To dislike people on fb

[ames7654]

Why do some people on Facebook post bday messages etc to their children who are to young to be on fb or even see the post! Just this morning I saw people saying "happy birthday (child) lots of love mummy and daddy". I don't get it!!! I'd get it a little bit more if it was a mum saying "wow it's been 2 years since (child) was born can't believe it blah blah blah .,,"

Also don't get me started on partners wishing their partners happy bday/anniversary etc don't you don't you do it in person ??

I don't think I am bu? Am I ? I know I should just leave fb. But it's weirdly satisfying to get angry over this stuff.

I think the birthday messages to loved ones, or on anniversaries of their death are away of sharing their feelings with Facebook friends who will be remembering them on that day. So they're communicating with those particular friends, not with those who didn't know them. That's what SM is for, surely? I just acknowledge those posts and scroll on. Why do you react so strongly?

All types of FB posts upset/annoy different people, if someone tried to cater to all that they’d never post 😂

I share Birthday, Fathers Day and anniversary things for my husband who passed 4 years ago. Its far from attention seeking..Its keeping his memory alive and showing even though he is gone he doesn't have to be forgotten. To say people use grief to seek attention is disgusting.

Majority of people don’t think like that @peakygal sorry for your loss.

Just unfollow or delete people if they are annoying you? I have a friend I went to school with who only ever seem so to come on Facebook to moan, I just unfollowed her, problem solved. By far the most annoying are the MLM people a neighbour I have on my FB is now involved with one and I’ve muted him from for a month and had to block the person who recruited him as somehow he’s managed to send me invites to his webinars not sure how that has happened.

Using the death (or death anniversary) of a loved one as a means of gaining attention for yourself (it’s not for them- they’re dead) on social media is crass and tasteless, I don’t understand those defending it.

So a grieving person who has found a way of remembering their loved one is doing it for "attention" oh give over. You are being incredibly insensitive and sneery about something you clearly know nothing about. Comments are supportive, guess you wouldn't understand how support works based on your attitude

Good old Facebook. One friend is always posting about remembering her aunt, uncle ,gran, dad, great, great great grandad, dog, cat up In heaven always followed by, 'fly high'

Another 'had a great day with the fammamanamlam followed by 150 photos, one of which is the famalam the rest are selfies of her.

I agree with you tbh, FB is full of attention seeking shite, I do not miss it and I don't care if that makes me a grouch.

Using the death (or death anniversary) of a loved one as a means of gaining attention for yourself (it’s not for them- they’re dead) on social media is crass and tasteless, I don’t understand those defending it.

coming up with nasty statements like that says a lot more about you than you think Being jealous of someone who has to deal with unbelievable grief? Really? If you feel left out because you are not in the centre of a tragedy and you are bitter about it, make something out of your own life so you can post about your own achievements. Much healthier attitude than resenting others for something they really didn't want in the first place.

So bloody what if someone is attention seeking?! Does it actually hurt anyone else if someone does something on facebook?

Why shouldn't I wish my daughter a happy birthday in Heaven on facebook and feel comforted that people give a shit enough that she died to send me a virtual hug or a heart or a nice message?! I would LOVE to be able to tell her in person how much I love and miss her and will always wonder who she would be as she grew up but I can't so if I want to I will post a message and the single photo I have of her every year and I will appreciate the kindness of others who send their love.

Unfollow or unfriend if you really don't like what your 'friends' post to their accounts.

Oh @GlittercheeksOakleaf💕💕💕

Logically they know that their small child isn't going to see the post, it's not about that is it? They are just wanting to share a happy occasion.

There are many things that annoy me on fb but this isn't one.

It's a lot more tolerable than couples who write gushy posts to one another even though they're probably sat on the same couch.

It's a harmless thing to be grumpy about, but I agree with you.

Posting about someone (eg I can't believe DC is 4 already) is totally different to the nauseating essays (eg happy 2nd birthday DC. We thought our life was full but when you arrived we finally found the meaning of true love. You make mummy and daddy the happiest parents in the world and we are so proud of you).

it's weirdly satisfying to get angry over this stuff.

that sums it up -some people really have a sad life!

@JaniceWebster

it's weirdly satisfying to get angry over this stuff.

that sums it up -some people really have a sad life!

Agree with this. The fact that people get so annoyed by someone else's grief says a lot about them. I feel sorry for the friends in their life.

I came off Facebook because it irritated me enormously. I feel so relaxed.
I'm old fashioned enough to remember people's birthdays and anniversaries without an fb reminder. I think the whole thing is attention seeking.

I don't go on Facebook much but I do always post a photo of my children on their birthday usually only saying something like "She's 9 today!". I don't know why. I think because most of my family and close friends are many miles away and it's just keeping them updated of big events in our family. I love seeing other people's photos of their families, holidays etc.

I always do @SallyWD, I love celebrating 🥳

God my dad is awful for things like this but then he does also post about every single thing he does and everyone he has a grievance with.

It gets me when he posts happy birthday to my gran (his mum). She’s absolutely not on Facebook and he’s not even nice to her in real life so why bother!

I have a friend who wrote a series of reminders about her DC’s birthday (a youngish child but not a baby) so people could send them a gift/a card or a video message. I think there were about five messages in all including a ‘Two days to go! There’s still time!’

@Thetimehascometochange that would annoy the hell out of me!

Yes she likes borrowing things too. Less during lockdown but she’s still managed a couple of things

After reading this thread, I'm going to be very self-conscious about what I post! Because whatever I post is obviously going to offend someone. Why not just unfollow someone if their posts are so annoying? I've done that myself in the past, it's very easy and better than inwardly seething constantly.

I can only conclude that some people enjoy being angry.

@Thetimehascometochange

I have a friend who wrote a series of reminders about her DC’s birthday (a youngish child but not a baby) so people could send them a gift/a card or a video message. I think there were about five messages in all including a ‘Two days to go! There’s still time!’

Someone on my fb list did the exact same thing. They also post 25 pics a day of the child, then went on a big rant that not everyone on their friends list was liking or commenting on the pics. In the end I ending up unfollowing them.