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To ask if you like your siblings

253 replies

Theeyeof · 10/07/2020 17:17

Just that really

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CathyorClaire · 10/07/2020 20:46

One DB.

OK in small doses but has a gift for lifting the shine off anything we buy or do. We are not super close.

PurBal · 10/07/2020 20:46

Most of the time yes

qazxc · 10/07/2020 20:46

I neither particularly like or dislike my sister. We're very different in most ways so wouldn't naturally have a lot in common but there's nothing objectionable about her either.

x2boys · 10/07/2020 20:51

Yes I have one sister I love her ,we don't have a great deal in common or see that much of each other and have very different life styles but we get on very well and I have her back and I think she has mine ,she had a marriage break up recently which devastated my parents more than her and whilst I do think she acted quite selfishly towards my bil. I knew she had,nt been happy for years and I have defended her a lot to our parents .

ChristmasFluff · 10/07/2020 20:52

I totally echo PPs - I'm glad my little sister and I didn't kill eachother when we were at home and hated eachother (we confined ourselves to physically scarring eachother for life!), because since we left home, we've got on so well and have been eachother's best friend since our late 20s. Except for when we've been having humungous rows. :-D I always got on with my older brother and sister, in a more distant way, but got closer to them too as we got older.

Yeah, my siblings are the most annoying, infuriating pains in the arse I know. But we can completely be ourselves with eachother and we love eachother, so yes, I like them - and love them to bits.

mamaduckbone · 10/07/2020 20:53

Mine are much older than me.
I love my brother very much but he is more a father figure than a brother.
My sister lives abroad and we have always had a tricky relationship. She can be quite domineering and has never really accepted that I am a grown up. She thinks our relationship is closer than I do and to be honest I find her very hard work.
I can't imagine a 'normal' sibling relationship where you have grown up together and had shared experiences - I have always been at a very different life stage to my siblings.

Idontlikewednesdays · 10/07/2020 20:53

I adore my older brother and his wife. They are both fab😍

Tigger001 · 10/07/2020 20:57

Yes, he is a great person and I'm very proud of the person he has become.

He is passionate in what he believes in , as am I, so we have some good debates.
He is loving and caring, I know I could pick the phone up, night or day, and he would be here.
And he is funny so really good company when we do meet up.

And now, he is an amazing uncle, our DS is very lucky to have, as are we,

Grandmi · 10/07/2020 21:02

Nc with my brother have never forgiven him for the way he treated my darling mother when she was alive. See my sister but we are very different personality wise but I do love and care for her . I desperately hope that my three children have a close relationship when they are my age . They all get on well but I can see their lives are all going to be very different from each other’s .

winniesanderson · 10/07/2020 21:05

I love them, but they can be hard work sometimes. One is a compulsive liar though she has calmed that down a lot in the last few years, one dominates every single conversation, one is sweet natured but always making really bad choices. Each one has always got a problem or a drama of some kind going on. It can be exhausting. So I do go through phases where I'm more distant, but love spending time with them in small doses. They can all be really funny in different ways and although it's a once a year, if that, occasion we do have fun when we get together. I wonder what they'd say about me 😬😂

opinionatedfreak · 10/07/2020 21:08

Big age gaps so we weren't friendly as kids but have become so as adults.

They are my go to people when the chips are down and we've had a lot of shit over the last few years as most of our relatives have died during this time period.

My sister and I holiday together and she floats around on the periphery of my social circle as I do to hers (ie. she will occasionally see one of my friends without me).

Brother lives a long way away and won't travel with us as he likes to be spontaneous and we are planners.

We what's app several times a day and I speak to them individually a couple of times a week. Interestingly they don't speak to each other that often.

SIL is joining our gang but her own family dynamic is different and she finds ours a bit difficult at times (we are quite direct with each other). I'm not sure she and I would be friends if we met in other circumstances (and we might have as we have lots of mutual friends... the world is quite a small place).

PurpleThistles84 · 10/07/2020 21:10

My older brother is one of my most favourite people, I’ve adored him for as long as I can remember and we will always be really close. The three I was brought up with, the one I was close to died, the other two are not a part of my life anymore.

ladykuga · 10/07/2020 21:13

Yes and am saddened when I hear that others don't get on with theirs.

TwoZeroTwoZero · 10/07/2020 21:16

I have 3 siblings. I'm closer to one than the others but we all get on OK and help each other where possible.

roundandsideways · 10/07/2020 21:17

No. I've been ostracised by my entire family, blamed for all things, and am generally the black sheep. Both parents have now passed away, and they didn't tell me when the funerals were. I found out my mother had died by stealth, messaged my sister who told me it was my own fault that I didn't know 🙁

stardance · 10/07/2020 21:18

We get on fine. We didn't really see each other very often for a few years as he moved a couple of hours away, but since his daughter was born last year I see him more and get on better as a result. He's still very annoying!

OH has three siblings and they all have a really lovely relationship. Makes me a little sad that I don't have that.

roundandsideways · 10/07/2020 21:18

It is strange because we were close as children, although looking back I did all the work in our relationship.
I'm much happier that I'm no longer trying so hard to make them love me

BabyDancer · 10/07/2020 21:21

Yes, my sisters mean the world to me. I'd do anything for them! We've travelled through Europe together, cycled across countries, ran a marathon and completed the Three Peaks Challenge together. Plus lots of weekends just spent enjoying each other's company. We are all so different (one is a scientist, one is a carpenter and I work in marketing) but somehow we all get along so well. I feel very lucky.

Alwaysinpain · 10/07/2020 21:23

Absolutely not

AdultFishcakes · 10/07/2020 21:30

As an only with three children and debating a 4th I’m watching this thread with interest.

I always wanted a sibling but now I’m a mum I am thankful that my mum just had me as the pain she put me through is still writ large to this day. I had luck and wisdom to stay on the straight and narrow, I wouldn’t have wanted that for a sibling.

WhenPushComesToShove · 10/07/2020 21:32

The closest and very best of lifelong friends until they died

Zenithbear · 10/07/2020 21:35

Very close to one, their oh and their dc. They are who I think of as my family. No contact except funerals with another, barely see the others.

AngeloMysterioso · 10/07/2020 21:35

Nope. Don’t like him, don’t love him, and if he dropped dead tomorrow I don’t think I’d miss him. I haven’t seen him since my Dad’s funeral which was 5 and a half years ago... these days I tend to think of myself as an only child. He’s just not a good person.

Daftarchie · 10/07/2020 21:43

No

SandyY2K · 10/07/2020 21:44

Yes. We all get on well and are very close. We always have each others back, no matter what.