AIBU to expect my DH to stop using my chargers?

[Rebecca980]

This seems soooo small and silly.

But I keep my two chargers for my iPhone 11 Max (model will become relevant!) And my headphones /kindle in a small box in my bedside table.

My DH CONSTANTLY nips in there to use them - despite his own chargers being wherever he left them in the house. Just mine are - apparently - more convenient at the time.

I’ve now - mainly as a ‘joke’ (but I do actually mean it) - written my initials in nail varnish on them.

The charger for my phone is much faster. And I have a proper system on an evening on charging headphones/kindle and then phone overnight.

It sounds so silly - and our ‘arguments’ over it are jestfull. But he thinks I’m being unreasonable to be annoyed with him rummaging through my drawers and taking my chargers. He thinks I’m also silly to have drawn my initials on them (even though I’ve done this as a ‘half’ joke).

Am I being a bitch? I guess my main argument is that our third bedroom is his office. His chargers are in there and he just can’t be arsed to get them!!!!!!

[Dollywilde]

I file this stuff in the ‘if he died, annoying habits of his I’d probably miss’ box. Sounds morbid but makes it easier to deal with!

[TorkTorkBam]

Disrespectful and selfish of him. I would take to keeping those chargers in my pocket/handbag and not telling him.

You keep yours in a regular place. He leaves his all over the shop. When he needs one he knows where yours are but not where his are so he takes yours and leaves them somewhere random. Rude. Selfish. Inconsiderate.

I would be telling him directly I find it awfully self-centred of him to move my charger and not put it back. Now, if he left the cable plugged in where it was and put his phone there to charge then that would be fine. Make it less of a joke. He is being a dick.

[Davodia]

YANBU, I’d be annoyed about him removing the charger from the bedroom and having to go searching for it. Tell him he can use it but it has to stay in the bedroom.

[M0mmyneedswine]

This would bug me too. Mine stays plugged in next to bed, anyone can use it if im not but they cannot move it.

[Davros]

Me too. Mine has my initials on it in Sharpie. DH has access to plenty of chargers but hasn't got a scooby where they are. I'm careful with my one charger and know exactly where it is. He can jog on

[ShellsAndSunrises]

We have chargers plugged in by the bed that anyone can use but they don’t get moved... and a charger in the living room that anyone can use; that also doesn’t really get moved but could if it needed to be.

I’ve got a Max too so I got a second charger for that; as it is faster. I wouldn’t be bothered by fiancé using my charger but he’d be bringing it back to me when I needed it, if he hadn’t already returned it. That seems polite!

[PawPawNoodle]

I think its pretty sad that you're so territorial over a charger, and that despite your 'system' you need unfettered access to the phone charger.

I have my super-fast charger in the living room which Mr Noodles phone doesn't need, if his phone is plugged in to it when I need it however that's just tough tits for me and I'll go use his in the bedroom.

[Iloveacurry]

That would annoy me too. I have two chargers, one for my phone and one for my iPad. Both on my side of the bed, for my use.

[CoRhona]

@Rebecca980 in that case, super glue it to the socket, that'll teach him

[Isolatedizzy]

People moving my chargers gives me the rage! I've set up a charging station with all the chargers I need for all gadgets - go to plug something in and DS has nicked one! Go to Argos buy 2 new Apple chargers - give him (another) one - I add to mine to my charging station! A week later it's bloody gone again! It's infuriating! And he's 20 & working not 10! 😡

[WTFisthisabout]

I'm very happy to share my charger but if he's taking it away from where it lives so you have to search for it...

Either buy him his own lightening charger for Christmas and personalise it with his initials in rhinestones or strangle him with yours.

[Catmaiden]

Why the fuck should the OP have to buy more chargers? Why should she have to fix the problem?
OP, hide your chargers where your twat of a "partner" can't find them. And tell him why you've done so (but not where!)

[Catmaiden]

And some fast chargers are not ok to use with some tech. He risks blowing up his tech if he uses the wrong rated charger

[GreenTulips]

Ohhh I feel your pain

His chargers are in the car, his back pack or work.

Mine plugged in one in the kitchen one in the living room - both disappear!!!

It’s not ok and he can order his bloody own!

[SephrinaX]

Totally get it. My other half does this too. When I tell him I need my charger back I get quizzed on what battery percentage I have left! Gives me the rage.

[Paradiseinportugal]

Op, you're definitely not being unreasonable, I've had the same, sometimes explosive arguments with my husband. He pinches my chargers all the time. He completely denies that he's stolen them. My Daughter-in-law has the same problem with her husband, my son. We've taken to buying pink or gold chargers, they don't knick them. Too girly coloured. It works though.

[Allmyeye]

YANBU. I had a charger for my phone, one for my iPad and one I bought as a spare. I’m now down to one. DS says it’s nothing to do with him but I know better. I guard my remaining one fiercely.

[MissyNomer]

Get a locked box for them.

[Nitpickpicnic]

Lock box, or just Velcro them under/behind your bedside drawer. Still handy, but hidden.

Or, since he’s making you get up to hunt down your chargers all over the house, take the opportunity to nick something of his on the way back. Put it with his chargers. Every time until it stops.

This is one of these stalemates that talking/arguing won’t resolve. Action will.

[Pumpkintopf]

YANBU. This drives me absolutely demented. I have a multi charger plug in the kitchen with relevant wires for my phone, kindle etc - invariably nicked by dc/dh - really really annoys me!

[MrsTerryPratchett]

Break circuit alarm for the drawer. Really loud. You can do this cheaply with a personal alarm. Duct tape the string to the door front and the alarm to the main bit. Give him a fucking shock.

[mawbroon]

I am the only one in our house with a USB C on my phone so it doesn't fit anyone else's device. It's a total luxury not having to look for my charging cable. I didn't realise what a PITA is was until it stopped happening!
YANBU

[JuanNil]

Take the chargers from his office and put them in the bedside drawer - tell him that's where they're kept from now on. If he needs a charger while he's in the office he can come out and get one, or buy a new one for his office. Having them all kept in the same place means he has no reason to find yours more convenient.

Or, you know, you could just LTB

[Purpleartichoke]

Him Using your charger in its existing place is fine as long as he doesn’t mind you unplugging it if you need to use it. If he takes it somewhere else in the house, I would be angry.

[NoMoreReluctantCustodians]

I voted YABU as I thought how ridiculous to care. But then i read that he doesnt put them.back so YANBU. That would drive me mad. Dont think I'd do the.initials thing though