AIBU or are my family cheeky?

[Logiclady94]

Hi all, just wanted some advice on whether my DP and I are BU and Grabby or are my family being CF’s. Basically long story short some members of my family are asking my DP to use his job/skills to build them products. Products which would help with their businesses (don’t want to be outing) but they don’t want to pay the price whenever we mention what it roughly could be on average for an average product (they’ve even said they don’t want anything too fancy) They’ve scoffed at the price and said that they have got similar products currently with not as good quality for a massive fraction of the price and it hardly does any of the stuff they’ve asked him to include. He would also manage and maintain which would save them loads of admin time.

So the current situation that is due to Covid he was let go and our bills mean that we need about
a couple of hundred to maintain our current outgoings (so we wouldn’t be making any profit) and so we suggested again if they still want the products he’d do it for a massive fraction of the price literally the price of our outgoings and they’ve still scoffed in a way.

I am sorry but AIBU in thinking that they are being cheeky and if we asked them for what they were looking to pay than they wouldn’t get anything because most businesses that operated the same products would laugh them out of the room but because they see him as family they think it’s okay to do it for free basically.

Or am I being unreasonable and do I sound grabby? I really hope I don’t but I just don’t want DP to be taken advantage off

[GhostCurry]

“my family are asking my DP to use his job/skills to build them products...They’ve scoffed at the price and said that they have got similar products currently”

“so we suggested again if they still want the products he’d do it for a massive fraction of the price literally the price of our outgoings and they’ve still scoffed in a way.”

“One of the family members has a social media site and they’ve since said it does everything they need to and more so we won’t be needed. But yet they are struggling to find the time to maintain it and update it and they are doing it during the day at their normal office job whereas partner could update and maintain for them, set up email links and everything”

So, to summarise:

• Your family asked your partner to do work.
  

• He quoted, they baulked and said “actually, we’ll stick with what we have. Thanks.”
  

• You then approached them again with a better price, they still said they’d stick with what they have.
  

• You came onto mumsnet to moan about their attitude.
  

If the above is correct, they aren’t actually being CFs. Ok it was unreasonable for them to expect work for free, but when they realised it would be paid for, they declined.

Now you’re just looking at them thinking they’re wrong for not enlisting your DH’s services.

Having said that, yes they ABU for not thinking to support you guys in a time of unemployment. But your latest offer wouldn’t actually benefit you financially anyway, so why don’t you just accept that they’re happy continuing with Facebook and stop thinking about it?

[Logiclady94]

@GhostCurry- no we originally gave them a quote and they still wanted it doing but they kept saying something simple and average, nothing too fancy.. just very very basic.

DP was like yeah and that’s what I quoted you for and yes we did mention it when he lost his job but it was only at the start of lockdown that we were originally asked by one family member.

I reckon they know they are kind of being cheeky because they contact me first not him. They came to me for a valuation to begin with and I said I’d have to speak to him. One of them has a product but they want that improving, he says he isn't the original developer so he wouldn’t be able to add and change stuff without the developers access (apparently it is the ways it built.. it’s a very simple built and the developer doesn’t code or anything)

[Mycatismadeofstringcheese]

It sounds like not only do they want a site built for free, they also want a social media manager to keep it updated. If they’re too busy to maintain Facebook or instagram (or whatever they’re using now), how on earth are they going to maintain a social presence on their website. And then they’ll blame your DH when it doesn’t result in increased bookings and expect t him at their beck and call to fix things when they need it and for free.
I’d tell your DH to stay well away.