annoyed about. One of my colleagues used to do similar and honestly one of the highlights of changing from Android to iPhone was that she could no longer “borrow” my cable.

The best solution is as PP said probably to get one per room, no need to pay the Apple premium - any USB PD charger will work paired with a C-lightning cable.

[HowLongCanICallitBabyWeight]

I've done what you have with Sharpie! DH used to accuse me of moving/losing his charger and I knew it was the other way around so I marked them , he still loses his, mine stay where they are... Surprising! I've also said I don't mind him using mine if he can put them back, there were a few times I ended up running out of charge midway through work etc because there was only one left at home which he swore was his and needed to use over night

[NeutrinoWrangler]

That would drive me mad. I'd institute a rule that my chargers were not to leave my bedside table. Either plug it in and leave it there or find another charger, but at your peril take mine and "lose" it!

If you hide them for a week or two, could you train him to look elsewhere?

[Soontobe60]

Put a padlock on your drawer? Or just buy more chargers! We have them either side of the bed, and have charger sockets in the kitchen and behind the sofa with cables permanently plugged into them, so that whichever room we are in there's always a charger to hand.

[WeAllHaveWings]

You have your chargers you use every day in box in a drawer? Ours are permanently plugged in. First come first served.

There is a line where playful jibbing by one partner becomes irritating as fuck for the other. I think you need to learn when you've crossed it.

[makingmammaries]

Just keep your chargers somewhere else. Don’t tell him where. Problem solved.