To dislike people on fb

[ames7654]

Why do some people on Facebook post bday messages etc to their children who are to young to be on fb or even see the post! Just this morning I saw people saying "happy birthday (child) lots of love mummy and daddy". I don't get it!!! I'd get it a little bit more if it was a mum saying "wow it's been 2 years since (child) was born can't believe it blah blah blah .,,"

Also don't get me started on partners wishing their partners happy bday/anniversary etc don't you don't you do it in person ??

I don't think I am bu? Am I ? I know I should just leave fb. But it's weirdly satisfying to get angry over this stuff.

Totally agree, hence why I deleted FB two years ago. Haven't missed it once. Just don't go on if you don't like it.

@peakygal

I share Birthday, Fathers Day and anniversary things for my husband who passed 4 years ago. Its far from attention seeking..Its keeping his memory alive and showing even though he is gone he doesn't have to be forgotten. To say people use grief to seek attention is disgusting.

I completely agree, and sincere condolences on the loss of your husband. There are some very unkind people on here, and I can only hope, when they experience bereavement, others are compassionate towards them, and don't accuse them of attention-seeking, when they find a way of keeping their loved one's memory alive and managing their grief. There isn't a specific path to follow when you lose someone, and whatever gets you through the day is invaluable and may help others facing the same terrible situation.

Having lived in a few different countries, I have lots of friends on Facebook from all sorts of backgrounds and cultures. Some of them post about things repeatedly that I wouldn't particularly do, but you know what? They are my FRIENDS, and whatever makes them happy, or supported, makes me happy. I just scroll on by if it's not something I'm interested in.

Laughing at someone who would like support in their time of grief? Mocking someone because they wish their child a happy birthday? I really hope I'm not friends in real life with some of you judgmental, mean-spirited whingers!

I have no issue with people wanting to wish their other half/dog/card/baby/teddybear happy birthday on Facebook. What I have issue with is the person posts again and again with requests that we pay attention and make it special for the other half/dog/card/baby/teddybear

I too think it's attention seeking to post long, gushing updates wishing children happy birthdays and talking about how much they're loved when said children aren't on FB, but I'm probably being unreasonable and so are you. It makes people happy. When I see these posts I just roll my eyes and move on.

@JaniceWebster

The worst people on FB are haters who keep looking for things to moan and bitch about

I agree with you.

It's their page and they can pay what they want to.

I don't call it attention seeking to post on the anniversary of a loved ones death.

I do however have an FB friend who pays pics when he's in hospital wired up to ask sorts of machines.... i do think that's is attention seeking.
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I conclude that he doesn't have family closeby and wants some words of comfort from others... so in that sense I can't be getting irritated by it. I have sympathy more than anything else.

LockdownLump

The messages to people 'up in heaven' are the worst. I doubt they have FB in heaven

I can cope with most things on FB and easily scroll past. Posts meant for people in Heaven always make me think “Twat”. “Oh mum I miss you so much” 💔. “Happy Heavenly Birthday dad. You would have been 110 today” 💞

Weird! 😳

People who talk about their grieving friends in such a way make me think 'twat'.

Posts meant for people in Heaven always make me think “Twat”. “Oh mum I miss you so much”

I guess this just shows how different we can be as human beings....because when I see such posts from friends around my age, I feel very grateful and appreciate still having my parents.

To those of you who mock their friends for marking anniversaries of their loved ones' deaths or their birthdays, do you really have no empathy? The grief process takes on average 2-3 years, can't you understand that they're grieving?

You're clearly not being a good friend, are you??

Is someone posts a pic with “Happy Birthday to my mum. I miss her so much. I have lost my best friend”. Fine.

When someone posts a personal message “Happy Birthday Mum, 110 today. You were my best friend. I miss you so much” has a very different slant. I’m sure Mum in Heaven isn’t reading a fb post.

@TeensArghhhh Quite clearly they know that. This is about someone who is grieving for their mum's passing, and wanting to share their pain with others who will also be missing on their birthday. A lot of people bring bouquets to place at a loved one's grave. Would you say that they shouldn't do that because their loved one won't be able to see them?

You seem to lack empathy, quite honestly.

Who cares how they word it, people can express their grief however they like I would hope.

@PablosHoney I agree with you.

Surely it’s about balance? Live in your phone never going to be good.
I post photos mostly on good days!
And memories pop up
I have a smallIsh FB list

My DH died before iPads SM, our children three children friends share anniversary stuff and photos to get people talking, it’s fine to talk about whatever makes you happy, or another reason.
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Like Trying to catch up with people , in a hurry.

I rarely see anything irritating on my Facebook feed, because I'm generally only "friends" with people I like. Easy enough, really.

Lol. Someone else who thinks like me😂. It USED to annoy me, more so baffled than annoy. Then you realise actually... these people are just crying out for attention. ANY attention. There's absolutely NO need to wish anyone a happy birthday, anniversary etc on FB🤷🏻‍♀️😂. If they're THAT important to you, you'd have their phone number and do it privately. It's that simple. Let them continue thinking they're celebrities on FB with their fake statuses 😂😂😂😂😂.

Each to their own. If it gives pleasure then what's the harm ?

I always wonder about people who get so aggrieved over Facebook. I love Facebook, it helps me stay in touch with friends and family all over the world. If someone annoys me I scroll past, and if they annoy me a lot I block them, its not difficult. I like reading about my friends lives, including holidays, report cards etc! I don't think its bragging, its just friends sharing the best bits of our (lets face it) often mundane lives. If people want to post the edited highlights, that's fine by me, I'd rather read about your holiday than what you are having for dinner. And if the whole thing upsets you, well its not compulsory.

I lost both parents years ago. I don’t feel the need to make my grief public. Why would I? I’m not interested in FB posts about how much a parent/sibling/ grandparent is missed. Nobody will be interested in my loss either. Why would they?

I always remember the lids of my loved ones by either taking flowers to the crem or simply saying “Happy Birthday mum/ dad/ granny/ grandpa/ little bro..... “ I don’t expect anyone to share my personal grief

Breaking news - people are different.

And...you don’t do it others do.

I deleted FB a couple years ago, it just turned into ads and seeing friends tagged into photos with people I don’t know. Never looked back