1 there are 100,000’s of posters they won’t all have the same opinions
2 people tend to post on the threads of the ops they support, I do this myself to a degree. If someone is as I had to, dealing with a cheat then I like to offer support and advice - learning from my mistakes is part of it too.
3 it’s also difficult to stay within talk guidelines or avoid a lambasting yourself if you go on a thread disagreeing with the op vehemently. I have no interest in soothing the egos or providing justification for cheats so I generally don’t post on such threads, whereas other posters who have been cheats themselves or otherwise are sympathetic towards them will.
The observations you made re furlough/benefits I very much agree with. I’m long term sick/disabled and particularly at the start of all this, the threads by people:
1 complaining it wasn’t enough to live on - well they didn’t fucking care when it was others managing on it did they?!
2 expecting they should be treated better/differently because they “weren’t a normal claimant, nobody could have predicted this” - subtext ‘other claimants are lazy scroungers I’m not like them’ was so entitled and arsey! Particularly in the cases of those of us having become sick/disabled very unexpectedly (car accident in my case) nobody bloody predicted that either!! The vast majority of claimants WISH they could work and earn and weren’t reliant on benefits, while also being grateful they exist and yet also feel frustrated at the way the system works and is so difficult to navigate.
That's just simply not true what’s not true? Because women being treated like shit and being oppressed and discriminated against very much IS true!
I try to never be complacent about anything as if life has thought me anything, it's that it will land you on your arse fairly lively. absolutely!
I remember early on in my time on mn reading a post by a woman who honestly and bravely admitted she’d been a “smug married” who totally trusted her husband, didn’t think he’d cheat etc...and she’d just discovered his long term affair! She was understandably devastated, and while I hugely sympathised I must admit I think of her whenever I read a “smug marrieds” post. Foolish to 100% trust ANYONE.
the greatest issue is people who can't put themselves in other people's shoes ugh yes we had a run of those recently “I don’t understand...” threads when really op meant “I don’t approve...”
Very irritating! Comments on “not understanding” why people use convenience foods as “they’re not really cheaper” when a few mins of thought and anyone with common sense and empathy would think that there are multiple reasons why this is easier and actually cheaper for some people.
This includes posters who think EVERYWHERE in the UK is the same as where they live! Particularly true of “townies” I’ve noticed (of which I am one by birth and early childhood, but I can think outside my frame of reference) “surely there’s an Aldi near you” no not everyone lives near or can get to the cheapest shops! Or has decent and cheap public transport or can drive and afford to run a car!
Gimmeay - it IS morally reprehensible because you had no business having anything to do with a married man, even if she didn’t know it will still have damaged his relationship with his wife and you don’t know for definite he couldn’t have caught something from you and given it to her, doesn’t even necessarily need to be a recognised Sti but something like thrush or bv could have been passed on.
ANY Affair is selfish and irresponsible.
My ex’s affair according to him was only meant to be a fling and I wasn’t meant to find out, yet he did fuck all to prevent me finding out really, and the fling aspect ended as soon as she got pregnant, and he was very much putting my health at risk as wasn’t even using condoms!!